A POLL! "Lick My Boots!" BDSM: The Passion, The Lifestyle

Pick your poison.

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[Leohasgone]

xChibi Cannibalx

Long story short, i have a collar i rarely wear any more as i never feel the need. But the other day my boyfriend dug it out of my drawer and put it on me out of no where. He then led me around the apartment to do random things, like cook or put away some games with him. He knows i used to enjoy 'pet play' a while back and never took it a sexual level with my past trainers. What ive never told him is that id really love to take to a sexual level. Ive never told him because i thought he would think it was weird. He put the collar on me again yesterday and kept using it to pull me closer, kiss me passionately, and then release me. He did this several times over the course of a few hours, and i was really starting to enjoy it. I think at this point in time, it would be safe to say he is interested in trying out the kink on some level

But the big question is, how would i ask him? How do i bring up this topic? Would it be better if i initiate past kissing next time he puts it on me?

Something along the lines of "wow I really liked what we did the other day, would you mind doing that again sometime? There are a lot of possibilities." and a big winky face might do the trick?
Although Leo is total s**t at sexytalk so take that with a grain of salt. xD She's more likely to be straight up: "This is what I want and this is what I don't want." And most of what she wants isn't sexual at all so. *shrugs*

[Marquessa_De_SadeFW]

To those looking for jewelry style collars....
This is what is being my wedding present from my partner...I thought I would share it for those that would enjoy a bit of sparkle and victorian glamour in their collars.
https://www.etsy.com/uk/listing/110847158/swarovski-crystal-choker-victorian?ref=favs_view_11

[B o o k i e - c h a n]

Marquessa_De_Sade

To those looking for jewelry style collars....
This is what is being my wedding present from my partner...I thought I would share it for those that would enjoy a bit of sparkle and victorian glamour in their collars.
https://www.etsy.com/uk/listing/110847158/swarovski-crystal-choker-victorian?ref=favs_view_11

Wow, that is beautiful!! emotion_kirakira
And lots of sparkle indeed!
I've never really seen this kind of style of collars before.

[5th Dimension Morning]

Leolilac

xChibi Cannibalx

Long story short, i have a collar i rarely wear any more as i never feel the need. But the other day my boyfriend dug it out of my drawer and put it on me out of no where. He then led me around the apartment to do random things, like cook or put away some games with him. He knows i used to enjoy 'pet play' a while back and never took it a sexual level with my past trainers. What ive never told him is that id really love to take to a sexual level. Ive never told him because i thought he would think it was weird. He put the collar on me again yesterday and kept using it to pull me closer, kiss me passionately, and then release me. He did this several times over the course of a few hours, and i was really starting to enjoy it. I think at this point in time, it would be safe to say he is interested in trying out the kink on some level

But the big question is, how would i ask him? How do i bring up this topic? Would it be better if i initiate past kissing next time he puts it on me?

Something along the lines of "wow I really liked what we did the other day, would you mind doing that again sometime? There are a lot of possibilities." and a big winky face might do the trick?
Although Leo is total s**t at sexytalk so take that with a grain of salt. xD She's more likely to be straight up: "This is what I want and this is what I don't want." And most of what she wants isn't sexual at all so. *shrugs*

as a very sexual person, I can confirm that you got it right, Leo; being direct is the best way to ask the question. I mean, clearly if Chibi's boyfriend was enjoying leading her around in a Collar, he is probably open to the idea of kinky sexytimes. that little activity is the perfect icebreaker. smile bringing it up when asking is the best way to go about it, I think.

[5th Dimension Morning]

Marquessa_De_Sade

To those looking for jewelry style collars....
This is what is being my wedding present from my partner...I thought I would share it for those that would enjoy a bit of sparkle and victorian glamour in their collars.
https://www.etsy.com/uk/listing/110847158/swarovski-crystal-choker-victorian?ref=favs_view_11

oh, wow! that's regal! eek

[Mistress Lithias kitten]

xChibi Cannibalx

Long story short, i have a collar i rarely wear any more as i never feel the need. But the other day my boyfriend dug it out of my drawer and put it on me out of no where. He then led me around the apartment to do random things, like cook or put away some games with him. He knows i used to enjoy 'pet play' a while back and never took it a sexual level with my past trainers. What ive never told him is that id really love to take to a sexual level. Ive never told him because i thought he would think it was weird. He put the collar on me again yesterday and kept using it to pull me closer, kiss me passionately, and then release me. He did this several times over the course of a few hours, and i was really starting to enjoy it. I think at this point in time, it would be safe to say he is interested in trying out the kink on some level

But the big question is, how would i ask him? How do i bring up this topic? Would it be better if i initiate past kissing next time he puts it on me?

Tell him something like 'When you did that the other day, it was a real turn on. Would you be interested in playing more with the collar?' If he is interested then you can sit down and have an open and honest discussion about it. Honesty and openness are always so important in a strong relationship.

[Mistress Lithias kitten]

Marquessa_De_Sade

To those looking for jewelry style collars....
This is what is being my wedding present from my partner...I thought I would share it for those that would enjoy a bit of sparkle and victorian glamour in their collars.
https://www.etsy.com/uk/listing/110847158/swarovski-crystal-choker-victorian?ref=favs_view_11

Oooo so pretty! And thankees for the congrats on the baby. i was secretly hoping for a girl so we could honor Mistress's sister with using her first name as our baby's middle name.

[whateverfloats]

Mystic White Raven

When one says a Dom does not want what the sub does not want is a bit misleading. It might be something the Dom enjoys personally, but, knowing the sub does not like it (assuming it is a hard limit) the Dom would refrain from that activity with that sub, even though he may enjoy it. If the activity was a need for the Dom, he or she would need to find a different outlet for it.

Yes, but I was going a titch further. A good dom should not just refrain from doing that thing they like, but they should readily and willingly avoid doing anything their sub is not okay with. They shouldn't refrain begrudgingly. They should happily and readily refrain because they respect and care about their partner's well-being.

[xChibi Cannibalx]

Leolilac

xChibi Cannibalx

Long story short, i have a collar i rarely wear any more as i never feel the need. But the other day my boyfriend dug it out of my drawer and put it on me out of no where. He then led me around the apartment to do random things, like cook or put away some games with him. He knows i used to enjoy 'pet play' a while back and never took it a sexual level with my past trainers. What ive never told him is that id really love to take to a sexual level. Ive never told him because i thought he would think it was weird. He put the collar on me again yesterday and kept using it to pull me closer, kiss me passionately, and then release me. He did this several times over the course of a few hours, and i was really starting to enjoy it. I think at this point in time, it would be safe to say he is interested in trying out the kink on some level

But the big question is, how would i ask him? How do i bring up this topic? Would it be better if i initiate past kissing next time he puts it on me?

Something along the lines of "wow I really liked what we did the other day, would you mind doing that again sometime? There are a lot of possibilities." and a big winky face might do the trick?
Although Leo is total s**t at sexytalk so take that with a grain of salt. xD She's more likely to be straight up: "This is what I want and this is what I don't want." And most of what she wants isn't sexual at all so. *shrugs*

I wish i could be that brave XD We both talk often about what we like and dont like, but were both a little shy when it comes to trying new things. I think i will tell him something along those lines though, thank you ^^

[5th Dimension Morning]

whateverfloats

Mystic White Raven

When one says a Dom does not want what the sub does not want is a bit misleading. It might be something the Dom enjoys personally, but, knowing the sub does not like it (assuming it is a hard limit) the Dom would refrain from that activity with that sub, even though he may enjoy it. If the activity was a need for the Dom, he or she would need to find a different outlet for it.

Yes, but I was going a titch further. A good dom should not just refrain from doing that thing they like, but they should readily and willingly avoid doing anything their sub is not okay with. They shouldn't refrain begrudgingly. They should happily and readily refrain because they respect and care about their partner's well-being.

of course, openly talking about things is also important. because yes, boundaries can change or shift, particularly if it's with somebody you trust. but the important thing to stress is that nothing should ever be pushed or pressured, and nobody should ever feel like they owe anybody anything.

[Leohasgone]

xChibi Cannibalx

Leolilac

xChibi Cannibalx

Long story short, i have a collar i rarely wear any more as i never feel the need. But the other day my boyfriend dug it out of my drawer and put it on me out of no where. He then led me around the apartment to do random things, like cook or put away some games with him. He knows i used to enjoy 'pet play' a while back and never took it a sexual level with my past trainers. What ive never told him is that id really love to take to a sexual level. Ive never told him because i thought he would think it was weird. He put the collar on me again yesterday and kept using it to pull me closer, kiss me passionately, and then release me. He did this several times over the course of a few hours, and i was really starting to enjoy it. I think at this point in time, it would be safe to say he is interested in trying out the kink on some level

But the big question is, how would i ask him? How do i bring up this topic? Would it be better if i initiate past kissing next time he puts it on me?

Something along the lines of "wow I really liked what we did the other day, would you mind doing that again sometime? There are a lot of possibilities." and a big winky face might do the trick?
Although Leo is total s**t at sexytalk so take that with a grain of salt. xD She's more likely to be straight up: "This is what I want and this is what I don't want." And most of what she wants isn't sexual at all so. *shrugs*

I wish i could be that brave XD We both talk often about what we like and dont like, but were both a little shy when it comes to trying new things. I think i will tell him something along those lines though, thank you ^^

Leo is shy too. 3nodding She spends a lot of time formulating exactly what she's gonna say and chewing on it for a while before she spits it out. She tries to be super direct because she worries about being misinterpreted.

[vicy_302]

Hello wonderful people!
I have come to ask if anyone would be able to suggest some fem-dom related novels? Preferably from the dom's POV.

[MoviesAndPopcorn]

hey everyone! I'm a top. cool to see this thread. it's nice to meet everyone