A POLL! "Lick My Boots!" BDSM: The Passion, The Lifestyle

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[The Best User Ever]

nightwolf714

The Best User Ever

Hey guys, who remembers me?

So I'm 17 now, legal in two years. I'm still unsure about the lifestyle, but its really only for the reason that I've never had a girlfriend and I've been advised that my first relationship shouldn't be a kinky one. Problem is it's unlikely I'll be in a vanilla one anytime soon, and I can't just get a girlfriend then dump her a** after a year or so.

What do? I know it's rather stupid to be asking but I figured, "Why not?".

OoOo, I do! I do! hehe. How have you been? And don't forget, you can start out vanilla and then turn kinky later. That's what me and my Alpha did, as well as many of the others. ^_^

I've been depress, but this isn't a self-help thread. xd

That's true, but I've forgotten about that. However I'm unsure how I can turn someone into a dominatrix. And what if she was the sub? I could top her to make her happy, but I'm not sure if that'd work either.

[Blackrose_Knight]

*Coughs* Furry discussion belongs elsewhere. Last general warning dears.

@Best User Ever: Hiya and welcome back! With the attaining a gf issue. Who says when you turn of age it has to stay vanilla? pirate That is how my Dom and I started out.

[SmexyFur]

nightwolf714

Because we can? What more is needed to explain? I just explained one reason why people draw yiff and anthros in general. And besides that, even if you did find anthros sexy that does not mean that you find animals sexy or have sex with animals. It's different, simply put. If it's not your thing, that's fine. But it's not cool to be disrespectful just because you're not into it, ya know.

Sorry if I seem aggressive on the subject. When one hears this sort of thing a lot, they tend to get a little defensive. It's kinda the whole "which came first, the chicken or the egg" type of deal with furries and furry-haters. :/ I've actually had more trouble online for being a furry than for being into BDSM. >_<

Anyways, here's a link to my ref sheet. It's on FA, so I'm not sure if it will load for you or not. http://www.furaffinity.net/view/2495144/

I wouldn't consider myself a furry-hater... I'm actually trying to be more accepting... I feel in my heart as though I'm a bad person because I can't accept these furry people into my circle of friends or something... I can't explain why... I just... Well, there are multiple reasons.

The main one, it's stupid but... I feel as though fur people aren't creative. I see furry art and it never really seems very interesting to me, but the community adores it like it was the best kind, even if it's not... I guess I'm jealous, because my art sucks and I want people to like it... Like, looking at your character, there's nothing "extravagant" about it, but it's simple and pretty... (The page loaded, that;s why I say this.) I like it, but I can't see myself doing things like it, because I always try to over-complicate things.

Though I can't say all furry art is like this... Some is amazing...

I guess my thing is mainly about the art... Seeing furry-ized versions of my favorite characters makes me go, "Why?"

I think the reason for you having trouble is because of 4Chan. They hate furries with a passion. D: Like, they kill people. And they're all over the internet. If Gaia wasn't so hard on trolls I think there'd be a lot of 4Channers here flaming. And they love BDSM related things, so I see why someone like you would have a hard time. D:

I don't know, my mind is unclear... I'm sorry if I offended. I really want to be able to accept these people but I am stuck! Help me? I'm so lost...

[nightwolf714]

Sorry for going off topic, Rosie.

And you'd be surprised. Just talk to them about it along the way. It's not a matter of "turning" them into a Dom, but rather helping them discover that part of them if they have it.

[The Best User Ever]

nightwolf714

Sorry for going off topic, Rosie.

And you'd be surprised. Just talk to them about it along the way. It's not a matter of "turning" them into a Dom, but rather helping them discover that part of them if they have it.

And if they don't...?

[SmexyFur]

Blackrose_Knight

*Coughs* Furry discussion belongs elsewhere. Last general warning dears.

@Best User Ever: Hiya and welcome back! With the attaining a gf issue. Who says when you turn of age it has to stay vanilla? pirate That is how my Dom and I started out.

s**t, alright.
Well, it's... Sort of related? We were talking about sexual things...

But I don't want mods to rush in and yell at us, so we'll move.

Shall we take this to the chat thing? (I accidentally posted that last one. Oops.)

[Blackrose_Knight]

The Best User Ever

nightwolf714

Sorry for going off topic, Rosie.

And you'd be surprised. Just talk to them about it along the way. It's not a matter of "turning" them into a Dom, but rather helping them discover that part of them if they have it.

And if they don't...?

Express you wish to try it, and if they don't wish to try it you need to seek a relationship elsewhere. If you don't match up sexually you don't match up. You can hammer all you like but you won't neatly push a square peg into a round hole, not even with copious lube amounts.

@ Smexy: I would suggest taking it to PM to be honest.

[The Best User Ever]

Hm, I see.

So what's the bad part about seeking a Mistress or Master right away?

[SmexyFur]

I never really was
On your side...

Alright, that's cool with me.
I enjoy talking to you... I'm hoping I can learn some things and hopefully learn to be more open minded... D:

[nightwolf714]

@ SmexyFur: Forgiven and I'm sorry for being aggressive as well. Actually, Gaia use to be a lot worse with trolls in general. And while there are still some that pop up once in a while, they don't stay for long. That is why BDSM threads have been able to appear and flour now, and even the furries have made a few gains. smile

And thank you for the compliment. smile

It's hard to accept people when you don't get it. Not only furries but other people. It's a problem many of us deal with. And this is also true with BDSM (see the smooth way of putting it on topic, hehe). Littles, those into pet play, other subs, Doms, slaves, and Masters. When we don't understand why they think the way they do, we get confused and it's hard to accept them.

It's hard, but it's something we have to do. It's not fair to the others if they are doing something that isn't wrong but we can't accept them.

[nightwolf714]

The Best User Ever

Hm, I see.

So what's the bad part about seeking a Mistress or Master right away?

Well, in your case it's that you can't do the kink stuff, including the D/s part. You would have the temptation to shift into that type of relationship before you are of age. Laws suck, huh?

[Blackrose_Knight]

The Best User Ever

Hm, I see.

So what's the bad part about seeking a Mistress or Master right away?

Ya know, I can't tell you specifically, but I can tell you rushing into anything is a bad idea; be it relationship or painting. I would take time to read, and research things you like, and don't like. Nothing like being half way through an enema and then you freak out......
Taking things slow gives you time to think, prioritize, to learn..ect. The whole learn to walk before you run thing...

[The Best User Ever]

nightwolf714

The Best User Ever

Hm, I see.

So what's the bad part about seeking a Mistress or Master right away?

Well, in your case it's that you can't do the kink stuff, including the D/s part. You would have the temptation to shift into that type of relationship before you are of age. Laws suck, huh?

Well I mean when I turn 19. xd

Gotta go guys, I'll be back later.

[SmexyFur]

nightwolf714

@ SmexyFur: Forgiven and I'm sorry for being aggressive as well. Actually, Gaia use to be a lot worse with trolls in general. And while there are still some that pop up once in a while, they don't stay for long. That is why BDSM threads have been able to appear and flour now, and even the furries have made a few gains. smile

And thank you for the compliment. smile

It's hard to accept people when you don't get it. Not only furries but other people. It's a problem many of us deal with. And this is also true with BDSM (see the smooth way of putting it on topic, hehe). Littles, those into pet play, other subs, Doms, slaves, and Masters. When we don't understand why they think the way they do, we get confused and it's hard to accept them.

It's hard, but it's something we have to do. It's not fair to the others if they are doing something that isn't wrong but we can't accept them.

I see... I agree...

It reminds me of this one time when we were talking about psychos... People with mental disorders aren't that way because they chose it, that's just how their mind developed... Through experience, right? So I guess since I haven't had much experience with furries, my mind doesn't think like one, right?

Another thing I've though about is that if I were to "get into" furry art and actually participate in the community, I wouldn't be able to avoid the things I don't like about them... Ever. Because a large majority of furry people like yiff and porn and stuff like that... So that's one of the reasons I feel weird speaking to them... D:

I haven't really had any experience with BDSM, either, but I guess that's a little different. I can't exactly say how, but it is.

I still feel strange, but I think the feeling will pass... Soon. My mind is mixed up!

I'm gonna go write more of my RP with my friend.

[Calixti]

So, let's talk BDSM in mainstream media! My two favourite positive depictions are, easily, Adam Lambert's 'For Your Entertainment' and Castle 2x16, 'The Mistress Always Spanks Twice.'

The music video for the song:


The Castle episode:
It's strongly implied repeatedly throughout the episode that the female lead, Det. Kate Beckett, is kinky. LOVELOVELOVE. Beckett is awesome and that made me crush on her SO much harder. Also *spoilers that I don't quite fully remember* the murder victim was a professional domme and writing her thesis on BDSM. And her reason for getting into it in the first place? She was hoping to take what she learned from it to help her leave a dangerous codependent relationship. I loved seeing it as a form of empowerment, and seeing how the murder victim was a full person with a well-rounded life--a nice change from kinksters being creepy freaks, imo.