Alek_Gordon
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- Posted: Mon, 04 Feb 2013 21:40:11 +0000
I've only had two real relationships in my life, one with my high school sweetheart and my current one with my wife. It’s been six years today since my high school ex and I broke up and I know this might sound offensive but I still think about her sexually from time to time.
This girl was very beautiful and sexy, and I did a lot of sexually exciting things with her. It got to a point were we almost got caught a few times doing our sexual exploits in school. Later she broke up with me to go back with her ex. I was really affected and it took me a while before I dated someone again.
Then I met my wife. I love my wife very much and we are very happy with each other, but when it comes to sex, I don't feel satisfied. I do enjoy it, but I would rather do some of the exciting things I did with my ex. (My wife doesn't want to of course.) So every once in a while I find myself getting off on the memories of my past sexual exploits with my ex. I try using porn so I don't think of her, but she still keeps popping in my head whenever I'm about to climax. Lately I've been thinking about contacting her, and I don't want to do that, but I feel myself slipping into that direction soon if I don't do something about this. Can anyone here give me his or her thoughts about this?
Update(2/5/13):
Thanks for all the responses everyone. I will take this advice to heart and not contact my ex. I really love my wife and I want to work out these sexual frustrations with her. For those who asked what I was into with my ex. We did a lot of a**l play, sex in dangerous places(like in the movies or in her grandma's pool) and sex slave roleplaying. I tried suggesting those things to my wife but she just wants to keep doing what we do all the time which is sex in the missionary position. So you can see why I still fantasize about my ex. I will however try mentioning sex therapy and see if that can work. If you still have any advice about this situation or wanna add something more I will greatly appreciated it. Thanks again.
This girl was very beautiful and sexy, and I did a lot of sexually exciting things with her. It got to a point were we almost got caught a few times doing our sexual exploits in school. Later she broke up with me to go back with her ex. I was really affected and it took me a while before I dated someone again.
Then I met my wife. I love my wife very much and we are very happy with each other, but when it comes to sex, I don't feel satisfied. I do enjoy it, but I would rather do some of the exciting things I did with my ex. (My wife doesn't want to of course.) So every once in a while I find myself getting off on the memories of my past sexual exploits with my ex. I try using porn so I don't think of her, but she still keeps popping in my head whenever I'm about to climax. Lately I've been thinking about contacting her, and I don't want to do that, but I feel myself slipping into that direction soon if I don't do something about this. Can anyone here give me his or her thoughts about this?
Update(2/5/13):
Thanks for all the responses everyone. I will take this advice to heart and not contact my ex. I really love my wife and I want to work out these sexual frustrations with her. For those who asked what I was into with my ex. We did a lot of a**l play, sex in dangerous places(like in the movies or in her grandma's pool) and sex slave roleplaying. I tried suggesting those things to my wife but she just wants to keep doing what we do all the time which is sex in the missionary position. So you can see why I still fantasize about my ex. I will however try mentioning sex therapy and see if that can work. If you still have any advice about this situation or wanna add something more I will greatly appreciated it. Thanks again.