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Ok I have known my bff since 3rd grade and we have alot in common. However though no one likes her. I mean NO ONE. When she was little she was bossy, mean, and too different. Well anyway yesterday when we were going to lunch one of my friends said they saved a seat for me (not my bff) My friend said she won't sit there so she sat somewhere else. I sat there. they said "You should sit here more often." I enjoyed lunch but my bff was sad. I really want to sit with my other friends but they don't like my bff and she dosen't like them either, also I dn't want my bff to think I left her in the dust. PLEASE HELP AND BE SERIOUS
 
     
 
You and your friend, are you both really close?
Don't ditch her just because no one else likes her. She doesn't have many friends and probably really values you.
You could try to save a seat for her at this new table. Maybe let these other people see that she's not such a terrible person as she was when she was little.
     
 
     
 
 
 
(( Stay with your best friend; the others have each other and no one deserves to be alone for being themselves. ))
 
 
 
 
     
 
 
I agree with purveyor. Don't ditch your bff for people who wont accept who she is. Besides it will hurt her worse if you ditch her because of who she really is.
     
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Lol seriously
     
Why not do both? Sit with your bff most of the time, but maybe once or twice a week sit with the rest of your friends.
 
     
 
Maybe you should stop sitting with your friend, and sit with the nicer ones.

I met my old best friend in 1st grade, twelve years ago. She was a b***h when she was 6, and was a b***h when she was 18. Somebody should have taught her a lesson early on, but nobody had the guts to.

Fix this problem before it gets worse.
     
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Your friend said she won't sit there, so there's her share of the responsibility. It's not realistic for anyone to expect you to alienate other friends for the sake of one friend, even if she is very close to you. It's not healthy, either, because you obviously do enjoy being social and you shouldn't deny yourself that. Either sit with her a few times a week, or ask your other friends to give her a chance-- and ask your best friend to give them a chance too. If she's really changed from when she was younger, she should have a shot at proving that. If they still don't get along, spit up your days and don't feel bad about it. You're no one's property and there's no need to slight people just because you travel in different circles.
 
     
 
And will you tell all your friends..

Who do you like better? Sit with who you have a better time at lunch with.

..You've got your gun to my head.
     
that happened to me. i switched tables to sit with my bff after two weeks or so, and were still best friends. i dont know what id do without her.
 
     
 
I hold best friendship as a sanctity like marriage. (Not that marriages are that greats now-a-days rolleyes )

Your best friend comes above all. And thats not to say you shouldnt worry about yourself, because if you're real best friends your bf will want to to be extremely happy and successful and always stand besides you. If your best friend is really upset you should want to do everything you can to help ease that. HOWEVER your best friend should also understand that you want other friends, and help you with that.

Have a talk with her and see why she wont give them a chance. Let her know you really have fun with them but you want her to have fun with you. If she refuses to give them a chance and tries to make you feel guilty then she's not a good best friend. However if she has a good reason for not liking them, like they make fun of her sometimes, or are mean to her, you should stay with your bf. Why on earth would you want to be friends with someone who treats your best friend badly?

     


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