Miyuki Yoshida
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- Posted: Sat, 28 Nov 2009 04:32:31 +0000
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Your last quote betrays the real impact you have had on her. If Ashley is willing to hate her best friend and constant emotional caretaker who's done a lot more for her than you could ever hope to do, just because of his attitude towards your relationship, that speaks volumes about how you've affected her attitudes towards both life and her friends, particularly those who unlike you really do care about her well-being. I have yet to witness you ever respond to a situation involving her in a way that did not in some way favor yourself. You act emotionally supportive when it will make her want you more, and when it comes time to make a strong choice in terms of whether you respect her, such as the cam/phone/cyber issue, you choose the one that benefits yourself rather than the one that a person who really DID respect her would choose.
And to be quite honest, the degree of my loyalty as someone who cared what happened to her was such that I was more than willing to have her hate me and wreck our friendship if it meant she'd stop letting some guy use her. The fact is, Travis, that the reason you chose her had nothing to do with any particular knowledge you have of her or any particular attachment or closeness. It's because you've never known someone as supportive, as tolerant, and probably as intelligent. You've also never known someone as naive, as vulnerable, or as easy to pick up as she was at the time. You wanted something different, but not out of respect for her, just out of what you wanted for yourself. I do not even know for certain that you *aren't* messing around with anybody else near you, but even if you aren't, I've known guys like you my entire life. I grew up with two of them and overheard countless others in locker rooms and on sports fields and in hallways, dorms and workplaces. There are people who will do that sort of thing just because their ego demands knowing that they could "get" a truly good girl instead of just one they could play with (although with what you've done to Ashley's attitudes about things, I have no doubt she'd let you play her at this point). And quite frankly your behavior and the change in her behavior since she's known you indicate that's exactly what you are.
And to be quite honest, the degree of my loyalty as someone who cared what happened to her was such that I was more than willing to have her hate me and wreck our friendship if it meant she'd stop letting some guy use her. The fact is, Travis, that the reason you chose her had nothing to do with any particular knowledge you have of her or any particular attachment or closeness. It's because you've never known someone as supportive, as tolerant, and probably as intelligent. You've also never known someone as naive, as vulnerable, or as easy to pick up as she was at the time. You wanted something different, but not out of respect for her, just out of what you wanted for yourself. I do not even know for certain that you *aren't* messing around with anybody else near you, but even if you aren't, I've known guys like you my entire life. I grew up with two of them and overheard countless others in locker rooms and on sports fields and in hallways, dorms and workplaces. There are people who will do that sort of thing just because their ego demands knowing that they could "get" a truly good girl instead of just one they could play with (although with what you've done to Ashley's attitudes about things, I have no doubt she'd let you play her at this point). And quite frankly your behavior and the change in her behavior since she's known you indicate that's exactly what you are.
Sorry if I'm butting in again but maybe you're just jealous that she's spending more time with this guy than you.You may think she's turning into a different person but she really isn't. I remember reading a book about the way people's mind work and one part was about jealousy it said that people think others behaviors would be different. They would keep thinking that person behavior was different but really they were just lying to themselves and believing their own lie.
