Oni no Tenshi
If your dad doesn't listen to you, it means that you're not communicating with him in a way that will make him listen to you. Shrieking and fighting with him will close him down right away and it makes you look like a bratty immature child.
What are you going to do when your boss in your future job says something you don't like? Are you seriously going to cuss them out and fight against them and say hurtful things and think that this will somehow grant you "your way"?
The truth of the matter is that you need to learn how to diffuse your anger and your frustration and appear calm and straightforward. You can't let your emotions get all messy and lose control because then you just look like an idiotic child. Even if I wanted to smack my mom and dad for being idiots when they told me I couldn't go to a party with my friends, I simply took a deep breath, looked them in the eye cooly and asked them what I needed to do to prove that the party would be safe for me to go to. Turns out, that they just wanted to speak to the parents of my friend and I was allowed to go to the party, even though there turned out to be drinking and pot smoking (neither of which were things I was interested in anyway).
If you can be the one to take the high road and be calm when your parents are looking like idiots, then they will realize that they are the ones out of control and YOU are the mature one. And once you have established your trustworthiness, there is almost nothing that you can't ask of them that they won't allow.
I admit, that I have lost control before in front of my parents. And I've watched them shut right off and get mad and attack me right back.
There is a saying that you catch more flies with honey than vinegar.
Use this to your advantage so that you can more easily get what you want.
Of course, you can be an idiot and learn the hard way, but I guarantee it won't be fun, easy, or foster a good relationship with your parents.
Oni wanna know what?
That's the EXACT issue I have right now only it involves me and my sister.
See, a week ago I have a huge falling out with my little sister (who BTW is 6 years younger than me) who
exploded on me at 2 o'clock in the morning, because I accidentally dropped something in my room.
See, we have rooms that are shared by a single wall, and because I'm usually the one who stays up almost all night while she sleeps, I tend to tiptoe around the house (usually for a drink or snack) and make some sort of miniscule noises, negligable, really. I have a different wake/sleep pattern than she does because I do all my HW for the night and have classes that start in the afternoon, so I can finish my work all night, wake up, and drive to school with work completed. However, I left something in my car and tiptoed to go get it, but when I brought the 40-50 Ilbs of stuff in, the bag dropped by accident and my sis flew outta bed in rage and screamed at my door (which btw I locked before she got outta bed) and telling me to "keep it down" (I was being quiet as insanely possible, though). But because I locked the door, she started crying and screaming about "threatening to wake mom up" and saying "do you want me to ******** destroy your property!? You WANT this HAPPENING!?"
I mean for cripes sake, she's ********
nineteen!
Anywho, my sis wakes mom up, mom comes all stressed and crying, while my sis blames how "I make too much noise" and that "I'm a lazy-a** slacker, with no job and no motivation" (I go to effin SJSU for crying out out and struggling to find employment) and says "why she's the one with 12 class units, 6 commities, a senate position, volunteer job, and barista job at Starbucks--paying for everything, while "I'm an immature 25-year-old c**t who moved back in and needs to move out again."
My sis was crying and making some big stink about how there should be a house rule where EVERYONE has to go to bed at the same time and saying she'll scream in rage if it's not enforced.
My sis says she's trying to "make me understand her position" and telling me that this is what's going to make me respect her because of her heinous lifestyle. Of course, when she acts this way, it does NOT make me wanna respect her, it's gonna make me AFRAID of her.
I don't wanna live in fear of this situation. But since this was so out-of-control of what she did, my parents told HER it was time for her to move out, since she seems to have more money than I do and can completely take car of herself, she complied.
We never can get along since our lifestyles were clashing, though I'm trying to comply. She still attacks me though even though I was trying to be calm and level-headed about the situation,
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