What do you think about over protective parents?

[xXMidniteDawnXx]

Little Miss Despair

xXMidniteDawnXx

Little Miss Despair

*leaves this thread* I was being sympathetic by nature, but now you really are sounding like a brat. Just get over it.

okayy, how were you being sympathetic? and how am I being a brat?

see my first post on this thread.

Ohh, i did't see that

[Oni no Tenshi]

xXMidniteDawnXx

But I don't see how I'm being a brat? Because I don't like it when my dad wont listen to me? Because I fight back? Because I get tired of crying three or four times a week? I don't get it.

If your dad doesn't listen to you, it means that you're not communicating with him in a way that will make him listen to you. Shrieking and fighting with him will close him down right away and it makes you look like a bratty immature child.

What are you going to do when your boss in your future job says something you don't like? Are you seriously going to cuss them out and fight against them and say hurtful things and think that this will somehow grant you "your way"?

The truth of the matter is that you need to learn how to diffuse your anger and your frustration and appear calm and straightforward. You can't let your emotions get all messy and lose control because then you just look like an idiotic child. Even if I wanted to smack my mom and dad for being idiots when they told me I couldn't go to a party with my friends, I simply took a deep breath, looked them in the eye cooly and asked them what I needed to do to prove that the party would be safe for me to go to. Turns out, that they just wanted to speak to the parents of my friend and I was allowed to go to the party, even though there turned out to be drinking and pot smoking (neither of which were things I was interested in anyway).

If you can be the one to take the high road and be calm when your parents are looking like idiots, then they will realize that they are the ones out of control and YOU are the mature one. And once you have established your trustworthiness, there is almost nothing that you can't ask of them that they won't allow.

I admit, that I have lost control before in front of my parents. And I've watched them shut right off and get mad and attack me right back.

There is a saying that you catch more flies with honey than vinegar.

Use this to your advantage so that you can more easily get what you want.

Of course, you can be an idiot and learn the hard way, but I guarantee it won't be fun, easy, or foster a good relationship with your parents.

It's your choice.

Oni out.

[monika20]

It sounds to me like he has control issues. And from my experiences, I've concluded there's nothing you can do about it. It's nearly impossible to get old people to change their way of thinking....

[xCasondra]

My father is overprotective. I'm 20 years old and he still seems to feel he has the right to control me. I understand doing chores = necessary.

My friend came to visit me and he was worried that I'd have sex with him and started screaming at me about it. I had no intention of having sex with my best friend, and I feel it's come down to really, that parents do not trust their children.

I can't blame them. Once children get to a certain age, we become secretive and tend to do things under the radar. Some parents go overboard, and others are too lenient. I personally feel the best way to reinforce children is to show them that you love them even if they make stupid mistakes, and that making mistakes can be avoided with advice. Forcing kids to live out what the parent wants is unfair to the child.

I feel I missed a huge chunk of my child hood because I didn't get to experience parties or making out with strangers, or even getting drunk. Though these things have little meaning later in life, it's the experience, knowing you had a normal childhood that I missed the most.

The underlying pressure that parents feel is that they overly love their children and the only way they feel they can properly show it is by discipline and having their children avoid the mistakes they made.

Take what you will, but understand that he's not doing it to be mean, he just doesn't know how to show it in any other way. Try writing letters to him and explain how you truly feel, and then have him reply in a letter that way there is no screaming, just coherent organized thoughts about the subject at hand.

[Countess Erzebeth Bathory]

It depends on how old you are...
I don't know what your age is, but as a parent, I don't know why a kid would want to put up pictures of themselves in the internet.
Maybe he peers over your shoulder while you're writing things because he's curious or he thinks it's his only way of learning more about your personal life.
When he does that you should just tell him it's private and if there's anything he'd like to know, he should just ask.
Living with your mother you haven't seen since you were 8 doesn't sound like such a good idea.
I had not seen my father in 8 years and when we've started talking, it's like we're from two different worlds...
And how is it his fault that you haven't seen your mother?
If she made the intent to actually see you, she would.

[Luke Steel]

xXMidniteDawnXx

YOU PEOPLE ARE BEING LITTLE BRATS THINKING I'M SOME KIND IF S**T!!!

Hey, guys, we're little brats now! :,D

[Batman doesnt cry]

xXMidniteDawnXx

My dad is really over protective and it's really starting to get on my nerves. I never used to notice till now, because I'm getting older, and dad thinks it's because of my new school. He threatens to send me to a catholic school, he won't let me put my picture up on the internet( a fully clothed picture for all those thinking I'm a s**t), I can't write in my diary without him peering over my shoulder. He's also mean, telling my I'm a brat, mean, and cruel. I don't know how to deal with this. When ever I tell him he say "Oh, no I'm not, I'm being a good dad." same gos for when I tell him he's mean, he says "No, I'll have to tell you, I'm a very nice and caring person." I want to tell him I want to live with my mom (who I haven't seen scene I was 8 or so) but then he'll talk about her, and I don't wanna her him talk in his annoying voice about how everything with my mom is none of his fault when it is. What are your thoughts on this? Do you have an over protective or mean parent? If so, please tell us about it.

EDIT: Anyone who says I just want to put naked pictures of myself up, is soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo wrong! And will be reported.

'm sorry about your father. My advice would be find a pay phone after school,assuming your area still has one, call your mom and explain everything that tis happening.

If you really think it's the best idea to live with your mother report any emotion abuse to a school counseler. Ina public school they must report it to CPS.

If there is any physical abuse, document it with pictures, and show it to your teachers or doctor before the bruises fade.

If you are fifteen or over you have a big say in who you live with acording to the court.


Oh and uh, my name's Rose and I'm here to help. One of my brother's and my father were abusive so I understand where you are coming from,hon. If you need to talk just pm me.

[Unloved Crayon]

I understand about the posting pics of you thing
Other then that, your dads just a nut case

[LilPandaGirl1x]

i mean my aunts uncles and my parents their all protective to every kid in my family,but sometimes we ignore and my cousins and I just ignore them and we protect each other

[That_comic_guy]

xXMidniteDawnXx

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WTF IS WRONG WITH YOU PEOPLE!!!! YALL ARE FREAKIN CRAZY!!!!! I DON'T WANT TO PUT NAKED PICTURES ON MYSELF UP!!! I WAS JUST USING THAT TO ADD ON CAUSE ALL MY FRIENDS CAN!!!! YOU PEOPLE ARE BEING LITTLE BRATS THINKING I'M SOME KIND IF S**T!!! MY DAD IS JUST REALLY OVER PROTECTIVE AND IT'S MAKING ME FREAKIN MAD!!! TAKE OUT THE PART ABOUT THE FREAKIN PICTURES IDC! HE STILL ACTS OVER PROTECTIVE AND THATS ALL I'M FREAKIN SAYING!!!!!!!!!

cap locks you are abusing them. I wish your father would disable them now. You are a brat. Like others have said you sound like a spoiled ungrateful brat. FYI the friends you have now won't mean s**t in a few year anyway kid.

Trust me been there and don't that.

Reading through this post, I feel your father should just start smacking the crap out of you. You sound utterly annoying to be around.

[Wheelbarrow of Dicks]

You're a ******** teenager. Your dad can say whatever the ******** he wants. He's your dad and he makes the ******** rules, don't like it get the ******** out. He's not being overprotective, it's normal for dads to be somewhat protective of their girls.

[That_comic_guy]

Sexual Chocolat

You're a ******** teenager. Your dad can say whatever the ******** he wants. He's your dad and he makes the ******** rules, don't like it get the ******** out. He's not being overprotective, it's normal for dads to be somewhat protective of their girls.

This is probably one of the better post you have made thus far.

[Wheelbarrow of Dicks]

That_comic_guy

Sexual Chocolat

You're a ******** teenager. Your dad can say whatever the ******** he wants. He's your dad and he makes the ******** rules, don't like it get the ******** out. He's not being overprotective, it's normal for dads to be somewhat protective of their girls.

This is probably one of the better post you have made thus far.

Are you ******** WATCHIN me? O_o

[That_comic_guy]

Sexual Chocolat

That_comic_guy

Sexual Chocolat

You're a ******** teenager. Your dad can say whatever the ******** he wants. He's your dad and he makes the ******** rules, don't like it get the ******** out. He's not being overprotective, it's normal for dads to be somewhat protective of their girls.

This is probably one of the better post you have made thus far.

Are you ******** WATCHIN me? O_o

The Ed is slow after midnight PST. It's like three people posting atm.

[Wheelbarrow of Dicks]

That_comic_guy

Sexual Chocolat

That_comic_guy

Sexual Chocolat

You're a ******** teenager. Your dad can say whatever the ******** he wants. He's your dad and he makes the ******** rules, don't like it get the ******** out. He's not being overprotective, it's normal for dads to be somewhat protective of their girls.

This is probably one of the better post you have made thus far.

Are you ******** WATCHIN me? O_o

The Ed is slow after midnight PST. It's like three people posting atm.

Gotcha.