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Little Miss Despair *leaves this thread* I was being sympathetic by nature, but now you really are sounding like a brat. Just get over it. okayy, how were you being sympathetic? and how am I being a brat? |
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Oni no Tenshi Tell him that Catholic school is where they sell the hard drugs and there's a lot of promiscuity (the rich kids tend to go there, so they have money and disinterested parents). It would be WORSE than public school. Your dad probably cares about you a lot, but doesn't really know how to show it other than being nosy. I think that you should sit him down and talk to him in a mature and open way about your feelings and help set some boundaries and "give and take" about your responsibility and openness with him. Tell him that you would like to be able to vent and write out your thoughts in your journal privately, because it helps you feel better about things that make you upset, but that you will "check in" with him every day at some specific time (like dinner together or whatnot) and talk to him about your day, and he can share his day with you. Instead of having him always at your back breathing down your neck, give him clear expectations of what you are doing. Tell him where you are going, who you are with, and when you'll be back. Always follow through with your promises, and be open with him. You want him to trust you and to gain trust, you must prove yourself My parents were ridiculously overprotective (they didn't even let me watch PG movies until I was a teen), and even THEY trusted me to go out for hours bike riding or doing errands on my bike or even going to co-ed sleepovers (and this was before cellphones were readily available). They trusted me, and I earned that trust by following through with my actions and being honest and open with them about the most important things. I think that your dad is scared that you're growing up and hes' not sure how to handle it, so he's going overboard in the protectiveness department because he thinks that he doesn't want you to get hurt. But everyone makes mistakes and if you never learn to regulate yourself you'll just get into tons of problems after you turn 18 (believe me, I know too many people who totally screw up because they were so sheltered). So, what I'm saying is be open and honest with him. Talk to him like an adult and let him know that you expect to prove your worth by your actions. If you follow through with your promises, he should be able to develop the trust to know that you can take control of your own actions and that you know the right choices to make. Of course, if you just want to complain and tell him that you should be allowed to "do whatever you want" then you should probably grow up a bit more before you decide to revisit your dad's protectiveness. Being able to "do whatever you want" without any rules or guidelines to help you develop responsible adult behavior is a fast track to lots of bad crap like teen pregnancy, gang activity, and dropping out of school and living on the streets.' Do you really want all that? No, I don't want all that. But every time I try talking to my dad, he wont listen, and then we get into a big fight. Then my uncle comes down and yells at me. |
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You'll appreciate it when you're older. I used to want to be like my friends in high school with their parents letting them do what they wanted, hang out with who they wanted, go where they wanted. Now most of the friends who i craved their freedom are pregnant or already has kids....
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xXMidniteDawnXx Oni no Tenshi Tell him that Catholic school is where they sell the hard drugs and there's a lot of promiscuity (the rich kids tend to go there, so they have money and disinterested parents). It would be WORSE than public school. Your dad probably cares about you a lot, but doesn't really know how to show it other than being nosy. I think that you should sit him down and talk to him in a mature and open way about your feelings and help set some boundaries and "give and take" about your responsibility and openness with him. Tell him that you would like to be able to vent and write out your thoughts in your journal privately, because it helps you feel better about things that make you upset, but that you will "check in" with him every day at some specific time (like dinner together or whatnot) and talk to him about your day, and he can share his day with you. Instead of having him always at your back breathing down your neck, give him clear expectations of what you are doing. Tell him where you are going, who you are with, and when you'll be back. Always follow through with your promises, and be open with him. You want him to trust you and to gain trust, you must prove yourself My parents were ridiculously overprotective (they didn't even let me watch PG movies until I was a teen), and even THEY trusted me to go out for hours bike riding or doing errands on my bike or even going to co-ed sleepovers (and this was before cellphones were readily available). They trusted me, and I earned that trust by following through with my actions and being honest and open with them about the most important things. I think that your dad is scared that you're growing up and hes' not sure how to handle it, so he's going overboard in the protectiveness department because he thinks that he doesn't want you to get hurt. But everyone makes mistakes and if you never learn to regulate yourself you'll just get into tons of problems after you turn 18 (believe me, I know too many people who totally screw up because they were so sheltered). So, what I'm saying is be open and honest with him. Talk to him like an adult and let him know that you expect to prove your worth by your actions. If you follow through with your promises, he should be able to develop the trust to know that you can take control of your own actions and that you know the right choices to make. Of course, if you just want to complain and tell him that you should be allowed to "do whatever you want" then you should probably grow up a bit more before you decide to revisit your dad's protectiveness. Being able to "do whatever you want" without any rules or guidelines to help you develop responsible adult behavior is a fast track to lots of bad crap like teen pregnancy, gang activity, and dropping out of school and living on the streets.' Do you really want all that? No, I don't want all that. But every time I try talking to my dad, he wont listen, and then we get into a big fight. Then my uncle comes down and yells at me. If you are not willing to act like you deserve respect and space, then you are not going to GET it from others. How you act and put yourself out is paramount to how you are treated and what you are allowed to do in our society. You would do well to learn this. I think that you should show your father my post and ask him if it is possible to come to an agreement as to what privileges you can have and what ones you should earn, and how you can earn them from him. If you persist in acting like a spoiled, entitled little brat, then I will have no sympathy for how you are being treated. You are asking him to treat you as you are. |
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Oni no Tenshi xXMidniteDawnXx Oni no Tenshi Tell him that Catholic school is where they sell the hard drugs and there's a lot of promiscuity (the rich kids tend to go there, so they have money and disinterested parents). It would be WORSE than public school. Your dad probably cares about you a lot, but doesn't really know how to show it other than being nosy. I think that you should sit him down and talk to him in a mature and open way about your feelings and help set some boundaries and "give and take" about your responsibility and openness with him. Tell him that you would like to be able to vent and write out your thoughts in your journal privately, because it helps you feel better about things that make you upset, but that you will "check in" with him every day at some specific time (like dinner together or whatnot) and talk to him about your day, and he can share his day with you. Instead of having him always at your back breathing down your neck, give him clear expectations of what you are doing. Tell him where you are going, who you are with, and when you'll be back. Always follow through with your promises, and be open with him. You want him to trust you and to gain trust, you must prove yourself My parents were ridiculously overprotective (they didn't even let me watch PG movies until I was a teen), and even THEY trusted me to go out for hours bike riding or doing errands on my bike or even going to co-ed sleepovers (and this was before cellphones were readily available). They trusted me, and I earned that trust by following through with my actions and being honest and open with them about the most important things. I think that your dad is scared that you're growing up and hes' not sure how to handle it, so he's going overboard in the protectiveness department because he thinks that he doesn't want you to get hurt. But everyone makes mistakes and if you never learn to regulate yourself you'll just get into tons of problems after you turn 18 (believe me, I know too many people who totally screw up because they were so sheltered). So, what I'm saying is be open and honest with him. Talk to him like an adult and let him know that you expect to prove your worth by your actions. If you follow through with your promises, he should be able to develop the trust to know that you can take control of your own actions and that you know the right choices to make. Of course, if you just want to complain and tell him that you should be allowed to "do whatever you want" then you should probably grow up a bit more before you decide to revisit your dad's protectiveness. Being able to "do whatever you want" without any rules or guidelines to help you develop responsible adult behavior is a fast track to lots of bad crap like teen pregnancy, gang activity, and dropping out of school and living on the streets.' Do you really want all that? No, I don't want all that. But every time I try talking to my dad, he wont listen, and then we get into a big fight. Then my uncle comes down and yells at me. If you are not willing to act like you deserve respect and space, then you are not going to GET it from others. How you act and put yourself out is paramount to how you are treated and what you are allowed to do in our society. You would do well to learn this. I think that you should show your father my post and ask him if it is possible to come to an agreement as to what privileges you can have and what ones you should earn, and how you can earn them from him. If you persist in acting like a spoiled, entitled little brat, then I will have no sympathy for how you are being treated. You are asking him to treat you as you are. But I don't see how I'm being a brat? Because I don't like it when my dad wont listen to me? Because I fight back? Because I get tired of crying three or four times a week? I don't get it. |
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xXMidniteDawnXx I don't get it. Welcome to the internet. |
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there is a good and a bad side to it unless they are hardcore crazy!
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xXMidniteDawnXx Little Miss Despair *leaves this thread* I was being sympathetic by nature, but now you really are sounding like a brat. Just get over it. okayy, how were you being sympathetic? and how am I being a brat? see my first post on this thread. |
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Little Miss Despair xXMidniteDawnXx Little Miss Despair *leaves this thread* I was being sympathetic by nature, but now you really are sounding like a brat. Just get over it. okayy, how were you being sympathetic? and how am I being a brat? see my first post on this thread. She isn't going get it dude. She's just a spoiled American brat. Which is why I can't be sympathetic to kids like her. It's like STFU up you're not starving to death or anything horrible like that. Why are you bitching about the fact Daddy Dear won't allow you to post half nude pictures of yourself online. Since that's what this is all about anyway. You should have read between the lines here. |
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My parents always seem to overreact about everything I do so it makes it very difficult to talk to them, even if they insist on it. I never know what might send off a sudden bomb so I am horrible at talking to them. They would root through my backpack, my notebooks, my drawers....probably read anything I've written. For a long time, I was only allowed to use my computer in the kitchen so I could be watched because they didn't want me doing anything bad....but they'd ask questions about everything I WAS looking at. "Oh I see something black. You aren't looking at anything bad are you?"
Also, when I was living at home I was only "allowed" to see my now fiance, then boyfriend only a certain amount of days a week. They whined if I was out with him "too long" or went out "too many times this week" and things like that. My fiance's dad made a sort of joke after while asking me once when I came over for the third (which was quite rare) day that week, saying, "How did you get out of jail?" They didn't want me "rushing" with my fiance....even though I had known him a good solid three years, knew more about him then they ever will and that we had also dated before but were forced to break up. He is really quite a sweet guy and I just absolutely love him, plus he has given me a child. My parents just don't like him because he is "mentally defective" in their view.....but the real problem is....they have been in control of everything I do for years and suddenly they have no control and their daughter is growing up. My parents may or may not come to my wedding next month and only time will tell. |
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Princess Z-M Little Miss Despair xXMidniteDawnXx Little Miss Despair *leaves this thread* I was being sympathetic by nature, but now you really are sounding like a brat. Just get over it. okayy, how were you being sympathetic? and how am I being a brat? see my first post on this thread. She isn't going get it dude. She's just a spoiled American brat. Which is why I can't be sympathetic to kids like her. It's like STFU up you're not starving to death or anything horrible like that. Why are you bitching about the fact Daddy Dear won't allow you to post half nude pictures of yourself online. Since that's what this is all about anyway. You should have read between the lines here. |
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Consecrated Oblivion Princess Z-M Little Miss Despair xXMidniteDawnXx Little Miss Despair *leaves this thread* I was being sympathetic by nature, but now you really are sounding like a brat. Just get over it. okayy, how were you being sympathetic? and how am I being a brat? see my first post on this thread. She isn't going get it dude. She's just a spoiled American brat. Which is why I can't be sympathetic to kids like her. It's like STFU up you're not starving to death or anything horrible like that. Why are you bitching about the fact Daddy Dear won't allow you to post half nude pictures of yourself online. Since that's what this is all about anyway. You should have read between the lines here. I said I wasn't sympathetic to her kind. That doesn't me I lack that trait. I just feel more for kids in this country and around the world that go through horrible stuff like sex slavery, starvation, drug abuse, ect. Her not being able to post nude pictures of herself is hardly cause for alarm or pity. |
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I won't comment on your particular situation, because there are always two sides to a story, but I will say that I have a hard time finding fault in erring on the side of caution.
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My parents have always been so overprotective. All it did was teach me to lie to them and go behind their backs, putting myself in more danger than if I could just do what my friends do and say "I'm going to a party, cya". Instead I had to sneak out really late and walk the streets by myself to get to parties. You can't stop your kids doing dangerous things. All you can do is respect them and then they will be honest with you.
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Princess Z-M Little Miss Despair xXMidniteDawnXx Little Miss Despair *leaves this thread* I was being sympathetic by nature, but now you really are sounding like a brat. Just get over it. okayy, how were you being sympathetic? and how am I being a brat? see my first post on this thread. She isn't going get it dude. She's just a spoiled American brat. Which is why I can't be sympathetic to kids like her. It's like STFU up you're not starving to death or anything horrible like that. Why are you bitching about the fact Daddy Dear won't allow you to post half nude pictures of yourself online. Since that's what this is all about anyway. You should have read between the lines here. WTF IS WRONG WITH YOU PEOPLE!!!! YALL ARE FREAKIN CRAZY!!!!! I DON'T WANT TO PUT NAKED PICTURES ON MYSELF UP!!! I WAS JUST USING THAT TO ADD ON CAUSE ALL MY FRIENDS CAN!!!! YOU PEOPLE ARE BEING LITTLE BRATS THINKING I'M SOME KIND IF S**T!!! MY DAD IS JUST REALLY OVER PROTECTIVE AND IT'S MAKING ME FREAKIN MAD!!! TAKE OUT THE PART ABOUT THE FREAKIN PICTURES IDC! HE STILL ACTS OVER PROTECTIVE AND THATS ALL I'M FREAKIN SAYING!!!!!!!!! |
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