Threesome. (lots of advice given, thankyou)

[George Goat]

A.Dream.Within.A.Dream.

Not to scare you, since what's done is done. But you should also definitely go get tested for STD's. I know it's scary, but the sooner you get things checked out and get a clean bill of health from your doctor, the better you'll feel.

And sexuality is fluid. x.x;

He was a bit shy and said he wasn't with many people. He seemed as new to all this as us, actually. He was submissive. And he seemed very clean.

But you're absolutely right. No taking chances on this. I'll make a doctor's appointment to check in the morning, and get my girlfriend to do so, too.

[Lexia_Starr]

George Goat

Limiting myself?
Just because I've found I like both genders doesn't mean I have to be in TWO relationships at once. Those things are a pain to upkeep.
I guess I also just had to see for myself whether I liked it or not, since the curiosity was also bothering the crap out of me. Which is why I didn't stop it.

I found that I LIKE being with either gender, but I only need ONE relationship with one person to be satisfied.
And I don't mind that it's changed now, it just distressed me at first.

I never said you "have" to be in two relationships. I was simply asking that since you're young and you've just discovered something new about yourself why you wouldn't want to further explore it to see if that's something you really want in your life instead of limiting yourself to your long-time girlfriend just because it makes you comfortable.

[George Goat]

Lexia_Starr

George Goat

Limiting myself?
Just because I've found I like both genders doesn't mean I have to be in TWO relationships at once. Those things are a pain to upkeep.
I guess I also just had to see for myself whether I liked it or not, since the curiosity was also bothering the crap out of me. Which is why I didn't stop it.

I found that I LIKE being with either gender, but I only need ONE relationship with one person to be satisfied.
And I don't mind that it's changed now, it just distressed me at first.

I never said you "have" to be in two relationships. I was simply asking that since you're young and you've just discovered something new about yourself why you wouldn't want to further explore it to see if that's something you really want in your life instead of limiting yourself to your long-time girlfriend just because it makes you comfortable.

I guess I'm just a creature of habit, then. XD

I just wouldn't want to give up my long term girlfriend whom I love and am happy with just to see if there's a chance I can be happy with someone else.

It's not something that new I've discovered, I've had these feelings surfacing for a little over a year. I just didn't act on it until yesterday night. And I'd say I have explored it quite a bit? o.o It's something I didn't mind. But I still preferred her even while we were...going about it.

So I guess what I did WAS right, by exploring it. I've decided it would be a nice possible option maybe. Who knows, maybe one of these days we will start a polyamorous relationship that actually works. But for now, last night's experimenting did satisfy my curiosity.

I don't know if anyone is pointing to this,
but some people seem to think that when you're bisexual, there's a difference between the attraction of females and males and they "give" different sexual feelings or something, and to feel fulfilled you need both. From what I felt personally, that was not the case... The only difference really is that guys and girls have different sort of smells and shapes to them. He was definitely more distinctively musky than my girlfriend, who smells sort of sweet. Then again, maybe it's also the fact he was incredibly feminine-acting. I don't even know if I'd been attracted to him if it weren't for his demeanor. However the attraction to my girlfriend was stronger, because we really are in love. It would be horrible for us to not see each other for even a week.
There was intimacy, and love towards the guy, but we certainly were not IN love. Might have also been a factor.

I guess I really was happy to be able to test this out and have my girlfriend be totally cool with it, and I guess it's good that I know I don't feel like I'm missing out by only having a partner of one gender and not the other. Now the curiosity will no longer drive me nuts and make me wonder if it would be totally different with a man. So I guess this does answer my question. I don't really feel bad or remorseful about any of this, EXCEPT for not using protection.

[Unsung_Grandeur]

Honestly, this topic just magnifies a couple of tiny worries I have about myself.

I'm 20 years old (female too) and have been with my boyfriend for only 3 and a half months, he's my second bf and I've never been with a girl. I'm bisexual with a strong preference for females though. It doesn't change the way I feel about my boyfriend but I worry about the fact that I'm slightly out as bisexual and the idea that I could "snap" into being either straight or gay. People have told me that it's not strange for people in their early 20s to realise they're not of the sexuality they thought they were, just like young teenagers do.

I feel like I'm not going to be able to appreciate my boyfriend as much as he deserves until I have killed a little curiousity if you know what I mean. I think the poor boy is suffering at the hands of my sexuality even though I don't discuss women with him in that way or anything and he is fully accepting.

I've considered dumping him because I almost believed a month or two ago that I was straight out lesbian.

He told me earlier today that he feels like I don't give a damn about our relationship. I have to admit that I'm not really too enthusiastic about it, I'm quite nonchalant about it really, I'm not really sure that's 100% normal. I have nothing to compare this relationship with, I don't know what's normal in relationships. My mum says that I'm already having the troubles with my boyfriend that her and my dad didn't start having til after they were married for years.

Oh well, there's my non-related rant.

[Porpoisedon]

Hmm...

[Sailor_Chibi]

From the sound of it, you seemed like you might have been stuck in a rut with your girlfriend. :/ Sometimes you need to shake up a relationship by doing something different or out of the ordinary to keep the spice flowing, you know? I think your attention was probably wandering a little because you were somewhat bored.

And also, as everyone else said, I think your sexuality can change as you hit different points in your life, and especially as you meet different people. It's something that you'll probably never be able to perfectly define.

[George Goat]

ausaro

Wow...that's...novel-worthy.
Anyway, this is normal. Don't worry. After 5 years it should be fine. The success rate of the morning after pill is in the high 80's to early 90's. Also, try not to do that too often.
And for god sake, don't let anything let you stray from your woman!
That's all the advice I have to give.

I think this advice really helped me out the most.

After five years and never trying things with ANYONE ELSE, it's good to know sometimes these things happening are normal.

And I promise I won't let anything stay me from her. O_O She's amazing.

[Periwinkle Dot]

sounds hot.

[Cleon of Trebond]

Dr. Phil to the rescue *music plays* Well I think that these things happen over time because when you in your teens your hormones are crazy so it may make your sexuality one thing and then when you are out of puberty you become more level headed. When I was in my teens I thought myself gay , but now I am straight. So it all is in the hormones. I really don't think it will phase your relationship much because it was a one nightstand. The worst it can do is have emotional scars and going to therapy will cure that right up. I hope this helps and PM me if you need more help.

[George Goat]

Cleon of Trebond

Dr. Phil to the rescue *music plays* Well I think that these things happen over time because when you in your teens your hormones are crazy so it may make your sexuality one thing and then when you are out of puberty you become more level headed. When I was in my teens I thought myself gay , but now I am straight. So it all is in the hormones. I really don't think it will phase your relationship much because it was a one nightstand. The worst it can do is have emotional scars and going to therapy will cure that right up. I hope this helps and PM me if you need more help.

Thank you. =O

Sorry, I didn't realize this thread was still getting replies.

All of you people's responses helped me sort this out, alot.

It's good to hear a first hand account from you about sexuality changing because of hormone fluctuation.

I had to kind of admit to myself and her that it was beginning to go in a rut. Yes we still love each other but after five years of almost the same routine, it DOES get a little...boring, we do start to crave change, if only once in a year.

Also, she led me to believe this was all my doing, when it in fact wasn't. She's had a want to be in a threesome for a long time and knew I'd be a little unnerved talking about just finding someone anonymous and doing it with them so she didn't mention it more than once, like a year ago. So when she caught me looking, she took this opportunity and worked a lot of it out herself. D:< Dammit, she's tricky.

We had another talk about it yesterday, where I had admitted our relationship had become a little lackluster, and she admitted she pulled a lot more of the strings than I thought.

[Jack2634]

Well, if you both like it, and neither of you mind, why not continue to get one night stands with guys. From the sounds of it, you both trust each other, so there shouldn't be any problem from a romance standpoint, and you both like it, as long as you're careful about it, then it sounds like you just discovered a rather amusing new hobby.

[George Goat]

Periwinkle Dot

sounds hot.

Well yeah...? rolleyes XD It was....I guess you see no problems? Whatever. =O



Also I have a doctor's appointment on tuesday to all the people who worried about being me not getting tested for STD's.

[Jack2634]

George Goat

Periwinkle Dot

sounds hot.

Well yeah...? rolleyes neutral

Also I have a doctor's appointment on tuesday to check for STD's.

That's probably why some people responded to this. XD

Good, that's one of the smartest things you can do.