Threesome. (lots of advice given, thankyou)

[George Goat]

Ok.
I have been in a monogamous relationship for five years straight. We're extremely happy, no real problems. The thing is, me and her have been going out since we were 16 and never had any other partners. Very clean, no STD's, weren't even intimate until 3-4 months into the relationship.

We're 20 now, she's almost 21, and some of my family's predictions from hell are actually coming true. "sexuality fluctuates for many years, it can change even when you're in your 20's." Yeah, yeah, I don't believe you, whatever, go away.

We both have a lot of self-control, usually. I exercise and eat very well to keep a model figure (have done some light modeling work), she knows how to always be the middle man in an argument to stop both sides from fighting. I've never had an urge to cheat on her, she hasn't had any to cheat on me. We agreed we can look all we want at other people as long as we don't touch. But basically the first four years were absolutely blissful.

So then for the past year my hormones have been royally messing with my head. And over the last few months it's been especially bad. The old teenager mood swings have totally subsided, no more crying before that time of the month, a lot less whining about things. Basically I'm becoming more emotionally stable, I guess? =D
Too bad I also started catching myself looking at men, along with the usual women.

And I'm a total prude about meeting new people, usually. Total prude about even touching people or LOOKING THEM IN THE EYE. Even some of the simple social thins other people don't pay mind or take for granted.
Then last night, after being cooped up for months in the house and neither of us going anywhere, I get her to agree to go to a dance club with me because some old friends invited me. I was beginning to get annoyed at my girlfriend for coming around but always only going places like restaurants where we SIT, and don't move...or sitting all day just to play video games. it was beginning to put a strain on the relationship, because whereas I love being active and getting exercise, she's a bit of a homebody. I still love her dearly, just...we differ in that one area ALOT.
before I met her, me and my old high school friends clubbed like twice a week. We just loved dancing. So I was overjoyed when she agreed to go with me.

Well, when we got there I saw one of the friends who invited me for only 15 minutes or so, they were having a terrible fight with their girlfriend and then took off from the club. The other friend we talked to for a bit, 20 minutes or so, she was busy dancing with her boyfriend.

I was so ecstatic about being able to go dancing I didn't even mind so much that I only got to see those friends a little bit. I danced with my girlfriend for a bit, but she got tired way before me, and sat down. I dance every single night at home even though I don't go out much, and am admittedly very very good at it. I got a crowd of people around me...and I have to admit my eyes began to wander. This incredibly effeminate man in a fishnet skirt, slinky leather boots.
Off dancing in his own world. It was amazing, he was one of the best dancers there along with me. But, he didn't even seem to notice me. And yet everyone else besides him did notice. It intrigued the hell out me.

The bouncers and some of the other dancers invited me to dance on the stage they have in this club, and so when my favorite song came on I did. The attention of the crowd just totally inflated my ego, I was on fire, and danced the best I ever have. I made eye contact with the said dancer and smiled at them. again, one of the ones sitting off to the side and not fawning in the crowd below. Intriguing. Oh so intriguing.

Ok, to make this long story shorter, my girlfriend caught me looking and complimenting him and actually agreed to let me invite him to dance with us. We danced amazingly. And then got very close while dancing. And then other stuff happened.
We had a threesome in the back of the club.
And then in the back of her van. gonk .....<3

No protection, no nothing. All I knew was that his name was Stephen, he was introverted, had a russian accent/was from russia, ******** hot legs, beautiful eyes, liked to dress in women's clothing and all that s**t. And he had a really big...thing.

So, I've gone from being a lesbian in an exclusively monogamous relationship for 5 years, to someone who just had a one-night stand-threesome with a tranny and my girlfriend. neutral

I'm just wondering, did I goddamn lose my mind over the course of a day, or does these things just kind of happen sometimes? One night all hell just breaks loose and it can change your whole life.

And...morning after pills. I had to take them. Does anyone know the success rate of them? I had a period like five days ago, and actually have fertility issues according to the doctor, so I don't think I'm going to get pregnant.

[Budou Bushi]

well the other girl in the threesome was your girlfriend right??? then just talk to her about it. and i can't tell you wether to feel remorse or not its a matter of do you or not.

and to be honet hormones get the best of a lot of people at times. and it usually hapens at younger ages.

[Sven Svenson]

Jesus... That is just... It's not fake is it?

eek

Most dedicated troll story if there ever was one, of that's the case.

If this actually happened:
You might be hitting a bumpy road with your girl. Threesomes have this naughty effect of infiltrating a relationship and then destroying the damn thing from the inside out. If you want to stay in your relationship and she's willing to live and let live as well, then more power to you. Work together around any misgivings about what happened.

If either of you have doubts, it might be best to let it take its course. Just make it clean and end the thing. It kind of sounds like you're in that boat. Don't pussyfoot around the subject, get it out in the open now.

And the morning after pill has about 99% effectiveness, like a birth control pill.

[George Goat]

snake79797

well the other girl in the threesome was your girlfriend right??? then just talk to her about it. and i can't tell you wether to feel remorse or not its a matter of do you or not.

and to be honet hormones get the best of a lot of people at times. and it usually hapens at younger ages.

Yeah, she was the other girl... She didn't mind. At all. she liked it alot. We had a long loong talk about it afterwards and she had no regrets, said it was really hot what I agreed to do. but she wasn't the one who let someone c** inside her. :/

I guess it's mostly the not asking questions thing and not using protection I'm remorseful for. Sure he seemed ultra clean but you never know...
That and I got so COMFORTABLE with the thought that I might only like girls forever. So, now that it's changed, I'm weirded out at myself.

It just seems so out of character for me. Gawd.

However it seems to have made our relationship even stronger than it was.

[George Goat]

Sven Svenson

Jesus... That is just... It's not fake is it?

eek

Most dedicated troll story if there ever was one, of that's the case.

If this actually happened:
You might be hitting a bumpy road with your girl. Threesomes have this naughty effect of infiltrating a relationship and then destroying the damn thing from the inside out. If you want to stay in your relationship and she's willing to live and let live as well, then more power to you. Work together around any misgivings about what happened.

If either of you have doubts, it might be best to let it take its course. Just make it clean and end the thing. It kind of sounds like you're in that boat. Don't pussyfoot around the subject, get it out in the open now.

And the morning after pill has about 99% effectiveness, like a birth control pill.

Look at my post count.

I'm no troll. D:

That's the weird thing, we talked about it alot and it seemed to make our relationship a lot stronger. Like I said we had never even been with anyone else but each other. And I think that got it out of our systems.

We agreed it was totally crazy to do, and probably never do something like that again. :/

And OH MAN. Whew. I am so glad. I wasn't sure of the effectiveness. THANK YOU.

[Sven Svenson]

George Goat

Look at my post count.

I'm no troll. D:

That's the weird thing, we talked about it alot and it seemed to make our relationship a lot stronger. Like I said we had never even been with anyone else but each other. And I think that got it out of our systems.

We agreed it was totally crazy to do, and probably never do something like that again. :/

Kudos on an excellent story, then.

If you can make it work, go for it, ya crazy kids. Don't hesitate to communicate.

[George Goat]

Uhm....thanks...D:

Yes. Communication is definitely key, I've found that out after like five years. Secrets are eventually going to surface, might as well let them out in the open before they blow up in your face.

Argh. But thanks for the advice. I was mostly worried about the pregnancy thing. And wondering if anyone else's sexuality just decided to randomly switch to bisexual once they hit 20.

[ausaro]

Wow...that's...novel-worthy.
Anyway, this is normal. Don't worry. After 5 years it should be fine. The success rate of the morning after pill is in the high 80's to early 90's. Also, try not to do that too often.
And for god sake, don't let anything let you stray from your woman!
That's all the advice I have to give.

[D3XT3R]

The only thing is, if you keep going around and having threesomes, you'll eventually have to face every couple's good friend, jealousy. It's inevitable in those "open" relationships, no matter how comfortable the couple thinks they are together. One day you'll do your dirty deeds and feel something biting you when you watch someone else please your partner, say, in a way you've never been able to do so-- or vice versa.
Good luck; I hope, for you both, that it was worth it.

[Lexia_Starr]

You may have lost your mind, you may not. It's different for different people.

I, personally, have never and would never do that. I wouldn't have even been in a dance club in the first place. And I most certainly didn't turn bi and I won't because I think vaginas are absolutely gross.

If you both really did enjoy it that much, you may want to consider discussions about a third male party coming into the relationship.

[ausaro]

Also, if your girlfriend was part of it, and you still feel bad, you probably should tell that to her and see how she feels about it.
(sorry I didn't say this sooner. Stupid internet is dying.)

[Holy Roman Empire]

Not to scare you, since what's done is done. But you should also definitely go get tested for STD's. I know it's scary, but the sooner you get things checked out and get a clean bill of health from your doctor, the better you'll feel.

And sexuality is fluid. x.x;

[George Goat]

Lexia_Starr

You may have lost your mind, you may not. It's different for different people.

I, personally, have never and would never do that. I wouldn't have even been in a dance club in the first place. And I most certainly didn't turn bi and I won't because I think vaginas are absolutely gross.

If you both really did enjoy it that much, you may want to consider discussions about a third male party coming into the relationship.

Meh. I guess different things for different people. Maybe I was too repressed, who knows.

All I know is, I didn't WANT my sexuality to change. I didn't choose it at all. D:

But nooo, ewh. I'm actually glad it was a one night thing because that jealousy/awkwardness is not there. It probably would be in a long term thing. I do want it to be just me and her. I liked it but I still like it with her better.

All it started with was some dancing. Innocent dancing. all it took was accidentally brushing hands here and there, dancing a little too close. Clinging waists. Then it went further and further, and none of us could stop it. >.<

[Lexia_Starr]

George Goat

Lexia_Starr

You may have lost your mind, you may not. It's different for different people.

I, personally, have never and would never do that. I wouldn't have even been in a dance club in the first place. And I most certainly didn't turn bi and I won't because I think vaginas are absolutely gross.

If you both really did enjoy it that much, you may want to consider discussions about a third male party coming into the relationship.

Meh. I guess different things for different people. Maybe I was too repressed, who knows.

All I know is, I didn't WANT my sexuality to change. I didn't choose it at all. D:

But nooo, ewh. I'm actually glad it was a one night thing because that jealousy/awkwardness can't be there. I do want it to be just me and her. Yeah I liked it but I still like it with her better.

It may have been repression. In some people, committing to a sexuality and especially to a certain person at a young age can lead to snaps like that. Because you were wanting and basically forcing yourself into that box and not allowing yourself to grow as needed.

But I'm a little confused. If you both enjoyed being with a man so much that you now consider yourself bisexual, why are you still limiting yourself?

[George Goat]

Lexia_Starr

George Goat

Lexia_Starr

You may have lost your mind, you may not. It's different for different people.

I, personally, have never and would never do that. I wouldn't have even been in a dance club in the first place. And I most certainly didn't turn bi and I won't because I think vaginas are absolutely gross.

If you both really did enjoy it that much, you may want to consider discussions about a third male party coming into the relationship.

Meh. I guess different things for different people. Maybe I was too repressed, who knows.

All I know is, I didn't WANT my sexuality to change. I didn't choose it at all. D:

But nooo, ewh. I'm actually glad it was a one night thing because that jealousy/awkwardness can't be there. I do want it to be just me and her. Yeah I liked it but I still like it with her better.

It may have been repression. In some people, committing to a sexuality and especially to a certain person at a young age can lead to snaps like that. Because you were wanting and basically forcing yourself into that box and not allowing yourself to grow as needed.

But I'm a little confused. If you both enjoyed being with a man so much that you now consider yourself bisexual, why are you still limiting yourself?

Limiting myself?
Just because I've found I like both genders doesn't mean I have to be in TWO relationships at once. Those things are a pain to upkeep.
I guess I also just had to see for myself whether I liked it or not, since the curiosity was also bothering the crap out of me. Which is why I didn't stop it.

I found that I LIKE being with either gender, but I only need ONE relationship with one person to be satisfied.
And I don't mind that it's changed now, it just distressed me at first.