daredevil_keiji
Honestly, that is one of the reasons why I left the church a long time ago. There are too many instances where people either "expect" you to give, or persistently ask for donations. From my experience, churches are treating people's reliance on faith like a business now.
If you really want to help, opt to donate food rather than money. If the church that you participate right now expects you to hand money over to them, LEAVE. The money you put there can be used to better purpose such as a retirement fund or money you can invest.
we have these family meetings every mother where you bring a dish (aka potluck) and there would be 2 dishes up on this buffet size table and I would put my dish down next to it. 15 minutes later when we would line up to eat, my dish would disappear. I could be the 3rd person in line and my dish would disappear. 10 minutes before we'd leave, I'd go up there for a doggie bag or to get my stuff(dishes/left over whatever I bought) and there my dish would be, just sitting there untouched. This happened 9 times. 2 times before my food was there and served but that was homemade buttermilk biscuits (which the men loved and their wives didn't like that the men liked them) and the other was cake.
I bought the food with what little we had left,cooked the stuff and yet it disappeared. Even fresh made lemonade disappear and no one bought lemonade. Fried chicken, spaghetti, cookies, mac & cheese, etc all disappeared and reappeared 10 minutes before we were leaving. By the time my food popped up ,everyone was thru eatting and thusly didn't need any of it.