Should I Do Anything About This?

[Jinx You Owe Me A Soda]

I have a friend who is very close to me. A lot of times I feel that she is my other half. We sort of complete each other. However, she has lately been doing things that worry me.
She has told me that she had cut herself before, and I was a bit worried. When I voiced my concern, she assured me that she does not do it anymore and is happy. Well, today she texted me four poems. This is one of them:

"Cutting away at flesh. Scissors drenched in blood. Tears cannot heal. The pain that has become a monster within me. Trying to get out, bottled up inside. The sorrow is the route. Hating myself; forever wanting to do harm- no surprise. My thoughts have no alarm...I'm dead inside. Why would he do that? All alone to myself, a possible suicide. I can't think of any reason to be here tonight...So I'll go where no one can find me. I'll head toward the light."
I was a bit worried when she sent this to me, and I asked her what gave her the idea for the poem. She just told me that it was mainly from depression.
I love Kat. I don't understand why she's suddenly like this. I'm meeting up with her tomorrow just to hang. Should I say anything to her? Do you think this is just an "emo" phase? We've always had deep discussions (one of the things I love about her) but now she's always sending me the depressing poems and she's quieter. She's always been "dark", but this has convinced me that she's majorly depressed or something. What should I do? Or should I just let her be?

[the wolf girl]

I'd bring it up. Don't hound the girl or anything but tell her you're concerned. If she's told you she's happy but is writing poems from depression then explain you are getting mixed signals. If she's upset you want her to talk to you and not shut you out. I wouldn't just ignore it. I personally write dark short fiction and it doesn't effect my happiness for the worse. You know your friend. I'd ask her about it.

[Gossamer Heart]

It could be an emo-phase, but it's a pretty big call to make with something so potentially dangerous.

You should ask her about it. Tell her that you're worried about her, that you care about her, and you want her to be able to talk to you about how she is feeling. If you really think that it is a risk, ask her if she is thinking about killing herself. That poem did indicate it, so I think it is important. Asking that question is very scary, but I think not knowing is scarier - and if she says no, just make sure you're there for her if she ever feels like she is going to hurt herself (cutting or otherwise).

How old are you guys? If you're both relatively young, you might need to consider talking to someone you trust about it. Advice on LI is all well and good, but if you're seriously concerned for her safety you're going to need someone else's help.

[Thos Phoenix]

kindred_spirit666

It could be an emo-phase, but it's a pretty big call to make with something so potentially dangerous.

You should ask her about it. Tell her that you're worried about her, that you care about her, and you want her to be able to talk to you about how she is feeling. If you really think that it is a risk, ask her if she is thinking about killing herself. That poem did indicate it, so I think it is important. Asking that question is very scary, but I think not knowing is scarier - and if she says no, just make sure you're there for her if she ever feels like she is going to hurt herself (cutting or otherwise).

How old are you guys? If you're both relatively young, you might need to consider talking to someone you trust about it. Advice on LI is all well and good, but if you're seriously concerned for her safety you're going to need someone else's help.

I agree with everything except calling it an "emo phase"... emo is a fad and a type of music genre... people from all walks of life cut. It's a commonly malformed coping mechanism for people who don't know how to deal with emotional pain. Become her outlet... Let her know that you are there for her to talk to.

[angel_259236102]

Well, I woudl be worried too, because if she has cut, and she is admitting to being depressed, then there is somethign that needs to be talked about. Just pushing it under the rug by calling it a name isnt goign to help. Support her and try to see if you can talk her into talking to someone else who can really help.

[Dragonixxy]

xFleaBeFlyinx

I have a friend who is very close to me. A lot of times I feel that she is my other half. We sort of complete each other. However, she has lately been doing things that worry me.
She has told me that she had cut herself before, and I was a bit worried. When I voiced my concern, she assured me that she does not do it anymore and is happy. Well, today she texted me four poems. This is one of them:

"Cutting away at flesh. Scissors drenched in blood. Tears cannot heal. The pain that has become a monster within me. Trying to get out, bottled up inside. The sorrow is the route. Hating myself; forever wanting to do harm- no surprise. My thoughts have no alarm...I'm dead inside. Why would he do that? All alone to myself, a possible suicide. I can't think of any reason to be here tonight...So I'll go where no one can find me. I'll head toward the light."
I was a bit worried when she sent this to me, and I asked her what gave her the idea for the poem. She just told me that it was mainly from depression.
I love Kat. I don't understand why she's suddenly like this. I'm meeting up with her tomorrow just to hang. Should I say anything to her? Do you think this is just an "emo" phase? We've always had deep discussions (one of the things I love about her) but now she's always sending me the depressing poems and she's quieter. She's always been "dark", but this has convinced me that she's majorly depressed or something. What should I do? Or should I just let her be?

welll... depends on what goes on in her life... if she has a lot of problems with home or certain people, then yeah... you should definitely try and help her out however you can.. but if there's no reason for her to be sending those messages, it could be that it's just a phase.. so you wouldn't have to worry too much.. just try and be there and always happy for her : ) a hug coming out of nowhere and some heartfelt words could change a person's whole life from that point on <3

[DXnobodyX]

Its either
1) shes reaching out for help
2) attention

Either way suggest that there are ppl who are fair better trained at working this sort of stuff out.

[Gossamer Heart]

Thos Phoenix

kindred_spirit666

It could be an emo-phase, but it's a pretty big call to make with something so potentially dangerous.

You should ask her about it. Tell her that you're worried about her, that you care about her, and you want her to be able to talk to you about how she is feeling. If you really think that it is a risk, ask her if she is thinking about killing herself. That poem did indicate it, so I think it is important. Asking that question is very scary, but I think not knowing is scarier - and if she says no, just make sure you're there for her if she ever feels like she is going to hurt herself (cutting or otherwise).

How old are you guys? If you're both relatively young, you might need to consider talking to someone you trust about it. Advice on LI is all well and good, but if you're seriously concerned for her safety you're going to need someone else's help.

I agree with everything except calling it an "emo phase"... emo is a fad and a type of music genre... people from all walks of life cut. It's a commonly malformed coping mechanism for people who don't know how to deal with emotional pain. Become her outlet... Let her know that you are there for her to talk to.

I used that term because the OP did. I probably should've used quotation marks to make that clear - but I thought the fact that I pretty much instantly dismissed writing it off as that was enough.

[Thos Phoenix]

kindred_spirit666

Thos Phoenix

kindred_spirit666

It could be an emo-phase, but it's a pretty big call to make with something so potentially dangerous.

You should ask her about it. Tell her that you're worried about her, that you care about her, and you want her to be able to talk to you about how she is feeling. If you really think that it is a risk, ask her if she is thinking about killing herself. That poem did indicate it, so I think it is important. Asking that question is very scary, but I think not knowing is scarier - and if she says no, just make sure you're there for her if she ever feels like she is going to hurt herself (cutting or otherwise).

How old are you guys? If you're both relatively young, you might need to consider talking to someone you trust about it. Advice on LI is all well and good, but if you're seriously concerned for her safety you're going to need someone else's help.

I agree with everything except calling it an "emo phase"... emo is a fad and a type of music genre... people from all walks of life cut. It's a commonly malformed coping mechanism for people who don't know how to deal with emotional pain. Become her outlet... Let her know that you are there for her to talk to.

I used that term because the OP did. I probably should've used quotation marks to make that clear - but I thought the fact that I pretty much instantly dismissed writing it off as that was enough.

I know. I quoted you because you made a really good point otherwise, but wanted to point out to the OP that it was an incorrect term to use.

[Artemis Suueetsu]

I would definitely say something to her. If you are really concerned about her, I would tell someone about it. (Dunno how old you guys are but...) Maybe a teacher or her parents.

I had a friend who told me she was going to kill herself. I was so worried that I went to a teacher about it. She was mad for a while, but once she got the help she needed, she thanked me. Told me that I saved her life.

[Indigo Kitsune]

She is hurting herself, you have to do something to help her, is there anyone you can talk to off line who might be able to help her?

[zoe_owen1]

dnot just let her be she wuldnt just send u something like that and not expect a follow up convo