Relationship Issues;Should i stay with this guy?;Hp. Issues

[Vanilla Hollic]

ll Kimmy Kins ll

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ll Kimmy Kins ll

You should break up with him because he knows all the trouble going on with your family and he said he wants to add kids to that? You should be insulted he said he wanted to have kids with you with all the drama. Plus your parents are having another child aren't they? You don't need to add another kid to that. Obviously you don't like him much anymore. Break up with him but DO NOT jump into another relationship!!! You need time to be carefree and be a kid. Relationships are an unnecessary added stress on your life. I hope things get better <3

My family has already had the kid Kimmy.Yeah but i assume he will change, i don't think hes that violent as he used to be before, but he does get angry easily.Hes just emotional i guess.

I want to be nice since I am your friend but this thread is sort of sickening me. This guy seems like an a** and you are just smiling and joking around. I know you are a teenager but you make your life seem so hard and bothersome. I know its good to have smiles and enjoy life but once you post in the life issues thread it obviously has become a big enough problem to push you to this. This thread is meant to be very serious. You are fourteen. You are a baby. Don't even THINK about sex or babies. I'm sorry to say it but people don't really ever change unless something big happens. You said he has hit his mom? Why would you even want to be with a guy that would do that to his own mother? And then he wants to be a father. I honestly think he is the type to become violent is pushed too far. Also being with a guy who has anger issues crushes you. From personal experience, it makes you feel awful but you couldn't stop him from getting mad and makes you feel like its all your fault. Its a way of manipulation to keep you invested cause you feel like you can't do better. I don't want to sound like a b***h but as your friend I am telling you to take this more serious. Think about what you want to do with your life. You should know you can do better and the fact you have to consider this stuff at your age, he obviously isn't right for you.

I know i probably do sound like a baby.I just don't know honestly.I don't know anymore.You could consider him violent, but aren't we all once in awhile?But y'know what its okay.I understand xPP

[Neko Namida Ame]

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Neko Namida Ame

He won't change unless he himself wants to change.

By violent do you mean he hits you? What does he do when he gets violent?

I know.He told me he got violent with his mother but i love him too much to leave him > w <

Wait, so he's never gotten violent with you then? You said he did.

[Valkyrie Of Heaven]

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Valkyrie Of Heaven

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angel_259236102

Well, gaia kids have nothing to do with real children, and him not caring about some random online thing doesnt really mean he wont be a decent father.

But if he is getting violent, that is a bad sign, and i personally would just end it. It seems like no one wants this relationship. You parents dont like him, he doesnt really seem to care, and it kinda sounds like he really gavae up anyways.

I guess your right.I wanted him to treat the gaia children as real kids so i could see how good of a farther he was, but yeah he doesn't care.I think i should end it.Thanks.

using virtual simulations as a prep for the real thing in the case of children is NOT the way to go about it... stare

reguardless, you're fourteen. kid. grow up, go to college. wait till your out of college before you EVEN CONSIDER a man impregnating you. let alone having sex.

I'm sure i've seen you before.Sure i want to get pregnant but i know i shouldn't get pregnant at this age.
I guess but i wanted him to act as if they were real to see how good of a farther he was.I mean i don't want a terrible farther but i guess i can't really find out because i haven't seen the real side-And the real side is different.

take it from a real father.

you don't have to wake up at 4 in the morning from a dead sleep at the slightest sound of a babies moan or sleep induced cry from a nightmare, with a virtual simulation. and when the mother is dead tired, and beat from an entire days worth of deal with the kid, and the father comes home from work. guess who has the honor of taking care of the kid while they'd rather just sit back and relax? daddy.

dump him. that's what i say.

wait till you're older and wiser to start considering these things.

and if it's proof you want. look at my profile. my daughters 4, she'll be 5 in September. i can tell you first hand, it's not the same. i love every minuet of it, but still..there is no comparison to the real thing. PERIOD.

[controlledchaos24]

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controlledchaos24

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Oh yes >D Yes I am!
Yes I have! I know, if I sit down and think, I actually am ^_^
If you knew it then why'd you ask? Dun dun!
That's good. I would if he hurt you. It's your decision, as long as your happy I'm fine.

Lmao xD
You sure?I'm sure you just got someone to type all that for you.
I asked because i wanted some advice-Something i didn't know.
Dudhdu my fault for being smart!
Aww Dad.What happened to the big,soft idiot now? emotion_kirakira
You made me smile : D

How'd you- I mean , yes of course I wrote it all myself! >O>
Oh ok!
Yeah, but it's better to be smart than dumb xD
Aw :3 You thought I was soft? And I am not big!
^w^ Glad I was able to do something good!

[Vanilla Hollic]

Valkyrie Of Heaven

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Valkyrie Of Heaven

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angel_259236102

Well, gaia kids have nothing to do with real children, and him not caring about some random online thing doesnt really mean he wont be a decent father.

But if he is getting violent, that is a bad sign, and i personally would just end it. It seems like no one wants this relationship. You parents dont like him, he doesnt really seem to care, and it kinda sounds like he really gavae up anyways.

I guess your right.I wanted him to treat the gaia children as real kids so i could see how good of a farther he was, but yeah he doesn't care.I think i should end it.Thanks.

using virtual simulations as a prep for the real thing in the case of children is NOT the way to go about it... stare

reguardless, you're fourteen. kid. grow up, go to college. wait till your out of college before you EVEN CONSIDER a man impregnating you. let alone having sex.

I'm sure i've seen you before.Sure i want to get pregnant but i know i shouldn't get pregnant at this age.
I guess but i wanted him to act as if they were real to see how good of a farther he was.I mean i don't want a terrible farther but i guess i can't really find out because i haven't seen the real side-And the real side is different.

take it from a real father.

you don't have to wake up at 4 in the morning from a dead sleep at the slightest sound of a babies moan or sleep induced cry from a nightmare, with a virtual simulation. and when the mother is dead tired, and beat from an entire days worth of deal with the kid, and the father comes home from work. guess who has the honor of taking care of the kid while they'd rather just sit back and relax? daddy.

dump him. that's what i say.

wait till you're older and wiser to start considering these things.

and if it's proof you want. look at my profile. my daughters 4, she'll be 5 in September. i can tell you first hand, it's not the same. i love every minuet of it, but still..there is no comparison to the real thing. PERIOD.

Oh...
I guess.
Everyone says i should never go out with a guy i like, because their usually like this...
But, if i love guys like this i wonder how much i'd love a guy who is actually true.There is no comparison to most things isn't there?
I would like to be mother, not today or tomorrow, probably in 5 years time-by then i'll be 20. (I'll soon be 15)
.....But....
....
I don't think i would cope, even if i had help....I can't cope with looking after a baby for one day...Its just not right...
It doesn't matter.People can change right?
Thats what i say to myself every day-i love him, but a part of me says it isn't right and it needs to be over.....
I don't know why....I just feel as if i'm taking someone who's not meant to be with me..

[Vanilla Hollic]

Neko Namida Ame

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Neko Namida Ame

He won't change unless he himself wants to change.

By violent do you mean he hits you? What does he do when he gets violent?

I know.He told me he got violent with his mother but i love him too much to leave him > w <

Wait, so he's never gotten violent with you then? You said he did.

Hes gotten violent with his mother.
And he tried killing her...
A few times...
Hes accused me, been aggressive and probably was about to lash out on me..
I think hes just really emotional and has anger issues?

[rinkutan]

fubenkunai

Honey, he is bad news. You are only 14, and he is taking advantage of that. He can see that you're inexperienced and that you haven't really had a chance to build up a backbone yet. He can also see that your family is well-off, and you wouldn't believe the trouble people like that can cause for a whole family's finances and well-being. This guy is a predator, plain and simple, and he's manipulating you with the idea of a happy family and a home of your own. The truth is, you won't have a happy, safe home with him, and you'll just end up dragging children into a volatile and pretty loveless situation. Don't. Go talk to your parents (or any older person you can trust) and ask them for help in breaking this off. It is okay to need help, and older people will have been through their first love and first break-up, so they'll understand. Your parents are right here, so trust their judgment and seek their help.

You might feel now that this is love, or that this is somehow fated to be, but it's neither. Love is not violent or one-sided, it's mutually respectful and enjoyable. It's not always easy and fun, but it's never anything like you've described. It's not fate either-- it's a bad guy knowingly using a good, trusting girl. The truth is that you should be with a nice boy who respects you, and who won't push you to do things. That he won't be violent or verbally abusive should go without saying, but I'm going to say it anyway because I want to be totally clear on that. You can have the happy family life you want, but it won't be with this guy. Break it off, take some time to get yourself back together, and try to learn as much as possible from this bad experience so you don't end up with another rotten egg in the future.

This. I hate to see a young girl manipulated by a guy she thinks she loves.
Op, you don't need him. He is not your soul mate. You are lovable and wonderful without this guy. Get rid of him.

[Neko Namida Ame]

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Neko Namida Ame

II Vanilla-Chan II

Neko Namida Ame

He won't change unless he himself wants to change.

By violent do you mean he hits you? What does he do when he gets violent?

I know.He told me he got violent with his mother but i love him too much to leave him > w <

Wait, so he's never gotten violent with you then? You said he did.

Hes gotten violent with his mother.
And he tried killing her...
A few times...
Hes accused me, been aggressive and probably was about to lash out on me..
I think hes just really emotional and has anger issues?

That is bad and it may amount to hitting you one day but everyone here thought he was actively beating you when he wasn't because you said he got violent with you so they assumed the worst. Maybe you should be more clear about what you say.

He does have anger issues and he does really need help for them.

[Valkyrie Of Heaven]

II Vanilla-Chan II

Valkyrie Of Heaven

II Vanilla-Chan II

Valkyrie Of Heaven

II Vanilla-Chan II

angel_259236102

Well, gaia kids have nothing to do with real children, and him not caring about some random online thing doesnt really mean he wont be a decent father.

But if he is getting violent, that is a bad sign, and i personally would just end it. It seems like no one wants this relationship. You parents dont like him, he doesnt really seem to care, and it kinda sounds like he really gavae up anyways.

I guess your right.I wanted him to treat the gaia children as real kids so i could see how good of a farther he was, but yeah he doesn't care.I think i should end it.Thanks.

using virtual simulations as a prep for the real thing in the case of children is NOT the way to go about it... stare

reguardless, you're fourteen. kid. grow up, go to college. wait till your out of college before you EVEN CONSIDER a man impregnating you. let alone having sex.

I'm sure i've seen you before.Sure i want to get pregnant but i know i shouldn't get pregnant at this age.
I guess but i wanted him to act as if they were real to see how good of a farther he was.I mean i don't want a terrible farther but i guess i can't really find out because i haven't seen the real side-And the real side is different.

take it from a real father.

you don't have to wake up at 4 in the morning from a dead sleep at the slightest sound of a babies moan or sleep induced cry from a nightmare, with a virtual simulation. and when the mother is dead tired, and beat from an entire days worth of deal with the kid, and the father comes home from work. guess who has the honor of taking care of the kid while they'd rather just sit back and relax? daddy.

dump him. that's what i say.

wait till you're older and wiser to start considering these things.

and if it's proof you want. look at my profile. my daughters 4, she'll be 5 in September. i can tell you first hand, it's not the same. i love every minuet of it, but still..there is no comparison to the real thing. PERIOD.

Oh...
I guess.
Everyone says i should never go out with a guy i like, because their usually like this...
But, if i love guys like this i wonder how much i'd love a guy who is actually true.There is no comparison to most things isn't there?
I would like to be mother, not today or tomorrow, probably in 5 years time-by then i'll be 20. (I'll soon be 15)
.....But....
....
I don't think i would cope, even if i had help....I can't cope with looking after a baby for one day...Its just not right...
It doesn't matter.People can change right?
Thats what i say to myself every day-i love him, but a part of me says it isn't right and it needs to be over.....
I don't know why....I just feel as if i'm taking someone who's not meant to be with me..

lemme ask you this...

do you know him in real life?