Relationship Issues;Should i stay with this guy?;Hp. Issues

[Vanilla Hollic]

Neko Namida Ame

He won't change unless he himself wants to change.

By violent do you mean he hits you? What does he do when he gets violent?

I know.He told me he got violent with his mother but i love him too much to leave him > w <

[Vanilla Hollic]

fubenkunai

I know what your saying is true, but i do believe he can change.

[-Halloween Barbie-]

There will be other men whom you will love, and have a much more stable relationship with. Having a child now wouldn't be the best idea, especially if he indicates that he's been violent with his mother. I can't say the circumstances of that, but I'm guessing she made a demand of him that he didn't like. Children are all about demands; that's all they do initially. What makes you think he won't hit them? You can't change a man unless he wants to be changed. All girls fall for this trap at least once, but that's what it is: a trap.

I know at this stage in life he might be the "be-all end-all love of your life" to you. But trust me, there are other men who will love you for who you are, and not what you have. If you think he might be violent towards you if in the event you break up, have someone with you when it occurs. He'll be more intimidated this way.

[Vanilla Hollic]

ll Kimmy Kins ll

You should break up with him because he knows all the trouble going on with your family and he said he wants to add kids to that? You should be insulted he said he wanted to have kids with you with all the drama. Plus your parents are having another child aren't they? You don't need to add another kid to that. Obviously you don't like him much anymore. Break up with him but DO NOT jump into another relationship!!! You need time to be carefree and be a kid. Relationships are an unnecessary added stress on your life. I hope things get better <3

My family has already had the kid Kimmy.Yeah but i assume he will change, i don't think hes that violent as he used to be before, but he does get angry easily.Hes just emotional i guess.

Enemy of Justice

I just don't know what to say xD
You've just turned into another person all together xD.True words my friend.Uh...Thanks for the advice?xP

controlledchaos24

And your happy about that aren't you big daddy?xD

Oh Dad.You've changed. eek your like a million times smarter now D8
Yeah i know that Dad.Hes not violent to me no.XD my dad would kill him and me for dating him xPP

[controlledchaos24]

II Vanilla-Chan II

Oh yes >D Yes I am!
Yes I have! I know, if I sit down and think, I actually am ^_^
If you knew it then why'd you ask? Dun dun!
That's good. I would if he hurt you. It's your decision, as long as your happy I'm fine.

[Romeigh]

He's an a*****e and he's selfish as ********; cares more about his wants than your needs.

END IT...

[Vanilla Hollic]

Grandiloquence

This guy wants to impregnate a 14 year old.
He should be chemically castrated for that reason.

Break up with him.

!d!ot Amer!ca

Its alright i guess since i want to get pregnant too, and we all have that feeling once and awhile right?But it doesn't mean i'm going to do this at this age.

zeo_owen1

..He is trying and he's slowly changing.

[Vanilla Hollic]

-Halloween Barbie-

There will be other men whom you will love, and have a much more stable relationship with. Having a child now wouldn't be the best idea, especially if he indicates that he's been violent with his mother. I can't say the circumstances of that, but I'm guessing she made a demand of him that he didn't like. Children are all about demands; that's all they do initially. What makes you think he won't hit them? You can't change a man unless he wants to be changed. All girls fall for this trap at least once, but that's what it is: a trap.

I know at this stage in life he might be the "be-all end-all love of your life" to you. But trust me, there are other men who will love you for who you are, and not what you have. If you think he might be violent towards you if in the event you break up, have someone with you when it occurs. He'll be more intimidated this way.

Thanks for the advice biggrin
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[-Halloween Barbie-]

II Vanilla-Chan II

Thanks for the advice biggrin
//Tipped.

You're very welcome. I hope I was some help to you.

[Vanilla Hollic]

controlledchaos24

II Vanilla-Chan II

Oh yes >D Yes I am!
Yes I have! I know, if I sit down and think, I actually am ^_^
If you knew it then why'd you ask? Dun dun!
That's good. I would if he hurt you. It's your decision, as long as your happy I'm fine.

Lmao xD
You sure?I'm sure you just got someone to type all that for you.
I asked because i wanted some advice-Something i didn't know.
Dudhdu my fault for being smart!
Aww Dad.What happened to the big,soft idiot now? emotion_kirakira
You made me smile : D

[Vanilla Hollic]

Romeigh

He's an a*****e and he's selfish as ********; cares more about his wants than your needs.

END IT...

Your post made me smile smile thanks for the advice.

[Vanilla Hollic]

-Halloween Barbie-

II Vanilla-Chan II

Thanks for the advice biggrin
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You're very welcome. I hope I was some help to you.

Thanks it did : D

[Valkyrie Of Heaven]

II Vanilla-Chan II

angel_259236102

Well, gaia kids have nothing to do with real children, and him not caring about some random online thing doesnt really mean he wont be a decent father.

But if he is getting violent, that is a bad sign, and i personally would just end it. It seems like no one wants this relationship. You parents dont like him, he doesnt really seem to care, and it kinda sounds like he really gavae up anyways.

I guess your right.I wanted him to treat the gaia children as real kids so i could see how good of a farther he was, but yeah he doesn't care.I think i should end it.Thanks.

using virtual simulations as a prep for the real thing in the case of children is NOT the way to go about it... stare

reguardless, you're fourteen. kid. grow up, go to college. wait till your out of college before you EVEN CONSIDER a man impregnating you. let alone having sex.

[ll Kimmy Kins ll]

II Vanilla-Chan II

ll Kimmy Kins ll

You should break up with him because he knows all the trouble going on with your family and he said he wants to add kids to that? You should be insulted he said he wanted to have kids with you with all the drama. Plus your parents are having another child aren't they? You don't need to add another kid to that. Obviously you don't like him much anymore. Break up with him but DO NOT jump into another relationship!!! You need time to be carefree and be a kid. Relationships are an unnecessary added stress on your life. I hope things get better <3

My family has already had the kid Kimmy.Yeah but i assume he will change, i don't think hes that violent as he used to be before, but he does get angry easily.Hes just emotional i guess.

I want to be nice since I am your friend but this thread is sort of sickening me. This guy seems like an a** and you are just smiling and joking around. I know you are a teenager but you make your life seem so hard and bothersome. I know its good to have smiles and enjoy life but once you post in the life issues thread it obviously has become a big enough problem to push you to this. This thread is meant to be very serious. You are fourteen. You are a baby. Don't even THINK about sex or babies. I'm sorry to say it but people don't really ever change unless something big happens. You said he has hit his mom? Why would you even want to be with a guy that would do that to his own mother? And then he wants to be a father. I honestly think he is the type to become violent is pushed too far. Also being with a guy who has anger issues crushes you. From personal experience, it makes you feel awful but you couldn't stop him from getting mad and makes you feel like its all your fault. Its a way of manipulation to keep you invested cause you feel like you can't do better. I don't want to sound like a b***h but as your friend I am telling you to take this more serious. Think about what you want to do with your life. You should know you can do better and the fact you have to consider this stuff at your age, he obviously isn't right for you.

[Vanilla Hollic]

Valkyrie Of Heaven

II Vanilla-Chan II

angel_259236102

Well, gaia kids have nothing to do with real children, and him not caring about some random online thing doesnt really mean he wont be a decent father.

But if he is getting violent, that is a bad sign, and i personally would just end it. It seems like no one wants this relationship. You parents dont like him, he doesnt really seem to care, and it kinda sounds like he really gavae up anyways.

I guess your right.I wanted him to treat the gaia children as real kids so i could see how good of a farther he was, but yeah he doesn't care.I think i should end it.Thanks.

using virtual simulations as a prep for the real thing in the case of children is NOT the way to go about it... stare

reguardless, you're fourteen. kid. grow up, go to college. wait till your out of college before you EVEN CONSIDER a man impregnating you. let alone having sex.

I'm sure i've seen you before.Sure i want to get pregnant but i know i shouldn't get pregnant at this age.
I guess but i wanted him to act as if they were real to see how good of a farther he was.I mean i don't want a terrible farther but i guess i can't really find out because i haven't seen the real side-And the real side is different.