Relationship Issues;Should i stay with this guy?;Hp. Issues

[Vanilla Hollic]

So yeah.I have relationship issues.
And i've noticed now almost all guys i've dated-all but one, have hurt me in so many ways.
I pretty much scream at the guy i love and he screams back now and again.Awkward.I know right?
Or at least.Sad and annoying.

Basically he wants kids with me now.Which is the problem.
He doesn't care about our gaia children,facebook children ect. and hes pretty violent.Hes capable of killing,hurting--So hes not a softie which would be even harder if we were to have kids.
He lets girls flirt with them and hes not bothered about me and my family--I mean, i have health issues, i'm not going to be with him on V-day and hes not bothered?

I basically think he likes me because i'm rich in real and sort of rich on here.Or so i'm told i'm rich on here.
But...
The problem is, i've grown an attachment to him since we've been together for 2 years.I don't want to, and find it hard to break up with him.I've never dumped a guy, because i know it kills me to say "its over" and when he dumps me i feel like drinking poison and laying there.
I've confronted him and i'm unsure if hes changing or not because everything has been quiet for so long.
My parents aren't so keen on him, nobody is in my family, but i've grown an attachment...
I also know, if i let my parents marry the man they would like me to marry, i would probably kill myself because i can't take that guy's personality;almost all men i've seen are violent to me.
Yeah, i've taken a pretty harsh road, but i don't want to give up on him, but i know its not going to end to a "peaceful" place.It never will.

....So whats your advice?And yeah, i'm sorry this is so long.I got a bit emotional okay?And i had to pour my heart into writing this piece of what you probably consider junk.
I pour my heart into everything and trust everyone, even though i shouldn't i get stabbed back-all the time.But y'know what, most people do that.And everyone has had a harsh life...Okay..I'll shut up now since i can't help but talk.

[angel_259236102]

Uh.....gaia children? Facebook children? wtf? Are you talking about he wants kids in the real world now????

[Vanilla Hollic]

angel_259236102

Uh.....gaia children? Facebook children? wtf? Are you talking about he wants kids in the real world now????

Yeah, he wanted them before too.So i told him lets see how you get on with gaia children, and hes not bothering with them (i.e talking to them yet alone looking at them or even asking about them) and then he said "i want real kids not online kids" i told him 'if your not gonna bother with online kids give me a reason why i should give you real kids.Are you even gonna bother with them too?' and he got really violent.

[angel_259236102]

Well, gaia kids have nothing to do with real children, and him not caring about some random online thing doesnt really mean he wont be a decent father.

But if he is getting violent, that is a bad sign, and i personally would just end it. It seems like no one wants this relationship. You parents dont like him, he doesnt really seem to care, and it kinda sounds like he really gavae up anyways.

[The Reapers Requiem]

hmm this is a tough situation, i believe you should break it off, but if you dont think you could really go on without him id say still break it off but tell him to take counseling on his problem, see if he can change if he does actually change for the better than give him another chance. id still recommend you break it off but i would understand if you cant.

[Vanilla Hollic]

angel_259236102

Well, gaia kids have nothing to do with real children, and him not caring about some random online thing doesnt really mean he wont be a decent father.

But if he is getting violent, that is a bad sign, and i personally would just end it. It seems like no one wants this relationship. You parents dont like him, he doesnt really seem to care, and it kinda sounds like he really gavae up anyways.

I guess your right.I wanted him to treat the gaia children as real kids so i could see how good of a farther he was, but yeah he doesn't care.I think i should end it.Thanks.

[Vanilla Hollic]

The Reapers Requiem

hmm this is a tough situation, i believe you should break it off, but if you dont think you could really go on without him id say still break it off but tell him to take counseling on his problem, see if he can change if he does actually change for the better than give him another chance. id still recommend you break it off but i would understand if you cant.

Yeah i know.Its going to be hard.But i have to learn now otherwise its going to be harder to learn later.So i'm going to try and get him to change first otherwise its over.

[Neko Namida Ame]

He won't change unless he himself wants to change.

By violent do you mean he hits you? What does he do when he gets violent?

[fubenkunai]

Honey, he is bad news. You are only 14, and he is taking advantage of that. He can see that you're inexperienced and that you haven't really had a chance to build up a backbone yet. He can also see that your family is well-off, and you wouldn't believe the trouble people like that can cause for a whole family's finances and well-being. This guy is a predator, plain and simple, and he's manipulating you with the idea of a happy family and a home of your own. The truth is, you won't have a happy, safe home with him, and you'll just end up dragging children into a volatile and pretty loveless situation. Don't. Go talk to your parents (or any older person you can trust) and ask them for help in breaking this off. It is okay to need help, and older people will have been through their first love and first break-up, so they'll understand. Your parents are right here, so trust their judgment and seek their help.

You might feel now that this is love, or that this is somehow fated to be, but it's neither. Love is not violent or one-sided, it's mutually respectful and enjoyable. It's not always easy and fun, but it's never anything like you've described. It's not fate either-- it's a bad guy knowingly using a good, trusting girl. The truth is that you should be with a nice boy who respects you, and who won't push you to do things. That he won't be violent or verbally abusive should go without saying, but I'm going to say it anyway because I want to be totally clear on that. You can have the happy family life you want, but it won't be with this guy. Break it off, take some time to get yourself back together, and try to learn as much as possible from this bad experience so you don't end up with another rotten egg in the future.

[ll Kimmy Kins ll]

You should break up with him because he knows all the trouble going on with your family and he said he wants to add kids to that? You should be insulted he said he wanted to have kids with you with all the drama. Plus your parents are having another child aren't they? You don't need to add another kid to that. Obviously you don't like him much anymore. Break up with him but DO NOT jump into another relationship!!! You need time to be carefree and be a kid. Relationships are an unnecessary added stress on your life. I hope things get better <3

[Enemy of Justice]

I definately think you should break up with him, if hes causing you this much stress you should. Breaking up with someone is hard the right decisions always are, i can't tell you what to do but thats the bit i can say since there isn't much for me to go off of.

[controlledchaos24]

This is going to be our first serious conversation! xD
Anyways back to the point. In the end, no ones opinions matter, just take some peoples advice and make the decision on your own. You can let people change your decision a bit, but in the end it's all up to you.

Think about this, if your family doesn't like him, what would they think when you marry him if you do? Long story short, I'm going to say a short story of my friends family. Ok so lets say there's a sister named Angie, and another sister, and the husband of Angie is Bob. So Angie's side of the family loved Bob, and everyone in the family, and my friend who was their daughter. Until one day Angie's sister asked for something medical (won't get into detail to much) which would put Angie's life at risk, but her sister wouldn't be and never has been. Angie turned her sister down, and now Angie's family hates her, they never speak to her, and they don't even include her as a family member. My friend hasn't seen them in years.
Either way, see one little mistake with family members can ruin a whole entire family. And most the time it's over marriages, babies, and/or money. Which is the saddest part. Families are supposed to accept each other no matter what.
Anyways back on your situation, I understand that you've been together with him for awhile, but the reason that you noticed there was an issue will only get worse in the future. Has he even done anything violent to you? If so what would he do if you had kids with him?
In my opinion with the quote "It is better to love and lost, than to never have loved at all." I think if he is violent, and had problems, then take your separate ways. I know it would be very very tough, but it would probably be easier than getting serious with him.

Another thing is, is you say he doesn't care about you, then what is he there for? If he doesn't support you, and isn't your shoulder to cry on, then leave him. Why does he want kids? So he can marry you and claim to be a family member, then get a divorce and get half of your money? I don't know, in the end it's all your decision because you know him better than anyone in the world. Other than his mother of course! Just think what it would be like in the future, does he have/plan to have a stable job in the future? Why does he want kids so desperately? Think of all the questions, and ask yourself "Why is he here for me?"

[Grandiloquence]

This guy wants to impregnate a 14 year old.
He should be chemically castrated for that reason.

Break up with him.

[!d!ot Amer!ca]

You're fourteen.
You shouldn't even be discussing all this serious crap right now.
Break up with him and be a kid.
Why do children feel the need to grow up so fast?

Twitterpated.

[zoe_owen1]

sounds abit rocky if hes been violent thats who he is dnt waste time hoping he will change you will just get hurt till u cnt take it no more, id say n** it in the bud