Practically Proposed

[Chibi Duckling]

I definitely want to take the nice route. I'm not a stomp on your face kind of person.

[Fial Neilans little moon]

Chibi Duckling

I definitely want to take the nice route. I'm not a stomp on your face kind of person.

Well if the nice route doesn't work you may have to try and do the "stomp on your face" thing. If he thinks he still has an opening with you, he may still try to get with you, in which case you will have to be mean.

(I've been lurking in this thread.)

[Chibi Duckling]

This whole thing is a conversation I dread having with him. But I know I need to do something before it gets out of hand. And... I do know how to be mean to him. I know just what I could say to put him off, because I know him that well. But it's totally a last resort kind of thing.

[Fial Neilans little moon]

Chibi Duckling

This whole thing is a conversation I dread having with him. But I know I need to do something before it gets out of hand. And... I do know how to be mean to him. I know just what I could say to put him off, because I know him that well. But it's totally a last resort kind of thing.

It's good to have it as a last resort even. As long as you have it as some option down the road it'll be good because this is all based on what ifs. The more important thing is telling him that you are uncomfortable with this roller coaster with him and you want to be just friends with him.

re-reading the OP though, he sounds like an a**. He wanted the open relationship just to be with that other girl and since you were having such feelings of jealousy, he decided to drop you for her. I mean, how long were he and this other girl not together before he started spewing the "I love you and want to spend forever with you"?

[Chibi Duckling]

sweetcharades1234

It's good to have it as a last resort even. As long as you have it as some option down the road it'll be good because this is all based on what ifs. The more important thing is telling him that you are uncomfortable with this roller coaster with him and you want to be just friends with him.

re-reading the OP though, he sounds like an a**. He wanted the open relationship just to be with that other girl and since you were having such feelings of jealousy, he decided to drop you for her. I mean, how long were he and this other girl not together before he started spewing the "I love you and want to spend forever with you"?

He was actually only dating her for about a month. He broke up with me the end of May, dated her until Fourth of July when she dumped him, and it's only been in the past two weeks that he's been saying "I love you and want to spend forever with you." He says around mid-September is when he realized he was actually in love with me. This was after the semester had been over for two months and as I said, he didn't start confessing this stuff until right around Halloween.

[Fial Neilans little moon]

Chibi Duckling

sweetcharades1234

It's good to have it as a last resort even. As long as you have it as some option down the road it'll be good because this is all based on what ifs. The more important thing is telling him that you are uncomfortable with this roller coaster with him and you want to be just friends with him.

re-reading the OP though, he sounds like an a**. He wanted the open relationship just to be with that other girl and since you were having such feelings of jealousy, he decided to drop you for her. I mean, how long were he and this other girl not together before he started spewing the "I love you and want to spend forever with you"?

He was actually only dating her for about a month. He broke up with me the end of May, dated her until Fourth of July when she dumped him, and it's only been in the past two weeks that he's been saying "I love you and want to spend forever with you." He says around mid-September is when he realized he was actually in love with me. This was after the semester had been over for two months and as I said, he didn't start confessing this stuff until right around Halloween.

Eh... I'd still be wary of if he truly means it. Mid-September he could have realized how lonely he was and then he remembered how good you guys were together before he ******** it up and how much you loved him. He wants to feel loved I'm sure and I don't think it's necessarily you he wants.

[Chibi Duckling]

sweetcharades1234

Eh... I'd still be wary of if he truly means it. Mid-September he could have realized how lonely he was and then he remembered how good you guys were together before he ******** it up and how much you loved him. He wants to feel loved I'm sure and I don't think it's necessarily you he wants.

I'm all for treading carefully. For now, I'm going to get him to back off. I want to see him in person before I do anything. I want to see how he acts around me and around other people and gauge if it's any different than before. After all that's happened, I am wanting to be super observative about all of this.

[Fial Neilans little moon]

Chibi Duckling

sweetcharades1234

Eh... I'd still be wary of if he truly means it. Mid-September he could have realized how lonely he was and then he remembered how good you guys were together before he ******** it up and how much you loved him. He wants to feel loved I'm sure and I don't think it's necessarily you he wants.

I'm all for treading carefully. For now, I'm going to get him to back off. I want to see him in person before I do anything. I want to see how he acts around me and around other people and gauge if it's any different than before. After all that's happened, I am wanting to be super observative about all of this.

Personally, I'd do about a month of observation. A week or two is easy for someone to fake how they've changed.

[Chibi Duckling]

There's a high probability that I may not see him again for about a year. I have been carefully scrutinizing his messages to me, and will continue to do so.

[Fial Neilans little moon]

Chibi Duckling

There's a high probability that I may not see him again for about a year. I have been carefully scrutinizing his messages to me, and will continue to do so.

Sounds good. As long as you're wary of him, let him know that you are. He needs to realize that you don't love him like you used to as well. It's his loss since he's the one that screwed everything up. He can't get it back the way it was.

[Chibi Duckling]

sweetcharades1234

Sounds good. As long as you're wary of him, let him know that you are. He needs to realize that you don't love him like you used to as well. It's his loss since he's the one that screwed everything up. He can't get it back the way it was.

He knows I'm wary of him. I just need to remind him due to these recent events. He knows he gets no second chance with me until he is clear of this problem of his. But I do need to make it clear that I don't love him like I used to.

[Fial Neilans little moon]

Chibi Duckling

sweetcharades1234

Sounds good. As long as you're wary of him, let him know that you are. He needs to realize that you don't love him like you used to as well. It's his loss since he's the one that screwed everything up. He can't get it back the way it was.

He knows I'm wary of him. I just need to remind him due to these recent events. He knows he gets no second chance with me until he is clear of this problem of his. But I do need to make it clear that I don't love him like I used to.

Yeah. There is a chance that if he's desperate for someone to love him and doesn't care who and thinks you still love him like you used to, that he will back off immediately when you tell him you don't and find someone to love him, because that's all he really wants, not you. But if that is not the case, at least you told him how you really feel.

[Chibi Duckling]

sweetcharades1234

Yeah. There is a chance that if he's desperate for someone to love him and doesn't care who and thinks you still love him like you used to, that he will back off immediately when you tell him you don't and find someone to love him, because that's all he really wants, not you. But if that is not the case, at least you told him how you really feel.

I don't think it's that way, actually. I know he feels lonely but I don't think he'll lose interest if I tell him how I feel. But you never know.