thatonechick101
Fireweed_honey
Okay, quick update:
So, I asked the messenger a very important question: Where did my friend (who owns the house we meet at) stand in all this? (The messenger, btw, was the spouse, so did have the authority to give me the news). I was told my friend wasn't happy with the decision.
Well, I sent my friend a text. Nothing major nor point blaming. It was just a simple, "Can't make it out this weekend, something came up". She's been ignoring me ever since, so I don't think "middle" is the right word for where she stood. Sadly, I believe I lost a friend over some matter I have no clue over.
She doesn't sound like that good of a friend if she didn't confront you with whatever was bothering her and made someone else tell you the news.
I'm giving it about two weeks to settle and then I'm inviting her out to lunch. I am owed an explanation. I don't care who said what, honestly, since I have an inkling as to who was the instigator, but I do have a right to know what was said. All I've gotten back is "There is no reason" from the husband/messenger, and I call BS on that. That is just so Middle School, really. We are adults and I would have thought we moved past the whole, "OMG, I totally don't want X in the group. Like, get rid of her or else" stage in life. And if that was all it took to get me tossed out, then I have lost a friend to something so childish.