My spouse doesn't know I do stuff on cam for money

[Mavydoll]

And by stuff- porn.
Like, with myself or friends for money (courtesy of paypal).
I bring in around 400$ a week doing this 5 nights a week, without the friends... About 600$ with the friends. Sometimes it's gift cards andd other things.
He use to be okay with it when it wasn't for money/etc. When we talked, he said he'd be upset if it was for actually money, and just not pleasure.

Can someone help me make sense out of this?
He works 6 days a week away from home, so I see him for 7 hours every week.
Talking is difficult, even though communication is the key.

[Ares Affection]

Mavydoll

And by stuff- porn.
Like, with myself or friends for money (courtesy of paypal).
I bring in around 400$ a week doing this 5 nights a week, without the friends... About 600$ with the friends. Sometimes it's gift cards andd other things.
He use to be okay with it when it wasn't for money/etc. When we talked, he said he'd be upset if it was for actually money, and just not pleasure.

Can someone help me make sense out of this?
He works 6 days a week away from home, so I see him for 7 hours every week.
Talking is difficult, even though communication is the key.

hey are u alright?

[Mavydoll]

WARxGOD Ares

Mavydoll

And by stuff- porn.
Like, with myself or friends for money (courtesy of paypal).
I bring in around 400$ a week doing this 5 nights a week, without the friends... About 600$ with the friends. Sometimes it's gift cards andd other things.
He use to be okay with it when it wasn't for money/etc. When we talked, he said he'd be upset if it was for actually money, and just not pleasure.

Can someone help me make sense out of this?
He works 6 days a week away from home, so I see him for 7 hours every week.
Talking is difficult, even though communication is the key.

hey are u alright?

totes good. just need some advice from strangers

[Spotofhonesty]

I'm at a total lost on this one. He's ok with you playing with yourself infront of others as long as you aren't getting paid for it....... Yeah I got nothing.

I'd think if he were ok with you showing off, getting paid would be a extra bonus!

[Mavydoll]

Spotofhonesty

I'm at a total lost on this one. He's ok with you playing with yourself infront of others as long as you aren't getting paid for it....... Yeah I got nothing.

I'd think if he were ok with you showing off, getting paid would be a extra bonus!

He thinks it makes me a slut if I get paid, but just a horny girl (with him being gone) if I don't get paid

[xxChrissehxx]

Either way it's a horny girl getting off on cam and it shouldn't matter. You can always say that the money you're making is helping you live and do things you want.

Personally I don't see why he thinks it's different when it kind of isn't. It isn't like you're going out and getting paid to do it with another person...

[Mavydoll]

xxChrissehxx

Either way it's a horny girl getting off on cam and it shouldn't matter. You can always say that the money you're making is helping you live and do things you want.

Personally I don't see why he thinks it's different when it kind of isn't. It isn't like you're going out and getting paid to do it with another person...

I actually do pay some bills with the money. its not just sitting there in the bank. lol

I actually have my old ******** buddies come in for some cam sessions, which is why i make a little more in the week

[angel_259236102]

Well, what do you want advice on? You are being stupid really. You talked about it, he said he didnt like the idea.........and you did it anyways. And you are doing it with OTHER peopel too. Yeah, communication is key. You lack it completely. Why are you even with a guy who you dont respect at all?

[xxChrissehxx]

Mavydoll

xxChrissehxx

Either way it's a horny girl getting off on cam and it shouldn't matter. You can always say that the money you're making is helping you live and do things you want.

Personally I don't see why he thinks it's different when it kind of isn't. It isn't like you're going out and getting paid to do it with another person...

I actually do pay some bills with the money. its not just sitting there in the bank. lol

I actually have my old ******** buddies come in for some cam sessions, which is why i make a little more in the week

But do your ******** buddies pay you for sex? If no then it's not the same thing.

Plus! I still say that if you're not going to meet these people that you get the money from it shouldn't matter.

[Mavydoll]

xxChrissehxx

Mavydoll

xxChrissehxx

Either way it's a horny girl getting off on cam and it shouldn't matter. You can always say that the money you're making is helping you live and do things you want.

Personally I don't see why he thinks it's different when it kind of isn't. It isn't like you're going out and getting paid to do it with another person...

I actually do pay some bills with the money. its not just sitting there in the bank. lol

I actually have my old ******** buddies come in for some cam sessions, which is why i make a little more in the week

But do your ******** buddies pay you for sex? If no then it's not the same thing.

Plus! I still say that if you're not going to meet these people that you get the money from it shouldn't matter.

i pay them (part of the profit)

ah okay.
but how exactly do i break it to my hubby on the whole being paid

angel_259236102

we've been married for going on 4 years. i respect him, and he respects the fact he cant please me.
so you're saying i should let people watch me do whatever on cam for free then?

[angel_259236102]

Mavydoll

we've been married for going on 4 years. i respect him, and he respects the fact he cant please me. so you're saying i should let people watch me do whatever on cam for free then?

If that is what you talked about and agreed on...yes. No, you DONT respect him. If you did you wouldnt go behind his back and do that. If he was okay with it being free, then do it free.

Really, when you are paid, it stops being a matter of 'he cant please' you.

[xxChrissehxx]

Mavydoll

xxChrissehxx

Mavydoll

xxChrissehxx

Either way it's a horny girl getting off on cam and it shouldn't matter. You can always say that the money you're making is helping you live and do things you want.

Personally I don't see why he thinks it's different when it kind of isn't. It isn't like you're going out and getting paid to do it with another person...

I actually do pay some bills with the money. its not just sitting there in the bank. lol

I actually have my old ******** buddies come in for some cam sessions, which is why i make a little more in the week

But do your ******** buddies pay you for sex? If no then it's not the same thing.

Plus! I still say that if you're not going to meet these people that you get the money from it shouldn't matter.

i pay them (part of the profit)

ah okay.
but how exactly do i break it to my hubby on the whole being paid

angel_259236102

we've been married for going on 4 years. i respect him, and he respects the fact he cant please me.
so you're saying i should let people watch me do whatever on cam for free then?

I don't think you should tell him UNLESS he asks where you got the money. If he asks you sit him down and you calmly explain it to him. I mean if you need the money to be able to live in the house/apartment you guys are living in then he should understand.

[!d!ot Amer!ca]

Um... So he knows you do it?
I'm so confused on all of this for some reason.
He lets you basically create pornography for money?
You're like an internet hooker lol.
Anyway.
Explain to him that the money helps?
I honestly don't know anything else to say.

Staying like this until I reach 14,000,000.

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[DXnobodyX]

Apparently he has a problem with you doing it for money because it becomes something similar to prostitution or adult film, if it were for free the only reason someone would do it was because they enjoyed it or thought they did. He wants you to get sexual enjoyment, not be objectified by others. Seeing a sex therapist would be a far better answer to all your problems.

[Inscriven]

It makes sense.

When it was just for fun, it just seems like indulging in a fetish, you wanted an open relationship and maybe he didn't mind that other people got off to you, and maybe he did have a bit of a cuckold streak which made him cool with what you were doing before.

But now that you're doing it for money, it's gone beyond that. Now you're just a pornstar/prostitute/whore. Now it's not so fun, now you're monetizing and capitalizing on the relatinoship's failures. Now his own insecurities and failures in the bedroom are now made much more real, when his wife is being a slut online ******** other guys for money it makes him look incredibly weak and impotent, and worthless, and the nature of this being online, makes it a possibility that someone will recognize you, or your ******** and make everyone's life a living hell.

You were allowed an impressive amount of liberty in your sex life and his only condition apparently was that you not try to monetize your extramarital fun; However when given an inch you took a mile and by doing that have immensely disrespected him. Wasn't enough that you cuckolded him, but you made your own personal gain more important than his thoughts and feelings. This goes way against the love and respect you claim to have for this guy. Cuckold relationships aren't healthy or respectful situations to begin with, they prey on men who have weakened or no self esteem by selfish, self indulgent wives. The whole humiliation aspect of it is part of the kink.

If you don't want your marriage to fail then you need to have a heart to with him about the whole thing and be honest about what you did, say it straight out without the sugar coating. He sure as hell won't be happy with you, but that's what you reap for disrespecting his wishes. Both of your aims, motives, and desires need to be openly discussed and boundaries need to be drawn (or redrawn), and you both *must abide by them*. Sometimes they may not make a whole lot of logical sense, but the nature of relationships are emotional, not logical. --And perspective must be taken that it's better than nothing at all.

If that doesn't work and you're incapable or unwilling to reel yourself back into control for him, then drawing up the papers will be an eventuality. If you can't be trusted to be upfront and honest, then what's the point?