My gfs family hates me...

[PeePeeBaconSizzle]

so ive been with my gf for three years and im jus now finding out that her WHOLE family hates me and doesnt want us together. And that makes me uncomfortable as ********...
So i dont know what to do, well actually i do im considering breaking up with her. i mean i cant make them like me and i was under the impression that they did, but no, they hate me.
What do you think? Any advice or comments are appreciated.

[Monster Pup]

iMight69You

so ive been with my gf for three years and im jus now finding out that her WHOLE family hates me and doesnt want us together. And that makes me uncomfortable as ********...
So i dont know what to do, well actually i do im considering breaking up with her. i mean i cant make them like me and i was under the impression that they did, but no, they hate me.
What do you think? Any advice or comments are appreciated.

Why do they hate you? And how did you find out? What did you do really depends on the situation so more details would be appreciated.

[PeePeeBaconSizzle]

Mmmm lets see...
i took her virginity
broke someones jaw for stealing her from me
im black
3years into our relationship she cheated on me and i wrote "******** you b***h" across her deceased brothers jacket
and then there was the time her mom was talkin s**t to me and called me a ******** a drug addict and i told her she was a ******** meth junkie who sleeps with her dealer, bcus her mom used to smoke meth, A LOT.

[PeePeeBaconSizzle]

and she jus randomly told me. i was like "isnt your family gettin tired of us breaking up and getting back together" shes like yaaa.....they kinda sorta hate you. But its okay because i love you and thats all that matters.

[Elusive Bookworm]

• • • I can be your Ƭιиќєяᴃәḹḹ and....

Well, it is obvious why they have a strong dislike for you. However, having had an issue in the past similar to yours where my ex- thought my mom hated him (so he called it quits because of my mother and that hurt like hell), this is what I personal believe: You're not dating her family, you're dating her. If you love her and want to be with her then you just suck it up and take it like a man.You may get annoyed with her family and they may hate you, but they have reason enough because of some of the things you've done in the past. You're not going to make them like you, but maybe you can just sit down with them like an adult and try to find a solution and just tell them that you love their daughter and they just are going to have to accept that.

It really isn't fair to give up on your girlfriend because of her family. She didn't choose her family, but she is choosing you, so that really is all that should matter. It may stress you out, but it is something you have to deal with. Trust me, my own grandparents hate my mother because they believe she manipulates my father to dislike them. However, she deals with it because she loves my father more than anything. Sometimes you just have to take the good and the bad in a situation like this and make the best of it.

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[Your Akina]

I think you've got some other serious problems to look into besides your girlfriend's family disliking you.

[Tzagnos Zorba]

Your Akina

I think you've got some other serious problems to look into besides your girlfriend's family disliking you.

I think she summed it up above. Seriously - after reading what you wrote I can understand her family hating you. Have you considered that this girl is probably better off with someone else? First off you broke someone's jaw for stealing her from you... unless they physically kidnapped her it's impossible to "steal" someone from you - if she cheated on you with that person then she's as much to blame as that other guy was. You ruined her deceased brothers jacket?... and is there some reason you blame her deceased brother or her family or did you just do that because you were mad in general and have no self control? You get in arguements with and are disrespectful to her mom and apparently from the jacket incident the whole family. These aren't the actions of a mature man but of a raging little boy throwing a temper trantrum. And now because she says they hate you, you're considering dumping her. If you loved her you wouldn't even be considering that and I think in all honesty you'd treat her better. You sound like you're talking about property instead of a person and it sounds like you need some serious anger managment classes. This isn't meant to be a personal attack but maybe to offer you an alternate view as to how your behavior may be a legitimate reason for them to dislike you and if you change your temper throwing and poor behavior then they wouldn't have any reason to "hate" you. She may be your girlfriend now... but she'll be their daughter forever and they are going to feel protective of her as long you have the behavior patterns of a hoodlum.

[CoffeCat24]

Who the ******** cares? Family in law are assholes 90% of the time anyway.

If you're actually considering breaking up with your girlfriend over something like this. Well, maybe they have good reason to not like you.

Sometimes you have to prove yourself. Sometimes they're just assholes. If something like this is a deal breaker you probably shouldn't even be with your girlfriend of three years.

PS, I probably wouldn't like you and it's not because of your skin color. I know a lot of people jump to that as being an excuse but let's rise above, no?

[Kori_Okami]

iMight69You

Mmmm lets see...
i took her virginity
broke someones jaw for stealing her from me
im black
3years into our relationship she cheated on me and i wrote "******** you b***h" across her deceased brothers jacket
and then there was the time her mom was talkin s**t to me and called me a ******** a drug addict and i told her she was a ******** meth junkie who sleeps with her dealer, bcus her mom used to smoke meth, A LOT.

If I was her, I would have broken up with you for all the reason above except for the taking her virginity. So yeah, break up with her.

[Violet-Shay]

Tzagnos Zorba

Your Akina

I think you've got some other serious problems to look into besides your girlfriend's family disliking you.

I think she summed it up above. Seriously - after reading what you wrote I can understand her family hating you. Have you considered that this girl is probably better off with someone else? First off you broke someone's jaw for stealing her from you... unless they physically kidnapped her it's impossible to "steal" someone from you - if she cheated on you with that person then she's as much to blame as that other guy was. You ruined her deceased brothers jacket?... and is there some reason you blame her deceased brother or her family or did you just do that because you were mad in general and have no self control? You get in arguements with and are disrespectful to her mom and apparently from the jacket incident the whole family. These aren't the actions of a mature man but of a raging little boy throwing a temper trantrum. And now because she says they hate you, you're considering dumping her. If you loved her you wouldn't even be considering that and I think in all honesty you'd treat her better. You sound like you're talking about property instead of a person and it sounds like you need some serious anger managment classes. This isn't meant to be a personal attack but maybe to offer you an alternate view as to how your behavior may be a legitimate reason for them to dislike you and if you change your temper throwing and poor behavior then they wouldn't have any reason to "hate" you. She may be your girlfriend now... but she'll be their daughter forever and they are going to feel protective of her as long you have the behavior patterns of a hoodlum.

Yeah this.

[felliscity]

Who cares about them? My boyfriend's parents hate me, and well, I hate them too (for a good reason), but so does he so thats okay.
All you can do is be good to your girlfriend and stop ******** up, and maybe they will forgive you.

[!d!ot Amer!ca]

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From the sounds of it, breaking up would benefit her greatly. neutral

That's what I was thinking lol.

Staying like this until I reach 12,000,000.

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[Cuddlefish2011]

hun, i've been with my bf for 2 years, we are 4 months into our 3rd year. My family DESPISES him, and his family would LOVE to see me dead on the street. And like you i thought his family really liked me, in fact they treated my boyfriend like a human being just so i'd think they were good people. Because I don't speak spanish, whenever at their family gatherings, they'd talk s**t about me right in front of me in Spanish because they knew i couldn't understand. It's caused alot of problems for us.

One thing we do is we try to talk to each other every night. When I get my A.A. degree in a couple years, he and I should have enough money to get our own place, and when we do, we aren't letting either of our families get involved in our relationship anymore.

Don't leave her because of her family. Do you think she's the one for you? If it wasn't for her family, would you want to stay with her? If so, stick it out, and just be polite with her family, or don't even associate with them.

[Ealain na Realtai]

Sooo in response to her family hating you and then you telling us some reasons why, I'd have to say that the last two were pretty ******** up.
I know that if I had a child who's boyfriend/girlfriend called me a drug addict who sleeps with her dealer and wrote "******** you b***h" on my deceased child's jacket, I wouldn't be too crazy about them either.
And if you're going to dump her because of this whole thing, then you don't deserve her.
Hell, my parents aren't crazy about my boyfriend, but I wouldn't dump him because of it and vice versa.
Also, going on and off again isn't healthy in a relationship and can lead to trust issues.
Just sayin'.
{Déan ealaín gach lá agus teacht ar do na réaltaí gach oíche.}