And The Sun Shines
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- Posted: Mon, 14 Apr 2014 09:35:06 +0000
really sorry for this wall of text, you can skip to "onto the point" bit if you want aha, it`s mostly rambling/background info.
it isn't like i haven't tried to let him down gently. i have a boyfriend that i am (was? ******** let's not go there) happily with, and i was sure to inform him of that and he understood. it's just a nice precursor of, "hey, i'm not sleeping with you."
i know he likes me, i've known he's liked me for like half a year now, and i've tried to keep up friendship relations when he is too touchy-feely and buys me things and comes to my dorm to drop off girl scout cookies or whatever. he even tries to impress me on League of Legends. like.. i'm sorry, you aren't better than me and getting frustrated about it is not attractive (kinda irrelevant but annoying nonetheless).
he became more aggressive about his advances during the recent fight i had with my boyfriend. he did the standard "pester me" routine and i informed him i'd had a shitty day and didn't want to do anything with him. i suppose i tend to just blow him off a lot (since the amount of time he wants to spend with me is unreal) so he's started ignoring it ? which is creeper sign number one, by the way. when i finally admitted to boyfriend trouble it got a lot worse. he`d come over unannounced and i`d have to answer the door - i have a roomate so the time`s i haven`t she does. he doesn`t let me leave his presence without some "hug quota" which, despite mentioning that i have a distaste for touchy things like that with people, is completely ignored. he`ll pick me up, spin me around, squeeze me, and i tell him he shouldn`t do these things and he thinks it`s cute or something. i`m a grown woman. it isn`t cute. it`s creepy.
ANYWAYS ONTO THE POINT
anyways. friday night i was playing some games with friends of mine with my headphones on, when one of them mentioned they heard a knocking sound. my roommate leaves friday - sunday to see her boyfriend, i think ? i never really asked where she went but anyways. i turn off my music and lo and behold.. someone`s knocking on my door. it`s 3 am. i start to panic, because i`m an 18 year old girl all alone in a college dorm and i forgot to lock the door after i got home from class. i think some guy`s gonna come in and i don`t really know, bad things, and my friends are trying to calm me down and eventually advise me to lock the door before they try to open it.
so yeah, i go do that, because the knocking is now pounding and it sounds like someone really wants inside. by now i`ve realized it`s probably some drunk person who lost the key to their dorm and thinks that my dorm is theirs, so wants inside. when i check the peephole, though... its this kid. 3 am. he doesn`t live in my building, even, and i live on the second floor so its not like its an idle walk to my place or anything. it takes a conscious effort. i`m a little miffed but i don`t want to answer, so i go away, because any normal person would be asleep at 3 am so he should just go away.
when i go to sit back down, i hear the door knob being turned. oh my god he was going to come inside, guys. i`m still freaking out. i haven`t actually gone outside since because that is terrifying. i hear more knocking for a bit and it finally fades away, and i proceed to panic while my friends crack jokes about the guy and how creepy he is. it cheered me up, for what it`s worth, but sleeping was hard that night. ugh. it`s still hard. it`s 4:30 am here aha.
he messaged me yesterday night [ in a group chat ] saying something like, "if i was just a little more drunk i`d totally come over like i wanted to last night".
i`m sure he thought i`d slept through his INCESSANT BANGING, KNOCKING, AND ATTEMPT TO OPEN MY DOOR, but made an idle comment about it because he was drunk. i thought about it for a long time before commenting that he did visit - because someone had been banging on my door and "woke me up" the night before. he immediately switched to private chat and said he was really sorry, which was his only response when i tried to explain to him why you shouldn`t do that to people.
not to mention i already have a problem with drunk people, and he knows this. i get that drunk people do whatever the hell they want, but that`s just really scary to me. like, he wanted to come inside my dorm at 3 am, regardless as to whether i let him in or not.
what do i do ? seriously. i`m taking a break from college next semester due to many factors, but he is definitely one of them ... the only advice i`ve gotten is to steer clear; there are only 2 weeks left of classes before i can never see him again, i just have to tough it out... but i want the problem resolved. i`m done being his friend after this, i think, because wow the creep factor is unreal... but i`d like to have him get why you can`t just creep on pretty girls ? idk.
it isn't like i haven't tried to let him down gently. i have a boyfriend that i am (was? ******** let's not go there) happily with, and i was sure to inform him of that and he understood. it's just a nice precursor of, "hey, i'm not sleeping with you."
i know he likes me, i've known he's liked me for like half a year now, and i've tried to keep up friendship relations when he is too touchy-feely and buys me things and comes to my dorm to drop off girl scout cookies or whatever. he even tries to impress me on League of Legends. like.. i'm sorry, you aren't better than me and getting frustrated about it is not attractive (kinda irrelevant but annoying nonetheless).
he became more aggressive about his advances during the recent fight i had with my boyfriend. he did the standard "pester me" routine and i informed him i'd had a shitty day and didn't want to do anything with him. i suppose i tend to just blow him off a lot (since the amount of time he wants to spend with me is unreal) so he's started ignoring it ? which is creeper sign number one, by the way. when i finally admitted to boyfriend trouble it got a lot worse. he`d come over unannounced and i`d have to answer the door - i have a roomate so the time`s i haven`t she does. he doesn`t let me leave his presence without some "hug quota" which, despite mentioning that i have a distaste for touchy things like that with people, is completely ignored. he`ll pick me up, spin me around, squeeze me, and i tell him he shouldn`t do these things and he thinks it`s cute or something. i`m a grown woman. it isn`t cute. it`s creepy.
ANYWAYS ONTO THE POINT
anyways. friday night i was playing some games with friends of mine with my headphones on, when one of them mentioned they heard a knocking sound. my roommate leaves friday - sunday to see her boyfriend, i think ? i never really asked where she went but anyways. i turn off my music and lo and behold.. someone`s knocking on my door. it`s 3 am. i start to panic, because i`m an 18 year old girl all alone in a college dorm and i forgot to lock the door after i got home from class. i think some guy`s gonna come in and i don`t really know, bad things, and my friends are trying to calm me down and eventually advise me to lock the door before they try to open it.
so yeah, i go do that, because the knocking is now pounding and it sounds like someone really wants inside. by now i`ve realized it`s probably some drunk person who lost the key to their dorm and thinks that my dorm is theirs, so wants inside. when i check the peephole, though... its this kid. 3 am. he doesn`t live in my building, even, and i live on the second floor so its not like its an idle walk to my place or anything. it takes a conscious effort. i`m a little miffed but i don`t want to answer, so i go away, because any normal person would be asleep at 3 am so he should just go away.
when i go to sit back down, i hear the door knob being turned. oh my god he was going to come inside, guys. i`m still freaking out. i haven`t actually gone outside since because that is terrifying. i hear more knocking for a bit and it finally fades away, and i proceed to panic while my friends crack jokes about the guy and how creepy he is. it cheered me up, for what it`s worth, but sleeping was hard that night. ugh. it`s still hard. it`s 4:30 am here aha.
he messaged me yesterday night [ in a group chat ] saying something like, "if i was just a little more drunk i`d totally come over like i wanted to last night".
i`m sure he thought i`d slept through his INCESSANT BANGING, KNOCKING, AND ATTEMPT TO OPEN MY DOOR, but made an idle comment about it because he was drunk. i thought about it for a long time before commenting that he did visit - because someone had been banging on my door and "woke me up" the night before. he immediately switched to private chat and said he was really sorry, which was his only response when i tried to explain to him why you shouldn`t do that to people.
not to mention i already have a problem with drunk people, and he knows this. i get that drunk people do whatever the hell they want, but that`s just really scary to me. like, he wanted to come inside my dorm at 3 am, regardless as to whether i let him in or not.
what do i do ? seriously. i`m taking a break from college next semester due to many factors, but he is definitely one of them ... the only advice i`ve gotten is to steer clear; there are only 2 weeks left of classes before i can never see him again, i just have to tough it out... but i want the problem resolved. i`m done being his friend after this, i think, because wow the creep factor is unreal... but i`d like to have him get why you can`t just creep on pretty girls ? idk.