My boyfriend (topic pretty much solved)

[Gabbie808]

Isurugi Noe

froggymama89

Its different for everyone. I would be very upset if I found my husband looking at porn. I work very hard to make it easier on him to have eyes for only me. and I don't care if it's porn or some chick on MSN its a woman other than me and he shouldn't be looking at her tits. Whats retarded the idea of porn addiction? Some people have it. Just like gambling addictions.

I totally agree with you. I wish he'd only have eyes for me sad

highly unlikely that'll happen. That's like saying you shouldn't be attracted to anybody other than your bf. I love my guy to pieces, but that doesn't mean I'm not going to find other people attractive and I don't even dig porn to be honest. I used to be hella uptight about my husband watching porn when we were first dating. I just let him know don't expect any lovin' if that's what it takes to get you going. Don't get me wrong we were still boinking but porn wasn't part of the menu. If it's just the porn then you or him either have to compromise or break it off.

[A Redhead Angel]

Isurugi Noe

A Redhead Angel

This would probably bother me to an existent as well. I can see how it would make you feel inadequate or that he isn't attracted to you because you arn't ______.

HOWEVER, I look at porn and I tend to go for the less Hollywood type of porn, not really amateur, but I don't dig the over produced, vomit inducing, tacky dialogue found in big budget porn. AND I look at white women...not black men, which is what my boyfriend happens to be. This doesn't mean I am not attracted to him. In fact, I think he would be more upset if I were looking at other black men online...he would see that as him not being adequate for me. It could be that your boyfriend wants to look at something different. Perhaps you are a great blond, Irish girl so he doesn't have to look at them...he just goes online to look at raven haired asian women. (just a hypo- I have no idea what you look like) Exotic is Erotic- What we don't see everyday is exciting. If you were asian he might be looking at irish girls...


However, none of this excused asking for real live girls for pictures...or even cybering with them.

That's just the thing. I'm not an everyday kind of girl. I'm mixed and could probably be considered exotic, I think he's even said I was before too. even their body types aren't even similar to mine. the amateur porn he looks at, these people look like the kind of people you pass by in the streets. it really bothers me because they're so REAL.

Obviously with asking REAL girls on Msn and looking at as REAL of porn as he can get.....the guy is trying to be as real as possible without actually cheating. I would really consider this as a problem. I know you dont want to leave him...it is scary and sad, but I dont really know what else to say! You met online so obviously he isn't against online dating. The internet gives a whole new dimension to a person's lifestyle People can do a WHOLE lot of stuff online without anyone knowing.

[Angels0nAcid]

Hes a pervert... 3nodding

[Vimala]

Talk to him, until you reach some sort of agreeme..nt. *sigh*

Just dump the guy if he can't be truthful.
A relationship without trust isnt a relationship worth having.

[Kryst3n]

Stop taking his excuses. He said he would stop how many times? I think by now it is pretty obvious that he is going to continue doing exactly what he wants to do. He also doesn't seem to care about your feeling either. So if you really want a better guy, he's not going to be that guy. You should break up with him.

[Gentlesquid]

Vimala

Talk to him, until you reach some sort of agreeme..nt. *sigh*

Just dump the guy if he can't be truthful.
A relationship without trust isnt a relationship worth having.

[Milk Cherry]

Ask other guys on MSN for nude pictures. Save them. When he goes "What's the deal?" You can be like, "just doing what you do to me. See, you don't like it either." Then, "Either you stop it completely, or I'm gone."

Though honestly, you should just dump him. If he wants to look at something different each and every night, then he shouldn't be in a relationship with you. Not to mention constant relapse, he's lying. Lose the loser.

[ll iBazill ll]

Milk Cherry

Ask other guys on MSN for nude pictures. Save them. When he goes "What's the deal?" You can be like, "just doing what you do to me. See, you don't like it either." Then, "Either you stop it completely, or I'm gone."

Though honestly, you should just dump him. If he wants to look at something different each and every night, then he shouldn't be in a relationship with you. Not to mention constant relapse, he's lying. Lose the loser.

This.

[Alexander R S]

This is a big, hot, throbbing decision.

I'm not going to get into it. Work this out for yourself.

[Kori_Okami]

Dump his a** and move out. You don't need to take that s**t.

If he KEEPS doing it, then he will CONTINUE to keep doing it.....

Or you could just get one of those parent lock things were you can block certain words or phrases on a computer.

[Sie Lieben]

Watching porn is OKAY.
Only if you say it's okay.
Put your foot down! If you don't like it tell him!
And you will have to be the one to stop it! or dump him!

[Serena WildStar]

Somewhere along the way of my fiance and I dating I got to the point where I hated him looking at porn...anything other then me. I have a big jealous streak in me and I've also seen what porn can do to a relationship if it gets out of hand. Well he's looked it at a few times and his excuse is "You were sleeping" He knows how I get when I find it or if I pry it out of him...He's never asked a irl for naked pictures though...if he did that I'd leave him. None the less when they few times I found out he did look at it, I got upset and he said he was sorry and I mean more to him then porn does.
It's a touchy subject for me and he knows it so I give him credit for either not looking at it or IF he does not saving random s**t and leaving it there.

I have enough old trust issues I'm trying to get rid of if he pulled that "Ask a girl for naked pics" online on me I'd be gone.

[Dizzles]

http://i33.tinypic.com/2jbqrg0.pngPeople are talkin' 'bout the way I'm walkin', troubled by the change in my stride...

Now, the porn thing I can understand. Sometimes when a guy gets that urge in the middle of the day for no reason, you're not around and he has to rub one out to make it go away. That's what porn is for. But the s**t about asking girls over MSN for naked pictures? What is he doing getting close enough to these girls to feel comfortable asking for said pictures in the first place?

That's borderline cheating, imo. He's obviously formed some kind of bond with these girls, so maybe he's setting himself up to have someone to go to when you finally get fed up with his lying and insincere apologies and dump his a**.

Which, imo, you should have done the second or third time he gave you his song-and-dance routine.

Everyone's askin' 'bout the way I'm actin', bothered by the look in my eyes...http://i33.tinypic.com/2jbqrg0.png

[code0fvulgarism]

I don't understand why you are still with this guy.
I am sure you think you love him and he SAYS he loves you...
But asking for naked pictures and s**t is really ********.
A lot of times when guys ask for that they are talking dirty and stuff too..
Abusive relationship 101: Guy repeatedly does something, then apologizes for it.
Basically it isn't GOING to end, and honestly
I am sure he has done more than just ASK for the photos...
He is prolly getting off to their words too.
I hope you aren't one of those idiots who just keeps taking it until
the relationship gets more controlling xD