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So let me start by introducing myself and my boyfriend and give you a little background info. I'm Sidney, I'm 15. My boyfriend, Yanni, is also 15 but is 4 days older than me. I have known him since the 5th grade where we went to the same school and were great friends but never really that close. He had moved to Independent Study in the 7th grade where we lost contact. However, in late December of 2009, our Freshman year of high school, we regained contact via MySpace. He started coming over a lot and I started to like him a lot. He confessed his love for me in April 2010. He told me he had loved me since he first laid eyes on me. He asked me out on July 16th, 2010. I said yes. We have been dating exactly 3 months and 2 days. I had a past love interest, but nothing ever became of it besides a few depressing poems and a broken heart. We never dated or did anything. I got over it around January 2010. I had written one of the poems upon my wall awhile back and when Yanni came over, he read it and was curious about who broke my heart. I told him it didn't really matter because it wasn't broken anymore, but he was persistent. I told him about 3 weeks ago the whole story but reassured him that it was nothing but an old fling. A few weeks before that he had been getting text messages from a girl named Kassandra saying that she loved him and such things one should not say to a taken boy. I became quizzical but said nothing on the matter besides telling her that he was taken and should keep her feelings to herself if that would be fine with her with Yanni's consent. She complied for the time I was there, but I am not sure if she took my advice. My boyfriend won't let me see his phone anymore and has been moody and distant with me the past 3 weeks. I am starting to worry about whether or not something is going on. I don't know if it has to do with my telling him of my past, or this girl. I am at a loss of what to do. I try to be happy but we always end up snapping at each other. I need advice on what to do. Should I just end the relationship or try to stick it out? Is there anything I can do to try and get him to talk about it? I have tried asking him and he just says there's nothing wrong.
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End it, the moment you start questioning motives is the moment the relationship dies. If he is that paranoid about his phone, then he is doing something he doesn't want you to know about. Sounds like this kid is in love with being in love. Just wants to feel that butterfly moments all over again. Or sex... sex would be a reason why. Who knows? All I know is the moment you lose trust, that trust is harder than hell to get back if it is even possible.
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So let me start by introducing myself and my boyfriend and give you a little background info. I'm Sidney, I'm 15. My boyfriend, Yanni, is also 15 but is 4 days older than me. I have known him since the 5th grade where we went to the same school and were great friends but never really that close. He had moved to Independent Study in the 7th grade where we lost contact. However, in late December of 2009, our Freshman year of high school, we regained contact via MySpace. He started coming over a lot and I started to like him a lot. He confessed his love for me in April 2010. He told me he had loved me since he first laid eyes on me. He asked me out on July 16th, 2010. I said yes. We have been dating exactly 3 months and 2 days. I had a past love interest, but nothing ever became of it besides a few depressing poems and a broken heart. We never dated or did anything. I got over it around January 2010. I had written one of the poems upon my wall awhile back and when Yanni came over, he read it and was curious about who broke my heart. I told him it didn't really matter because it wasn't broken anymore, but he was persistent. I told him about 3 weeks ago the whole story but reassured him that it was nothing but an old fling. A few weeks before that he had been getting text messages from a girl named Kassandra saying that she loved him and such things one should not say to a taken boy. I became quizzical but said nothing on the matter besides telling her that he was taken and should keep her feelings to herself if that would be fine with her with Yanni's consent. She complied for the time I was there, but I am not sure if she took my advice. My boyfriend won't let me see his phone anymore and has been moody and distant with me the past 3 weeks. I am starting to worry about whether or not something is going on. I don't know if it has to do with my telling him of my past, or this girl. I am at a loss of what to do. I try to be happy but we always end up snapping at each other. I need advice on what to do. Should I just end the relationship or try to stick it out? Is there anything I can do to try and get him to talk about it? I have tried asking him and he just says there's nothing wrong.


Honestly, since you're only fifteen, I wouldn't advise dating too much to begin with. The relationship has only been going on for three months, I would suggest just ending it if he's going to be funny, moody, and distant without telling you why.

But you shouldn't be so INSECURE that you have to go through his phone. If my girlfriend was so insecure with our relationship that she had to look through my phone to make sure I wasn't talking with girls, I would be kind of pissed too.

But besides that, you need to sit down and try talking to him. Sit him down, and ask him your self. Ask him why he's been acting this way, let him know that he HAS been different and that he can't pretend nothing's wrong. Ask him if it has to do with this other girl or your past. Ask him if he wants to date you or if he wants to break up, because you DESERVE to know what is going through his mind.

If he throws a fit and snaps at you while avoiding telling you the truth, that's a huge red flag. Break up with him right there.
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End it, the moment you start questioning motives is the moment the relationship dies. If he is that paranoid about his phone, then he is doing something he doesn't want you to know about. Sounds like this kid is in love with being in love. Just wants to feel that butterfly moments all over again. Or sex... sex would be a reason why. Who knows? All I know is the moment you lose trust, that trust is harder than hell to get back if it is even possible.


He wants to have sex. He keeps suggesting it but I won't give in. And I won't give him a blow job or a hand job. So he could be frustrated about that as well.
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End it, the moment you start questioning motives is the moment the relationship dies. If he is that paranoid about his phone, then he is doing something he doesn't want you to know about. Sounds like this kid is in love with being in love. Just wants to feel that butterfly moments all over again. Or sex... sex would be a reason why. Who knows? All I know is the moment you lose trust, that trust is harder than hell to get back if it is even possible.


He wants to have sex. He keeps suggesting it but I won't give in. And I won't give him a blow job or a hand job. So he could be frustrated about that as well.

YOUR 15!!!!!! Jesus, be one of the rare few children to NOT have sex before marriage. There is a reason why sex before marriage tends to end badly. Tends to, there are always exceptions, but this kid ain't. Dump the little b*****d and don't date again until you are older, say like 21, and out of college.. Don't waste your life with someone else at a young age. Get into college, and focus on schooling, THAT is what is important, not some ditzy sex-crazed teenage boy.
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So let me start by introducing myself and my boyfriend and give you a little background info. I'm Sidney, I'm 15. My boyfriend, Yanni, is also 15 but is 4 days older than me. I have known him since the 5th grade where we went to the same school and were great friends but never really that close. He had moved to Independent Study in the 7th grade where we lost contact. However, in late December of 2009, our Freshman year of high school, we regained contact via MySpace. He started coming over a lot and I started to like him a lot. He confessed his love for me in April 2010. He told me he had loved me since he first laid eyes on me. He asked me out on July 16th, 2010. I said yes. We have been dating exactly 3 months and 2 days. I had a past love interest, but nothing ever became of it besides a few depressing poems and a broken heart. We never dated or did anything. I got over it around January 2010. I had written one of the poems upon my wall awhile back and when Yanni came over, he read it and was curious about who broke my heart. I told him it didn't really matter because it wasn't broken anymore, but he was persistent. I told him about 3 weeks ago the whole story but reassured him that it was nothing but an old fling. A few weeks before that he had been getting text messages from a girl named Kassandra saying that she loved him and such things one should not say to a taken boy. I became quizzical but said nothing on the matter besides telling her that he was taken and should keep her feelings to herself if that would be fine with her with Yanni's consent. She complied for the time I was there, but I am not sure if she took my advice. My boyfriend won't let me see his phone anymore and has been moody and distant with me the past 3 weeks. I am starting to worry about whether or not something is going on. I don't know if it has to do with my telling him of my past, or this girl. I am at a loss of what to do. I try to be happy but we always end up snapping at each other. I need advice on what to do. Should I just end the relationship or try to stick it out? Is there anything I can do to try and get him to talk about it? I have tried asking him and he just says there's nothing wrong.


Honestly, since you're only fifteen, I wouldn't advise dating too much to begin with. The relationship has only been going on for three months, I would suggest just ending it if he's going to be funny, moody, and distant without telling you why.

But you shouldn't be so INSECURE that you have to go through his phone. If my girlfriend was so insecure with our relationship that she had to look through my phone to make sure I wasn't talking with girls, I would be kind of pissed too.

But besides that, you need to sit down and try talking to him. Sit him down, and ask him your self. Ask him why he's been acting this way, let him know that he HAS been different and that he can't pretend nothing's wrong. Ask him if it has to do with this other girl or your past. Ask him if he wants to date you or if he wants to break up, because you DESERVE to know what is going through his mind.

If he throws a fit and snaps at you while avoiding telling you the truth, that's a huge red flag. Break up with him right there.


Okay, and I didn't snoop through his phone. I was laying on his chest while he was checking his text message and just glanced up at it and saw "I love you" and got curious. And I tried asking him via text once and he said "I have changed". I took that as a bad sign.
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End it, the moment you start questioning motives is the moment the relationship dies. If he is that paranoid about his phone, then he is doing something he doesn't want you to know about. Sounds like this kid is in love with being in love. Just wants to feel that butterfly moments all over again. Or sex... sex would be a reason why. Who knows? All I know is the moment you lose trust, that trust is harder than hell to get back if it is even possible.


He wants to have sex. He keeps suggesting it but I won't give in. And I won't give him a blow job or a hand job. So he could be frustrated about that as well.

YOUR 15!!!!!! Jesus, be one of the rare few children to NOT have sex before marriage. There is a reason why sex before marriage tends to end badly. Tends to, there are always exceptions, but this kid ain't. Dump the little b*****d and don't date again until you are older, say like 21, and out of college.. Don't waste your life with someone else at a young age. Get into college, and focus on schooling, THAT is what is important, not some ditzy sex-crazed teenage boy.


I am one of those few that doesn't and isn't going to have sex until I'm older, and hopefully married.
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End it, the moment you start questioning motives is the moment the relationship dies. If he is that paranoid about his phone, then he is doing something he doesn't want you to know about. Sounds like this kid is in love with being in love. Just wants to feel that butterfly moments all over again. Or sex... sex would be a reason why. Who knows? All I know is the moment you lose trust, that trust is harder than hell to get back if it is even possible.


He wants to have sex. He keeps suggesting it but I won't give in. And I won't give him a blow job or a hand job. So he could be frustrated about that as well.

YOUR 15!!!!!! Jesus, be one of the rare few children to NOT have sex before marriage. There is a reason why sex before marriage tends to end badly. Tends to, there are always exceptions, but this kid ain't. Dump the little b*****d and don't date again until you are older, say like 21, and out of college.. Don't waste your life with someone else at a young age. Get into college, and focus on schooling, THAT is what is important, not some ditzy sex-crazed teenage boy.


I am one of those few that doesn't and isn't going to have sex until I'm older, and hopefully married.

I thought so, got a good vibe from how you composed your writing so I was hoping just to reiterate what you already have as a core value. I like you, message me sometime, I talk about anything... literally. Preferably from your main.
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So let me start by introducing myself and my boyfriend and give you a little background info. I'm Sidney, I'm 15. My boyfriend, Yanni, is also 15 but is 4 days older than me. I have known him since the 5th grade where we went to the same school and were great friends but never really that close. He had moved to Independent Study in the 7th grade where we lost contact. However, in late December of 2009, our Freshman year of high school, we regained contact via MySpace. He started coming over a lot and I started to like him a lot. He confessed his love for me in April 2010. He told me he had loved me since he first laid eyes on me. He asked me out on July 16th, 2010. I said yes. We have been dating exactly 3 months and 2 days. I had a past love interest, but nothing ever became of it besides a few depressing poems and a broken heart. We never dated or did anything. I got over it around January 2010. I had written one of the poems upon my wall awhile back and when Yanni came over, he read it and was curious about who broke my heart. I told him it didn't really matter because it wasn't broken anymore, but he was persistent. I told him about 3 weeks ago the whole story but reassured him that it was nothing but an old fling. A few weeks before that he had been getting text messages from a girl named Kassandra saying that she loved him and such things one should not say to a taken boy. I became quizzical but said nothing on the matter besides telling her that he was taken and should keep her feelings to herself if that would be fine with her with Yanni's consent. She complied for the time I was there, but I am not sure if she took my advice. My boyfriend won't let me see his phone anymore and has been moody and distant with me the past 3 weeks. I am starting to worry about whether or not something is going on. I don't know if it has to do with my telling him of my past, or this girl. I am at a loss of what to do. I try to be happy but we always end up snapping at each other. I need advice on what to do. Should I just end the relationship or try to stick it out? Is there anything I can do to try and get him to talk about it? I have tried asking him and he just says there's nothing wrong.


Honestly, since you're only fifteen, I wouldn't advise dating too much to begin with. The relationship has only been going on for three months, I would suggest just ending it if he's going to be funny, moody, and distant without telling you why.

But you shouldn't be so INSECURE that you have to go through his phone. If my girlfriend was so insecure with our relationship that she had to look through my phone to make sure I wasn't talking with girls, I would be kind of pissed too.

But besides that, you need to sit down and try talking to him. Sit him down, and ask him your self. Ask him why he's been acting this way, let him know that he HAS been different and that he can't pretend nothing's wrong. Ask him if it has to do with this other girl or your past. Ask him if he wants to date you or if he wants to break up, because you DESERVE to know what is going through his mind.

If he throws a fit and snaps at you while avoiding telling you the truth, that's a huge red flag. Break up with him right there.


Okay, and I didn't snoop through his phone. I was laying on his chest while he was checking his text message and just glanced up at it and saw "I love you" and got curious. And I tried asking him via text once and he said "I have changed". I took that as a bad sign.


You said he wouldn't let you look through his phone anymore. Which implies that you regularly would look through his phone, which is snooping. Just saying you shouldn't have to look through your boyfriend's phone if you have trust.

Also, text messages mean NOTHING. This isn't something you talk to him over texting, you need to sit him down and talk out everything I suggested to you in person. Everything, don't beat around the bush, you need to get honest answers out of him.
Yeah, the sexual frustrations he is having probably has a huge part to do with it as well. Like I said, sit down in real life with him and force him to talk to you. If he won't give you the honest truth, end it.
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End it, the moment you start questioning motives is the moment the relationship dies. If he is that paranoid about his phone, then he is doing something he doesn't want you to know about. Sounds like this kid is in love with being in love. Just wants to feel that butterfly moments all over again. Or sex... sex would be a reason why. Who knows? All I know is the moment you lose trust, that trust is harder than hell to get back if it is even possible.


He wants to have sex. He keeps suggesting it but I won't give in. And I won't give him a blow job or a hand job. So he could be frustrated about that as well.

YOUR 15!!!!!! Jesus, be one of the rare few children to NOT have sex before marriage. There is a reason why sex before marriage tends to end badly. Tends to, there are always exceptions, but this kid ain't. Dump the little b*****d and don't date again until you are older, say like 21, and out of college.. Don't waste your life with someone else at a young age. Get into college, and focus on schooling, THAT is what is important, not some ditzy sex-crazed teenage boy.


I am one of those few that doesn't and isn't going to have sex until I'm older, and hopefully married.

I thought so, got a good vibe from how you composed your writing so I was hoping just to reiterate what you already have as a core value. I like you, message me sometime, I talk about anything... literally. Preferably from your main.


Okay, I'd like that. Thank you for the advice as well. I needed it badly.
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So let me start by introducing myself and my boyfriend and give you a little background info. I'm Sidney, I'm 15. My boyfriend, Yanni, is also 15 but is 4 days older than me. I have known him since the 5th grade where we went to the same school and were great friends but never really that close. He had moved to Independent Study in the 7th grade where we lost contact. However, in late December of 2009, our Freshman year of high school, we regained contact via MySpace. He started coming over a lot and I started to like him a lot. He confessed his love for me in April 2010. He told me he had loved me since he first laid eyes on me. He asked me out on July 16th, 2010. I said yes. We have been dating exactly 3 months and 2 days. I had a past love interest, but nothing ever became of it besides a few depressing poems and a broken heart. We never dated or did anything. I got over it around January 2010. I had written one of the poems upon my wall awhile back and when Yanni came over, he read it and was curious about who broke my heart. I told him it didn't really matter because it wasn't broken anymore, but he was persistent. I told him about 3 weeks ago the whole story but reassured him that it was nothing but an old fling. A few weeks before that he had been getting text messages from a girl named Kassandra saying that she loved him and such things one should not say to a taken boy. I became quizzical but said nothing on the matter besides telling her that he was taken and should keep her feelings to herself if that would be fine with her with Yanni's consent. She complied for the time I was there, but I am not sure if she took my advice. My boyfriend won't let me see his phone anymore and has been moody and distant with me the past 3 weeks. I am starting to worry about whether or not something is going on. I don't know if it has to do with my telling him of my past, or this girl. I am at a loss of what to do. I try to be happy but we always end up snapping at each other. I need advice on what to do. Should I just end the relationship or try to stick it out? Is there anything I can do to try and get him to talk about it? I have tried asking him and he just says there's nothing wrong.


Honestly, since you're only fifteen, I wouldn't advise dating too much to begin with. The relationship has only been going on for three months, I would suggest just ending it if he's going to be funny, moody, and distant without telling you why.

But you shouldn't be so INSECURE that you have to go through his phone. If my girlfriend was so insecure with our relationship that she had to look through my phone to make sure I wasn't talking with girls, I would be kind of pissed too.

But besides that, you need to sit down and try talking to him. Sit him down, and ask him your self. Ask him why he's been acting this way, let him know that he HAS been different and that he can't pretend nothing's wrong. Ask him if it has to do with this other girl or your past. Ask him if he wants to date you or if he wants to break up, because you DESERVE to know what is going through his mind.

If he throws a fit and snaps at you while avoiding telling you the truth, that's a huge red flag. Break up with him right there.


Okay, and I didn't snoop through his phone. I was laying on his chest while he was checking his text message and just glanced up at it and saw "I love you" and got curious. And I tried asking him via text once and he said "I have changed". I took that as a bad sign.


You said he wouldn't let you look through his phone anymore. Which implies that you regularly would look through his phone, which is snooping. Just saying you shouldn't have to look through your boyfriend's phone if you have trust.

Also, text messages mean NOTHING. This isn't something you talk to him over texting, you need to sit him down and talk out everything I suggested to you in person. Everything, don't beat around the bush, you need to get honest answers out of him.


He used to let me see it whenever I wanted. I never go through his texts. That's something I feel is a private thing and something that should be left alone. I would look through his pictures with him or go on the internet. It was that one chance time that I had seen his text. But on Saturday he was texting Kassandra. I only knew that because he said he was getting irritated because she kept texting him but continued to text her, then when I told him that I didn't mind if he texted her but he could just tell her he was busy if she was annoying him, he then closed his phone and threw it in the bush and walked towards the house. I picked it up and he ran up behind me and snatched it and put it on a board on the high part of my roof's ledge so i couldn't get it. Does that not seem suspicious?
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So let me start by introducing myself and my boyfriend and give you a little background info. I'm Sidney, I'm 15. My boyfriend, Yanni, is also 15 but is 4 days older than me. I have known him since the 5th grade where we went to the same school and were great friends but never really that close. He had moved to Independent Study in the 7th grade where we lost contact. However, in late December of 2009, our Freshman year of high school, we regained contact via MySpace. He started coming over a lot and I started to like him a lot. He confessed his love for me in April 2010. He told me he had loved me since he first laid eyes on me. He asked me out on July 16th, 2010. I said yes. We have been dating exactly 3 months and 2 days. I had a past love interest, but nothing ever became of it besides a few depressing poems and a broken heart. We never dated or did anything. I got over it around January 2010. I had written one of the poems upon my wall awhile back and when Yanni came over, he read it and was curious about who broke my heart. I told him it didn't really matter because it wasn't broken anymore, but he was persistent. I told him about 3 weeks ago the whole story but reassured him that it was nothing but an old fling. A few weeks before that he had been getting text messages from a girl named Kassandra saying that she loved him and such things one should not say to a taken boy. I became quizzical but said nothing on the matter besides telling her that he was taken and should keep her feelings to herself if that would be fine with her with Yanni's consent. She complied for the time I was there, but I am not sure if she took my advice. My boyfriend won't let me see his phone anymore and has been moody and distant with me the past 3 weeks. I am starting to worry about whether or not something is going on. I don't know if it has to do with my telling him of my past, or this girl. I am at a loss of what to do. I try to be happy but we always end up snapping at each other. I need advice on what to do. Should I just end the relationship or try to stick it out? Is there anything I can do to try and get him to talk about it? I have tried asking him and he just says there's nothing wrong.


Honestly, since you're only fifteen, I wouldn't advise dating too much to begin with. The relationship has only been going on for three months, I would suggest just ending it if he's going to be funny, moody, and distant without telling you why.

But you shouldn't be so INSECURE that you have to go through his phone. If my girlfriend was so insecure with our relationship that she had to look through my phone to make sure I wasn't talking with girls, I would be kind of pissed too.

But besides that, you need to sit down and try talking to him. Sit him down, and ask him your self. Ask him why he's been acting this way, let him know that he HAS been different and that he can't pretend nothing's wrong. Ask him if it has to do with this other girl or your past. Ask him if he wants to date you or if he wants to break up, because you DESERVE to know what is going through his mind.

If he throws a fit and snaps at you while avoiding telling you the truth, that's a huge red flag. Break up with him right there.


Okay, and I didn't snoop through his phone. I was laying on his chest while he was checking his text message and just glanced up at it and saw "I love you" and got curious. And I tried asking him via text once and he said "I have changed". I took that as a bad sign.


You said he wouldn't let you look through his phone anymore. Which implies that you regularly would look through his phone, which is snooping. Just saying you shouldn't have to look through your boyfriend's phone if you have trust.

Also, text messages mean NOTHING. This isn't something you talk to him over texting, you need to sit him down and talk out everything I suggested to you in person. Everything, don't beat around the bush, you need to get honest answers out of him.


He used to let me see it whenever I wanted. I never go through his texts. That's something I feel is a private thing and something that should be left alone. I would look through his pictures with him or go on the internet. It was that one chance time that I had seen his text. But on Saturday he was texting Kassandra. I only knew that because he said he was getting irritated because she kept texting him but continued to text her, then when I told him that I didn't mind if he texted her but he could just tell her he was busy if she was annoying him, he then closed his phone and threw it in the bush and walked towards the house. I picked it up and he ran up behind me and snatched it and put it on a board on the high part of my roof's ledge so i couldn't get it. Does that not seem suspicious?


Yeah it does, of course it sounds suspicious. In a good relationship, you wouldn't have to look through his cell phone at all though. But that doesn't excuse how suspicious the behavior he's exhibiting.

So, are you going to sit down and talk to him in real life like I've suggested twice?
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Talk to him. Ask him what's up. In person. It's not a great idea to just end things because you're worried that he's distant - he could be worried about school, or home life, or something completely different, but you don't know because you haven't asked. You're just assuming things. Ask him. If you and he can have a mature conversation and clear the air about why things have been funny lately, that's great, you've learned a good skill that will help you a lot in future relationships. If you can't, then maybe it's better not to be together.
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So let me start by introducing myself and my boyfriend and give you a little background info. I'm Sidney, I'm 15. My boyfriend, Yanni, is also 15 but is 4 days older than me. I have known him since the 5th grade where we went to the same school and were great friends but never really that close. He had moved to Independent Study in the 7th grade where we lost contact. However, in late December of 2009, our Freshman year of high school, we regained contact via MySpace. He started coming over a lot and I started to like him a lot. He confessed his love for me in April 2010. He told me he had loved me since he first laid eyes on me. He asked me out on July 16th, 2010. I said yes. We have been dating exactly 3 months and 2 days. I had a past love interest, but nothing ever became of it besides a few depressing poems and a broken heart. We never dated or did anything. I got over it around January 2010. I had written one of the poems upon my wall awhile back and when Yanni came over, he read it and was curious about who broke my heart. I told him it didn't really matter because it wasn't broken anymore, but he was persistent. I told him about 3 weeks ago the whole story but reassured him that it was nothing but an old fling. A few weeks before that he had been getting text messages from a girl named Kassandra saying that she loved him and such things one should not say to a taken boy. I became quizzical but said nothing on the matter besides telling her that he was taken and should keep her feelings to herself if that would be fine with her with Yanni's consent. She complied for the time I was there, but I am not sure if she took my advice. My boyfriend won't let me see his phone anymore and has been moody and distant with me the past 3 weeks. I am starting to worry about whether or not something is going on. I don't know if it has to do with my telling him of my past, or this girl. I am at a loss of what to do. I try to be happy but we always end up snapping at each other. I need advice on what to do. Should I just end the relationship or try to stick it out? Is there anything I can do to try and get him to talk about it? I have tried asking him and he just says there's nothing wrong.


Honestly, since you're only fifteen, I wouldn't advise dating too much to begin with. The relationship has only been going on for three months, I would suggest just ending it if he's going to be funny, moody, and distant without telling you why.

But you shouldn't be so INSECURE that you have to go through his phone. If my girlfriend was so insecure with our relationship that she had to look through my phone to make sure I wasn't talking with girls, I would be kind of pissed too.

But besides that, you need to sit down and try talking to him. Sit him down, and ask him your self. Ask him why he's been acting this way, let him know that he HAS been different and that he can't pretend nothing's wrong. Ask him if it has to do with this other girl or your past. Ask him if he wants to date you or if he wants to break up, because you DESERVE to know what is going through his mind.

If he throws a fit and snaps at you while avoiding telling you the truth, that's a huge red flag. Break up with him right there.


Okay, and I didn't snoop through his phone. I was laying on his chest while he was checking his text message and just glanced up at it and saw "I love you" and got curious. And I tried asking him via text once and he said "I have changed". I took that as a bad sign.


You said he wouldn't let you look through his phone anymore. Which implies that you regularly would look through his phone, which is snooping. Just saying you shouldn't have to look through your boyfriend's phone if you have trust.

Also, text messages mean NOTHING. This isn't something you talk to him over texting, you need to sit him down and talk out everything I suggested to you in person. Everything, don't beat around the bush, you need to get honest answers out of him.


He used to let me see it whenever I wanted. I never go through his texts. That's something I feel is a private thing and something that should be left alone. I would look through his pictures with him or go on the internet. It was that one chance time that I had seen his text. But on Saturday he was texting Kassandra. I only knew that because he said he was getting irritated because she kept texting him but continued to text her, then when I told him that I didn't mind if he texted her but he could just tell her he was busy if she was annoying him, he then closed his phone and threw it in the bush and walked towards the house. I picked it up and he ran up behind me and snatched it and put it on a board on the high part of my roof's ledge so i couldn't get it. Does that not seem suspicious?


Yeah it does, of course it sounds suspicious. In a good relationship, you wouldn't have to look through his cell phone at all though. But that doesn't excuse how suspicious the behavior he's exhibiting.

So, are you going to sit down and talk to him in real life like I've suggested twice?


Yes, I will. Probably today if my mother lets him come over. If not, then Friday.

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