My bestfriend is weird

[Chatturbox]

He's 16.

It's worrying me and it's obviously not normal for him to do these things. I'll list down below what he does.

- He screams a lot and makes immature voices that's super loud
- He jumps over desks in class like it's some kind of obstacle course
- He makes weird noises and squeals really ******** loud in and out of class
- He puts his arm around people's necks really tight for "fun"
- He crawls in class back to his seat, (like, LITERALLY crawling, both hands on ground and everything) when he could have just WALKED back to his seat

He just can't seem to keep his hands to himself, and I ask him why he does it. He says that he's being a kid and being himself. I don't think treating the classroom like it's some obstacle course is "being a kid" and screaming for no reason is normal for a 16 year old. :/ It's just really annoying and concerning and I want to know what I can do to make him stop. I don't know what to say towards his reply of saying " I am just being myself" because I don't want to make to seem like I'm trying to make him something he's not.

[Nova Mistral]

How's he your best friend if you don't like who he's being? Has he always been like this? If not, it's probably just a phase. If so, you're probably better of hanging out with people you enjoy spending time with.

[angel_259236102]

Well yeah he is being a kid. Like that is a typical behaviour for a kid, but like a 10 year odl maybe not a 16 year old.

I dont know if he is just being immature though (at 16 guys aren super mature), or he has some sort of disability or something that is stopping him from growing.

What are the teacher doing?

[Chatturbox]

mistral o me

How's he your best friend if you don't like who he's being? Has he always been like this? If not, it's probably just a phase. If so, you're probably better of hanging out with people you enjoy spending time with.

It's not that I don't like who he is, I just don't like what he's doing to people at school. It just doesn't seem normal, and recently he choked someone "for fun" and they had an asthma attack so I really want to help him change because it's hurting people. He's been like this ever since I met him.

[Chatturbox]

angel_259236102

Well yeah he is being a kid. Like that is a typical behaviour for a kid, but like a 10 year odl maybe not a 16 year old.

I dont know if he is just being immature though (at 16 guys aren super mature), or he has some sort of disability or something that is stopping him from growing.

What are the teacher doing?

The teachers are saying he has psychotic behavior after an incident where he choked someone for "fun" and they had an asthma attack from it.

[Mameoyashi]

Thing is, you're his friend, you can't really do much you stop him. I mean, if he's disrupting class then the teacher should deal with it to keep order in the classroom. If this is something that he does between classes or at least during a time the teacher isn't teaching... then you can tell him it makes you uncomfortable and you are worried about what other people think and don't want him to get bullied or alienated because of the behaviour.

If he wants to keep it up, if he decides that the potential risks are less important than the potential gains, if he simply wants to keep doing it... then you just leave him to his own decision. You can't make him stop and to try to force hi would be a breach of his personal boundaries. If he's happy and doesn't care or can handle the pressures put on him by his behaviour, then it's up to him what he does.

What you can decide then is whether or not you want to associate with him anymore as he does this.

Edit; Oops. Missed the part about him actually choking people. You need to tell hi that he's really hurting people and needs to stop that behaviour at the very least. Just being yourself or just being a kid does not give someone the excuse to physically harm someone. However, at 16 he probably still is growing and may honestly not be aware of his own strength. When my step sister was 16 she slapped me (12) so hard across the face that my head was slammed into the freezer door. She was as shocked as I was because she honestly didn't know she was that strong- he may honestly not know he is strong enough to hurt someone like that. Though now that he has he has to be more cautious with his strength and absolutely not lay a hand on anyone who does not consent to him touching them...

What has your school done about the physical behaviour and hurting other students?

[angel_259236102]

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angel_259236102

Well yeah he is being a kid. Like that is a typical behaviour for a kid, but like a 10 year odl maybe not a 16 year old.

I dont know if he is just being immature though (at 16 guys aren super mature), or he has some sort of disability or something that is stopping him from growing.

What are the teacher doing?

The teachers are saying he has psychotic behavior after an incident where he choked someone for "fun" and they had an asthma attack from it.

Well, if they are saying that, I assume that they arent just saying it to you guys and are saying it to his parents. It isnt really your place to deal with it.

[Delightful_FOOL]

Once he gets his a** pummeled or has to deal with the court system for chocking people, he'll grow up real fast. Thing is, he's trying to hold onto childhood because growing up is scary. But, he's 16. You don't get to act this way at 16 without some kind of reprecussion. Personally, if I had a friend that acted this way, I would call them out on it--and I wouldn't be nice about it. He's being an idiot, an a*****e, and a child. If he wants to spend the rest of his day in beloved childhood, tell him to grab a bottle and put on a ******** diaper.

[RyanInATeacup]

Hmmm... Kinda sounds like ADHD to me... Some of my friends with ADHD act like that and they can't really help it, they just follow the impulses they have.
That being said, a lot of people make odd noises and everyone I know just accepts this and doesn't even notice it... So. ^ ^

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RyanInATeacup

Hmmm... Kinda sounds like ADHD to me... Some of my friends with ADHD act like that and they can't really help it, they just follow the impulses they have.
That being said, a lot of people make odd noises and everyone I know just accepts this and doesn't even notice it... So. ^ ^

He told me he was diagnosed with that when he was younger and had meds for it, and he says that ADHD doesn't do anything to you, and ugh I'm just so annoyed by his behavior X_x

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Delightful_FOOL

Once he gets his a** pummeled or has to deal with the court system for chocking people, he'll grow up real fast. Thing is, he's trying to hold onto childhood because growing up is scary. But, he's 16. You don't get to act this way at 16 without some kind of reprecussion. Personally, if I had a friend that acted this way, I would call them out on it--and I wouldn't be nice about it. He's being an idiot, an a*****e, and a child. If he wants to spend the rest of his day in beloved childhood, tell him to grab a bottle and put on a ******** diaper.

Ugh yeah. I wish I can do this, but it's hard to go against him when he says that he's just being himself and claims to think that doing these kinds of things are normal.