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- Posted: Fri, 12 Sep 2014 00:56:21 +0000
So I'm back at college and so far what this seems to mean for me is the return of creepy assholes.
And I'm not talking about the dudes that yell something at you and then call you a b***h when you don't answer. I'm talking about the guys who won't take no for an answer and keep pushing their idea.
I'll give you the example in a spoiler cause it's kinda big, that happened today, that honestly I can't see what the dude was trying to accomplish. (obviously get a date, but idk why he thought it would work)
~ So I'm sitting waiting for my next class to begin, this dude sits down next to me, for the next couple minutes I notice he keeps looking over at me until he finally goes, "Hey, you wanna know something?" I look over at him, notice he's talking to me and go, "suuuure?"
"You and me, we're in a relationship" I very quickly tell him, "No we are not" and this guy asks why. Like really, I have to tell you why?
So I tell him "I do not know you, you can't sit down and just say that you are in a relationship with someone and expect it to be"
"ah but I'm not saying, I'm declaring"
Let me tell you right now, that for the next five minutes this dude tried to argue with me and tell me that what I was saying was wrong, he thought he had a counter argument to everything I said, now I couldn't leave as my class was right there and the teacher is one of those if your homework isn't on my table when class starts I'm not taking it types. But eventually I go "Dude, I don't know you, we are not in a relationship, quite frankly you are being creepy, please leave me alone"
"But you see, I am sitting at least 2 feet away from you so I am not in your personal bubble and therefore are not creepy"
UGH, just ugh, really, the space isn't the creepy part, it's your declaration and your belief that you can just argue with me about it.
So I go, "I'm sure you don't mean to be creepy, but I am telling you right now you are being that wa-" He cuts me off "I'm a nice guy"
"I'm sure you are, but you do not understand that you can't just say stuff like that to strangers, you need a new pickup line cause it's not going to work"
"It wasn't a pickup line, I mean it"
At this point, I'm ******** sick of talking to this guy, I think I was being fairly nice (blunt but nice), and it's crazy that I had to argue with this guy, so I say very firmly, "I have nothing more to say to you, please leave me alone"
"But don't you see, were having a conversation and as it goes on, that moment of creepiness gets farther and farther away"
I say nothing, check my watch for the time.
"If you get to now me, you'll see that I'm a very nice guy, I'll be the best thing that ever happens to you."
Dude whose in my class, sitting across from us who has been giving me "is he serious looks" the entire time finally goes "dude, for the love of god, leave her the ******** alone." He tells him to mind his business, they are now arguing amongst themselves, teacher shows up, gives me a confused look, lets me in the class, the guys still argue outside for a good couple minutes finally my classmate comes inside and tells me that "He shouldn't be bothering you anymore, I made sure of it."
idk, I could go into what he exactly said the whole time but I got the important parts I believe and up until that point I was having a pretty nice day, so I guess my questions are.
- Should I have stood up for myself more? I feel like I should of but it was seriously creeping me out and the longer he tried to argue with me the more I started to feel unsafe and scared. Like dude got way to ******** passionate about it.
- You guys have any creepy men/or women stories? I feel as though this is way too common of a thing.
- what was he thinking, did he really think he could somehow think of a reason and I'd be all "OMG you're right, good point, i change my mind"
idk I guess just what's your overall opinion on the matter, it was ******** weird, not the first time a dude has been creepy to me but this is surely up there with the weirdest.
And I'm not talking about the dudes that yell something at you and then call you a b***h when you don't answer. I'm talking about the guys who won't take no for an answer and keep pushing their idea.
I'll give you the example in a spoiler cause it's kinda big, that happened today, that honestly I can't see what the dude was trying to accomplish. (obviously get a date, but idk why he thought it would work)
~ So I'm sitting waiting for my next class to begin, this dude sits down next to me, for the next couple minutes I notice he keeps looking over at me until he finally goes, "Hey, you wanna know something?" I look over at him, notice he's talking to me and go, "suuuure?"
"You and me, we're in a relationship" I very quickly tell him, "No we are not" and this guy asks why. Like really, I have to tell you why?
So I tell him "I do not know you, you can't sit down and just say that you are in a relationship with someone and expect it to be"
"ah but I'm not saying, I'm declaring"
Let me tell you right now, that for the next five minutes this dude tried to argue with me and tell me that what I was saying was wrong, he thought he had a counter argument to everything I said, now I couldn't leave as my class was right there and the teacher is one of those if your homework isn't on my table when class starts I'm not taking it types. But eventually I go "Dude, I don't know you, we are not in a relationship, quite frankly you are being creepy, please leave me alone"
"But you see, I am sitting at least 2 feet away from you so I am not in your personal bubble and therefore are not creepy"
UGH, just ugh, really, the space isn't the creepy part, it's your declaration and your belief that you can just argue with me about it.
So I go, "I'm sure you don't mean to be creepy, but I am telling you right now you are being that wa-" He cuts me off "I'm a nice guy"
"I'm sure you are, but you do not understand that you can't just say stuff like that to strangers, you need a new pickup line cause it's not going to work"
"It wasn't a pickup line, I mean it"
At this point, I'm ******** sick of talking to this guy, I think I was being fairly nice (blunt but nice), and it's crazy that I had to argue with this guy, so I say very firmly, "I have nothing more to say to you, please leave me alone"
"But don't you see, were having a conversation and as it goes on, that moment of creepiness gets farther and farther away"
I say nothing, check my watch for the time.
"If you get to now me, you'll see that I'm a very nice guy, I'll be the best thing that ever happens to you."
Dude whose in my class, sitting across from us who has been giving me "is he serious looks" the entire time finally goes "dude, for the love of god, leave her the ******** alone." He tells him to mind his business, they are now arguing amongst themselves, teacher shows up, gives me a confused look, lets me in the class, the guys still argue outside for a good couple minutes finally my classmate comes inside and tells me that "He shouldn't be bothering you anymore, I made sure of it."
idk, I could go into what he exactly said the whole time but I got the important parts I believe and up until that point I was having a pretty nice day, so I guess my questions are.
- Should I have stood up for myself more? I feel like I should of but it was seriously creeping me out and the longer he tried to argue with me the more I started to feel unsafe and scared. Like dude got way to ******** passionate about it.
- You guys have any creepy men/or women stories? I feel as though this is way too common of a thing.
- what was he thinking, did he really think he could somehow think of a reason and I'd be all "OMG you're right, good point, i change my mind"
idk I guess just what's your overall opinion on the matter, it was ******** weird, not the first time a dude has been creepy to me but this is surely up there with the weirdest.
tldr; men are creeps,
inb4: NOT ALL MEN
inb4: NOT ALL MEN