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Life Issues: Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)

Welcome to the Life Issues FAQ! This thread is intended to answer extremely common questions that people have to help prevent the forum being overrun with repeat threads on the same subject.

Please check to see if your problem is answered here, or if someone else has already made a thread about the same problem as yours. Everyone is different and while different people experience different problems and situations, you might be able to find the answer to your problem in an already existing thread. Posting fewer repeat threads keeps the forum less cluttered and easier to navigate.

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  1. Introduction
  2. Frequently Asked Questions
  3. Links List and Hotline Numbers List
Frequently Asked Questions

1. What is the average p***s size?
The average erect p***s length is around 6-6.5 inches.

Sources and studies vary though.
According to Website 1
According to Website 2

2. Does p***s size vary according to race?
Stereotypically, it's said that size according to race goes:
Asians < Caucasians < African Americans

This has had varying responses of agreement from various studies.
For more details check: This Website

Remember: In the end, it's not size that matters. But rather, how you use it! wink

3. What is the average breast size?
A 'B' Cup is the average bra cup size according to This Website

4. Why do "nice guys" finish last?
Honestly, there's several reasons. First of all, younger girls tend to not notice the "nice guys". Instead the "bad boys" seem more interesting to them. This usually goes away with time, when girls look more for commitment and stability rather than an undependable, but exciting guy.

Another reason could be due to your self-confidence. Confidence generally is a turn on for most girls. And most "nice guys" tend to be shy and unwilling to take risks.

In the end, you should be yourself. If the girl you like doesn't notice you, that's her fault, and she probably wasn't worth your time anyway. Cheer up, there's plenty of other women out there, and you WILL eventually find love.

More suggestions can be found here

5. How do I get over my crush?
Honestly the best things you can do for getting over a crush are:

1. Stay busy with something that interests you
2. Stay away from the crush to give yourself some time to heal
3. Try something new/try making new friends

Check out these links for more detailed suggestions and advice:

6. I think a guy/girl likes me! How do I tell?
Simply put, you need to talk to them and ask. We can't read minds, and even if you describe their behavior, it's impossible to know unless you ask the person yourself and get a definite answer.

7. I need tips for masturbating
There are many things you can do to pleasure yourself and you just have to experiment around responsibly. We get daily threads on this subject and they will be recycled. Please use google.com to find tips and resources.

8. I'm thinking of having sex. What should I know before I do anything with my partner?

    There are a lot of things to consider before becoming sexually active. Here's a short list:

  • Use condoms, even if you're on hormonal birth control. Not only do they reduce the risk of pregnancy when used correctly in addition to other methods of contraception, but they are also the only form of contraception that provide some protection against STD's and STI's.

  • If you plan on having sex, make sure you and your partner have an open line of communication. Consider getting tested for STDs/STIs beforehand, and discussing what to do in the event of an unplanned pregnancy. You should also look into birth control methods. Hormonal birth control methods are the most effective (when used correctly) at preventing pregnancy; however they do not protect against diseases and are best when used with a condom or another barrier method.

    If you can't get it paid for by insurance, you can probably pay cash. If you can't get birth control without parental permission, you can try going to a local Planned Parenthood.

    Keep in mind that no birth control method is 100% effecient even when used correctly, and no method protects against all STDs/STIs. So as long as you're having sex, you run the risk of getting pregnant.

  • Talk to your partner. Make sure that having sex is something you're both comfortable with. Then you need to have "the talk" and discuss what you two will do if something happens. What if you get pregnant, or infected with an STD? Make sure you have plans in place and have an idea of what you two will do if something unexpected happens.

  • If you're in the position to do so, tell your parents. Let them know of your decision, and tell them that you're being responsible by going on birth control and using condoms. Some parents might be upset, but in the end most will probably feel a little better knowing that you're taking steps to protect yourself.

  • Understand that having sex can change a relationship, both for better and for worse. Some people enjoy casual sex, but most people will probably tell you that it's best saved for when you're with someone you care about.

9. How do I know if I'm pregnant?
While there are a list of symptoms for pregnancy, many of them can be attributed to other things. So if you think you might be pregnant, wait until a week after you'd normally have your period and then take a pregnancy test. From there you can go talk to a doctor if you choose.

A list of pregnancy symptoms can be found here and here.

10. I think I might be pregnant. What should I do?
Above all else, you need to see a doctor. They can give you a blood test and confirm that you are pregnant. Even if you are deciding to get an abortion, you need to see a doctor. From there you'll need to tell your parents, as they're probably going to find out sooner or later, and some countries require parental consent for things like abortion.

If you are definitely pregnant, you have three options:
1. To carry the pregnancy to term and keep the baby.
2. To carry the pregnancy to term and give the baby up for adoption.
3. To get an abortion.

Talk to your doctor to help decide which option is best for you, as well as your parents or anyone else who can give you support and help you come to a decision you feel is right for you.
Links List

Abuse & Rape

The Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network resources:

  • National Sexual Assault Online Hotline: here

  • For locating a local rape crisis center: here

Birth Control

Body Issues

Confessing Feelings

Cutting and Self Injury

Disorders and Depression

General Health

Grief & Losing Loved Ones

Medical Clinics and Resources





Communities, helplines and other resources:

Misc - Just need someone to talk to?

Hotline Numbers List

United States:

  • National Institute of Mental Health: 1-888-ANXIETY (1-888-269-4389)

  • National Mental Health Association: 1-800-969-6642

  • National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-SUICIDE (784-2433)

  • National Adolescent Suicide Hotline: 800-621-4000

  • National Youth Crisis Hotline: 1-800-448-4663

  • Self-Injury Hotline: 1-800-DONT CUT (1-800-366-8288 )

  • Youth Crisis Hotline: 1-800-448-4663 or 1-800-422-0009

  • 2ndFloor Youth Helpline: 888-222-2228

  • Christian Teen Helpline: 1-800-394-HOPE

  • National US Child Abuse hotline: 1-800-4ACHILD or 1-800-422-4453

  • National Runaway Hotlines:
    1-800-621-4000 // TDD: 800-621-0394

  • National Youth Crisis Hotline: 800-442-HOPE (442-4673)

  • Rape, Abuse, Incest National Network: 1-800-656-HOPE (1-800-656-4673)

  • Sexual Abuse Hotline: 1-888-PREVENT (773-8368 )

  • Planned Parenthood, Inc: 1-800-230-PLAN (7526)

  • Pregnancy Hotline: 1-800-4-OPTIONS (1-800-467-8466)

  • Pregnant and Young Hotline: 1-800-550-4900

  • EDAP (Eating Disorders Awareness and Prevention): 1-800-931-2237

  • The Renfrew Center (eating disorders): 1-800-736-3739

  • Hotline Numbers - numbers list covering a wide spectrum of topics

  • A list of suicide hotline numbers in each state (scroll down)

  • Suicide Hotline in Spanish: 1-877-SUICIDA

United Kingdom and Ireland:

  • Suicide Hotline: 08457 90 90 90

  • Suicide Hotline (Ireland): 1850 60 90 90

  • Bristol Crisis Service for Women Self-Injury Helpline: 0117 925 1119

  • ChildLine: 0800 1111

  • Youth Access: 020 8514 1177

  • Eating Disorders Association: 01603 621414

  • Manic Depression self-help support: 0181 9746550

    Eating Disorders Association:
  • Adult Helpline: 011-44-8456-341414
  • Youthline: 011-44-8456-347650
  • Adult Helpline: (open 8:30 to 20:30 weekdays)
  • Youthline: (open 16:00 to 18:30 weekdays)


  • Lifeline: 131.114

  • Care Ring: 136.169

  • Crisis Care Unit: 131.611

  • SANE Help Line: 1800.688.382

  • Kids Help Line: 1800-55-1800


  • Kids Help Phone (In English or French): 1-800-668-6868

  • 416-423-HEYY (416-423-4399)

  • Canadian National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-448-3000

The Netherlands:

  • Hotline for Kids in Trouble: (+31) 06-0432 14:00-20:00 hrs, everyday

South Africa:

  • Johannesburg: (011) 728-1347
  • Cape Town: (021) 461-1111
  • Durban: (031) 2323-23
  • Welkom: (057) 35-22212

  • Childline: 08000 55555

  • Eating Disorder Unit: (011) 489-1206


  • Telefonseelsorge: 0800 1110 222 or 0800 1110 111

  • International Helpline Berlin:
    Helpline 1: 6-12pm English service: 030-44 01 06 07
    Helpline 2: Russian service: 030-44 01 06 06


  • Fédération S.O.S Amitié France: (+33) (0)1 40 09 15 22

  • Suicide Ecoute: 01 45 39 4000


  • Tokyo English Lifeline: 03 5774 0992

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