KissaKat
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- Posted: Tue, 05 Feb 2013 14:50:10 +0000
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SImply put, you are crazy and paranoid. Stop trying ot ruin your relationship becuse you ******** the wrong guy a while ago and he was a prevert.
She isnt 'acting out' for attnetion, She is a child who doesnt really understand our rnadom modesty social customs yet. Calm the ******** down and stop jumping to stupid conclusions. THIS IS NORMAL. You just explain to them to not do that until they get it and move on, not chastise the other parent and sugest he or his mother abused her
WHen I did sunday school for the kids, there was a girl who had a habit of pulling up her dress to her midriff area, I noticed that after a while she ended up in pants so I guess that stopped that. A lot of children are curious about their genitals in that age bracket so they do things that are 'off' to us who have been hammered in how to act. She hasnt yet. She is a child.
She isnt 'acting out' for attnetion, She is a child who doesnt really understand our rnadom modesty social customs yet. Calm the ******** down and stop jumping to stupid conclusions. THIS IS NORMAL. You just explain to them to not do that until they get it and move on, not chastise the other parent and sugest he or his mother abused her
WHen I did sunday school for the kids, there was a girl who had a habit of pulling up her dress to her midriff area, I noticed that after a while she ended up in pants so I guess that stopped that. A lot of children are curious about their genitals in that age bracket so they do things that are 'off' to us who have been hammered in how to act. She hasnt yet. She is a child.
Actually it is not normal for a 7 year old to be doing this. By that age she should know when it would be appropriate or not. It's either a bad parenting thing, or a something is wrong thing, but either way, it is PERFECTLY normal to be concerned, especially in a public place where kids that aren't flashing their junk get nabbed by sickos.
Okay, first off, it is appalling to slut-shame children. Related to that, second, statistically speaking, people who molest children are close to said children, in a place of trust or authority. There are scads of studies about this; to imply that ***** are wandering the world waiting for a kid to "ask for it" by doing normal kid stuff is just...I threw up in my mouth a little. Third, yes, the kid needs to learn about boundaries, but I don't know that she's a freak. I remember back in the dim mists of time, a kid or two in my first- or second-grade class pulling a stunt like this because they knew it would flip the adults out. The game was to do it and not get caught. It was juvenile and attention-seeking, sure, but we are talking about small children here. Juvenile and attention-seeking is normal, and there is a decent chance this kid is just enjoying the reaction from adults because hee hee, I'm not supposed to for whatever reason, that's funny.
I'm all for being alert to signs of abuse and talking to the pediatrician/a child psychologist whenever a child appears to be having problems. I fully support vigilance. But here, when we're talking about a kid who otherwise has normal boundaries (and who is never responsible for a sick adult's actions, Jesus H. Christ), to cry "freak!" or "bad parenting!" seems both excessive and premature.
My point wasn't that children ask for it. It was that kids get nabbed at grocery stores and such every day without any provoking, and that a child pulling down their pants in a place like that is unacceptable for a reason. Don't put words in where there aren't any.
I never said she was a freak, but it is bad parenting if at 7 you child will still pull down their pants in public. If they are just doing it for attention, there is still something wrong that needs to be addressed. There is a point where a child needs to learn modesty and needs to learn what's appropriate and at this point, any child should know its not okay to pull down their pants in a public place.
Children should be able to be children and do these antics but the reality is that so much of the population has a smart phone with camera start up times getting faster and faster that one innocent rebellion turns into a parents nightmare. It does happen. Sick people look for opening where ever they can find them. They target kids that seem to be confident and pull antics and make it seem like a game. There becomes a point were enforcing modesty is protecting your children.