Tia Wanna
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- Posted: Thu, 19 May 2005 22:38:40 +0000
So lately, I have a lot of stress going on. Work, money, friends, my own health, but now there's been a huge thing added.
My father has had health issues for a long time. Last November, he had a pacemaker put in. He led a life of drinking and smoking. Still smokes.
Anyway, my mom's told me that his health is failing. His pacemaker isn't working right. He may need it replaced. He's seemingly been living with the symptoms of colon cancer for the past 3 years, and has refused seeing a doctor or telling anyone. To top it off, his live is essentially destroyed from all the alcohol, and his lungs are full of emphysema. Possibly has lung cancer, they're running tests after he started coughing up a lot of blood and my aunt found out.
Anyway, I don't know how to deal. I'm almost 20. I live far away from my father. Last saw him in March. Before that, January of 'o4. He was abusive to me from the ages of around 3 to when I moved out at 18. So. not the best relationship. I'm civil to him now, and we have a decent relationship. I call a lot. But I don't know how to deal with him potentially dying. Along with this, I have 2 siblings who are younger, and have a lot better relationships with him. So they'll hurt more.
My father has had health issues for a long time. Last November, he had a pacemaker put in. He led a life of drinking and smoking. Still smokes.
Anyway, my mom's told me that his health is failing. His pacemaker isn't working right. He may need it replaced. He's seemingly been living with the symptoms of colon cancer for the past 3 years, and has refused seeing a doctor or telling anyone. To top it off, his live is essentially destroyed from all the alcohol, and his lungs are full of emphysema. Possibly has lung cancer, they're running tests after he started coughing up a lot of blood and my aunt found out.
Anyway, I don't know how to deal. I'm almost 20. I live far away from my father. Last saw him in March. Before that, January of 'o4. He was abusive to me from the ages of around 3 to when I moved out at 18. So. not the best relationship. I'm civil to him now, and we have a decent relationship. I call a lot. But I don't know how to deal with him potentially dying. Along with this, I have 2 siblings who are younger, and have a lot better relationships with him. So they'll hurt more.