You definitely were raped. When a guy uses intimidation to get you to submit, and you do, for fear he'll hurt you, it's stil rape. It's coerced sex, not consenting.
And It's a tough call. But you are the only one who can really say what effect this event has had on your life and is likely to have in the future. And you are the only one who can know what you need to do or not do.
I'd say ask that detective every question you can think of about the legal process and also, how law enforcement and the court system in your city have responded to these situations in the recent past.
Also, check your YP listings and/or get online and look for "rape crises center," or similar phrases. If you decide to go ahead with this, you'll need support from women who have supported others through this process. And you'll need that in any case.
I support you 100% if you decide to press charges.
The problem with this case is that you waiting a year to bring this to trial. You mentioned that to filed a police report but did you also get tested for rape? Is there any physical evidence of this occurring? What does the police report include?
The problem with waiting is that it makes your case less credible. If you press charges, he'll be held in criminal court which means that depending on his situation, he could obtain good legal advice. Your testimony alone may win the case but the lack of evidence, lapse in time, and unknown factors of this situation may work against you.
Putting him on trial increases the awareness for future sentences if he is in fact a serial rapist. If he has prior convictions (other women have testified against him) then your case will have more leverage.
I know that you're hesitant about this, but talking to the sex crimes detective about this will actually give you a very good idea of what kind of chance you have going forward. Remember, the DA is not going to press charges unless they think they have a chance at winning. So you won't even have to experience a trial unless the DA genuinally believes that there is a chance.
In the meantime, there are usually rape crisis centers, or at the very least domestic violence agencies, where you can go and talk to an advocate about what happened.
~~~ Not sure why this is even a question. Yes, he should be on trial, because hes a disgustingly filthy, pathetic excuse for a human being & should rot in jail for what he did. How much is the maximum for rape? 7 years. Take him to court. Tell your story. Don't be a fool & keep it bottled up, you will feel worse in the long run for not having done anything about it. So many people take that route. Rape disgusts me to no end. To answer the jury question, I'd tell him how wrong what he did was and he should rightfully rot in jail. If I were the judge, well I couldn't be a judge in rape cases, I'd probably sentence them all to death. ~~~
He had sex with you against your will. You were under duress and you feared for your life. Whether he acted on it or not is immaterial since you were under the impression that resistance would result in the loss of your life.