Angry LI ISSUES
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- Posted: Fri, 18 Apr 2014 06:47:06 +0000
Not necessarily
Here's my story:
There was a dinner being in the living room with my parents, my younger sister (20), my brother (32) and his girlfriend of 11 years? (she's 27). I was surprised by this sudden family ordeal of a reunion so I serve myself a plate and sat down with the others. My parent's say that my oldest brother has great news ( I'm the only one who doesn't know what it is yet). My brother and his girlfriend are expecting another baby,
My brother: "We're having a second child!"
Me looking at the girlfriend: "I'm really disappointed."
Bro: "WHAT? Why would you ******** say that. We want another child."
Me: *I try not to start any argument because my 8 yr old nephew is in the room* "Because you lack the parenting skills needed to support it and look at how your relationship reflects on DJ (my nephew). Abort while you still can."
My brother throws a hissy fit and my parents tell me I was tremendously rude. I took my plate to my room and that was it. We haven't spoken since that day, it's been 2 months now. My parents, everyone, knows how bad it is of the decision they made. They don't say anything because it's "none of their business but my brother's and gf".
My brother's relationship is not the best kind. It's terrible that screams of abuse, physical and verbal, they are the worst kind of relationship out there. They are merely together for the child who also has trouble of communicating and such. They're relationship is completely toxic and it's depressing my nephew is in the middle of it.
So, I found out today they are fighting again. She's about 3-4 months in and my brother is ready to move out. Note that "moving out" means him leaving, then coming back a couple weeks later. He isn't the best parent either, he's too harsh on my nephew. However, I cannot call CPS because he has a roof over his head.
Was I wrong to tell them that they lack emotional and financial support for another child? I hate paying taxes for people such as them. It upsets me how the american system works out here?
Anyone share the same personal experience?
Here's my story:
There was a dinner being in the living room with my parents, my younger sister (20), my brother (32) and his girlfriend of 11 years? (she's 27). I was surprised by this sudden family ordeal of a reunion so I serve myself a plate and sat down with the others. My parent's say that my oldest brother has great news ( I'm the only one who doesn't know what it is yet). My brother and his girlfriend are expecting another baby,
My brother: "We're having a second child!"
Me looking at the girlfriend: "I'm really disappointed."
Bro: "WHAT? Why would you ******** say that. We want another child."
Me: *I try not to start any argument because my 8 yr old nephew is in the room* "Because you lack the parenting skills needed to support it and look at how your relationship reflects on DJ (my nephew). Abort while you still can."
My brother throws a hissy fit and my parents tell me I was tremendously rude. I took my plate to my room and that was it. We haven't spoken since that day, it's been 2 months now. My parents, everyone, knows how bad it is of the decision they made. They don't say anything because it's "none of their business but my brother's and gf".
My brother's relationship is not the best kind. It's terrible that screams of abuse, physical and verbal, they are the worst kind of relationship out there. They are merely together for the child who also has trouble of communicating and such. They're relationship is completely toxic and it's depressing my nephew is in the middle of it.
So, I found out today they are fighting again. She's about 3-4 months in and my brother is ready to move out. Note that "moving out" means him leaving, then coming back a couple weeks later. He isn't the best parent either, he's too harsh on my nephew. However, I cannot call CPS because he has a roof over his head.
Was I wrong to tell them that they lack emotional and financial support for another child? I hate paying taxes for people such as them. It upsets me how the american system works out here?
Anyone share the same personal experience?