I had sex with him...well...kinda

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[GrandpaJones]

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so this guy and me have been kinda friends with benefits, but we were still in love, but couldn't be together
he has a child, just born
he crushed me telling me about how he might have to get back with his ex, but he still loves me
the other day we were hanging out and he was acting like everything was okay, holding my hand, kissing me randomly, and well yeah, we got kinda into it, he was fingering me, then we just kinda had sex...kinda it's just cause I was like extremely vulnerable with him breaking my heart like that they day before, but after like 5 minutes I snapped out of it and asked him to stop, he was nice and listened...
but still...I feel bad...cause now even more if he gets back with his ex it will hurt me even more...

also I don't see why he has to date her again...who ever said you had to date to raise your child, you can just be good friends, can't you?

Sweetheart, there is more than there looks like here. I'll bet you he has no intention of leaving his wife for you, and as a guy, hes just trying to get what ever he can out of you. He trying to make you feel guilty when hes the one that shuold be. About 80% of guys are just plain horndogs....not all but most.

You need to find someone who really care for you because you ARE you, not for sex with no excuses. Find someone single, you don't need any built in kids either. It just causes a big freakin mess. There are many guys out there that will love you for you and would be happy with you. Just date and have fun for awhile.

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His baby's momma might be a b***h who won't let him see the childl if he isn't with her. :/
Court is expensive.
All you can do is tell him your concerns and feelings. But if it did ultimately come down to seeing his kid, I would hope he would choose his child over you.

I hope he would choose his child too

and she is a b***h, but she'll still let him see his child...but they've broken up twice already, first time for like 2 months, but this time they have been broken up for like 4...and the first time she was like I'm not going to let you ever see the baby and she even said that he couldn't put his name down as the father...I mean if he goes out with her again...and they break up again...very likely, they are only teenagers...what if she does that and doesn't let him see his baby...that's why I think wouldn't just being good friends be best?

You're selfish for not considering the child, and considering your own feelings

you're just a friend with benefits to him
whatever "Love" he has for you rests on your naked body
if he loved you he would've chose to be friends with her
but thats not the case
He has to take care of his kid
Like I said before

Family > friends

I say you shouldn't interfere with their buisness now
its time to back off

WHERE THE HELL ARE YOU GETTING THAT I AM NOT CONSIDERING THE CHILD! I AM! BUT I AM CONSIDERING HIM TOO!!!
he loved me BEFORE we even did anything, waaaay before things even got this far he said he loved me, and I can tell that he MEANS it like I said, you don't know the whole background on me and him
AND he hasn't chosen ANYTHING yet
and I WANT him to take care of his kid!!!
Hell I am the one who originally asked him to think through what he was going to do and I know his baby is more important, I WANT his baby to be more important, this isn't about that

The baby has everything to do with it
where the hell do you get the idea it doesn't? He needs to be with the mother of the child and help raise it

HE CAN ******** "BE WITH HER" WITHOUT DATING HER!!! HE CAN BE FRIENDS WITH HER, HE CAN HANG OUT WITH HER AND BE WITH BOTH HER AND THE BABY!

But doesnt he have to work all the time?
and he does have school right?
So in his spare time
hes gonna be with her and the kid right?

looks like he doesn't have to and probably won't be able to date you either

you sound really immature for thinking the mother is a b***h just because of breakups

he has a kid now
he loves it more than you
and he chose his soon to be mother of his baby
you stated it on your first post

Let it go
you're just his friend with benefits
he has a family now

if you love him, you'll understand that
and stop being such a b***h by trying to put more pressure on him with your immature bullshit
He dated his ex
He NEVER dated you
he loves her more than you
guess what?
Thats how it works
grow up and find someone else there are over 6 billion people in the world
you can at least find SOMEONE who will put up with your s**t

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Im just thinking aloud but why the hell would you screw a father of a young child its retated. i think you should let the work it out scream

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so this guy and me have been kinda friends with benefits, but we were still in love, but couldn't be together
he has a child, just born
he crushed me telling me about how he might have to get back with his ex, but he still loves me
the other day we were hanging out and he was acting like everything was okay, holding my hand, kissing me randomly, and well yeah, we got kinda into it, he was fingering me, then we just kinda had sex...kinda it's just cause I was like extremely vulnerable with him breaking my heart like that they day before, but after like 5 minutes I snapped out of it and asked him to stop, he was nice and listened...
but still...I feel bad...cause now even more if he gets back with his ex it will hurt me even more...

also I don't see why he has to date her again...who ever said you had to date to raise your child, you can just be good friends, can't you?

Sweetheart, there is more than there looks like here. I'll bet you he has no intention of leaving his wife for you, and as a guy, hes just trying to get what ever he can out of you. He trying to make you feel guilty when hes the one that shuold be. About 80% of guys are just plain horndogs....not all but most.

You need to find someone who really care for you because you ARE you, not for sex with no excuses. Find someone single, you don't need any built in kids either. It just causes a big freakin mess. There are many guys out there that will love you for you and would be happy with you. Just date and have fun for awhile.

Gramps

Apparentley you didn't read the posts gramps
they're teenagers
so shes not his wife just a quick note,
its still wrong that this chick is trying to take him away from her babys mother

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No matter how much you hate it
hes gonna have to take care of the kid
it needs its dad

You need to stay away from him if hes doing this
because he needs to care for his ex and his newborn child, and stop having sex with you

I'm sorry to say it but he doesn't love you
its kind of obvious

And yes, doesnt matter who said he had to raise his child, he does
because its he made the child
once you have one you'll understand

you don't just throw a baby away for your FRIEND with benefits
because a child is your FAMILY
Compare the two words in caps

okay you just pissed me off and misread everything
I KNOW he is gonna take care of his kid, I never said I didn't want him to, I really want him to be a good father to the baby
I want him to care for his ex and his child, but he doesn't need to date her to take care of his baby, read my last post for reasoning
we had sex ONCE
and trust me, he does love me, how is it obvious he doesn't, you don't even know the whole story about me and him
AND THAT'S NOT WHAT I SAID!
I said who says he has to date her to raise his child!!!
and I do understand! I don't mind talking about the baby, hell I ask him questions about the baby!
AND ONCE AGAIN, I DON'T WANT HIM TO THROW AWAY BEING IN HIS CHILD'S LIFE FOR ME, WHERE THE HELL DID YOU GET THAT FROM!!!!!

All I'm saying is he should be with the mother, just to help raise the kid, overall he should be with her and the kid for a while
them together
Its a d**k move to abandon a mother with a baby to raise herself
and don't say "I didn't say he couldn't raise the baby"
well if hes off having sex with his friend
instead of taking care of his family
whos the weight poured onto?
because honestly he can pretty much consider his ex family too

I know you're mad but I said what I needed to
I'm not gonna sugarcoat it and tell you hes a douche for choosing to date his ex just so you can be happy

And if he does love you
what if he loves his ex too?

He can tell you all he wants he doesnt
and he can tell you all he wants he loves you
all I'm saying is
back off the friends with benefits thing, why don't YOU just stay good friends with him and let them be together to raise the child?

DID YOU NOT READ WHAT I SAID ABOUT HIM AND HER, ABOUT WHY I THINK THEY SHOULD BE GOOD FRIENDS ONLY, WHY SHOULD THEY DATE AND BE MISERABLE FOREVER? WHY SHOULD THEY DATE AND BREAK UP AGAIN AND HIM NEVER BE ABLE TO SEE HIS CHILD!
AND HE WAS AT THE HOSPITAL HER WITH 3 ******** DAYS STRAIGHT NOT EATING AND NOT SLEEPING TO BE WITH HER AND THE BABY, SO WHAT IF THE DAY HE FINALLY GETS TO GO HOME HE WANTS TO SPEND IT WITH ME???
DO YOU EXPECT HIM TO DROP OUT OF SCHOOL SO HE COULD SPEND 24/7 WITH HER AND THE BABY???
WE WERE ONLY FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS BECAUSE WE COULDN'T DATE BECAUSE HE SPENDS SO MUCH TIME ******** WORKING IN ORDER TO PAY FOR THE BABY
SO DON'T YOU DARE ******** SAY s**t ABOUT HIM!

He said he had to get back with his ex

stayed by her at the hospital for the child, without eating or sleeping

and the very BIG plus they're having a kid

sounds like love to me

Listen you don't know how her ex is just like I dont know how your soon to be father friend with benefits is you can only assume out of what you know that happens like breakups, etc, it could be for a good reason
you can call her a b***h all you want for doing that to him
and she can call you a b***h all she wants for trying to keep him from dating her again

overall sounds to me like he chose her

Let him make his own choice
you don't make choices for him got it? :]

I don't expect him to stay home from school to take care of the baby
but doesnt mean he cant spend time with it in his spare time

And guess what? Now you can't date because he spends so much time working to pay for the baby
and he needs to take care of it.
sounds like theres no time for you, but you wanna put more pressure on him than he has now by trying to be his lover when he has the pressures of work and a family of his own?
Sounds like YOU'RE the b***h

HE HAS TIME FOR ME, AT LEAST AS MUCH AS I NEED, WE SEE EACHOTHER IN SCHOOL, AND MAYBE ONCE EVERY 2 WEEKS...AT LEAST!

AND WHO THE ******** SAID I WAS MAKING CHOICES FOR HIM??? WHERE THE HELL ARE YOU GETTING THAT FROM, I AM JUST SAYING

AND I DO KNOW HIS EX IS A b***h, SO WHAT MAKES YOU ASSUME I DON'T KNOW HER?

HE DIDN'T SAY HE HAD TO GET BACK WITH HIS EX, HE THINKS HE HAS TO, I TOLD HIM JUST TO TAKE A LOT OF TIME AND THINK IT THROUGH BECAUSE WHAT IF SHE DOES WHAT SHE DID BEFORE???

I DON'T WANT HIM TO BE FORBIDDEN FROM SEEING HIS CHILD, YOU DON'T GET THAT, AND THAT I AM LOOKING OUT WHAT'S BEST FOR HIM

I JUST TOLD HIM TO THINK IT THROUGH AND NOT TO MAKE THAT ******** BIG OF A DECISION IN SUCH A SHORT TIME!!!

YOU'RE ACTING LIKE I SAID HE SHOULD NEVER SEE HER OR TALK TO HER OR HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH HER, I AM NOT EVEN CLOSE TO SAYING THAT!

AND DO YOU KNOW HOW MANY TEENAGERS GET PREGNANT AND HAVE SEX AND s**t LIKE THAT, IT DOESN'T ALWAYS MEAN THEY ARE IN LOVE AND PLANNED IT

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so this guy and me have been kinda friends with benefits, but we were still in love, but couldn't be together
he has a child, just born
he crushed me telling me about how he might have to get back with his ex, but he still loves me
the other day we were hanging out and he was acting like everything was okay, holding my hand, kissing me randomly, and well yeah, we got kinda into it, he was fingering me, then we just kinda had sex...kinda it's just cause I was like extremely vulnerable with him breaking my heart like that they day before, but after like 5 minutes I snapped out of it and asked him to stop, he was nice and listened...
but still...I feel bad...cause now even more if he gets back with his ex it will hurt me even more...

also I don't see why he has to date her again...who ever said you had to date to raise your child, you can just be good friends, can't you?

Sweetheart, there is more than there looks like here. I'll bet you he has no intention of leaving his wife for you, and as a guy, hes just trying to get what ever he can out of you. He trying to make you feel guilty when hes the one that shuold be. About 80% of guys are just plain horndogs....not all but most.

You need to find someone who really care for you because you ARE you, not for sex with no excuses. Find someone single, you don't need any built in kids either. It just causes a big freakin mess. There are many guys out there that will love you for you and would be happy with you. Just date and have fun for awhile.

Gramps

Apparentley you didn't read the posts gramps
they're teenagers
so shes not his wife just a quick note,
its still wrong that this chick is trying to take him away from her babys mother

I AM NOT TRYING TO TAKE HIM AWAY!
I WANT HIM TO ******** THINK IT OVER! NOT JUST DECIDE RIGHT AWAY!

[RayneTree]

What if he does think it over and still chooses her and not you, then what?

[Hansma]

Sounds like he has a lot of growing up to do even though he has a child. Regardless of anything that is going on, you should distance yourself from him and get over him and then move onto greener pastures. You deserve it.

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You're selfish for not considering the child, and considering your own feelings

you're just a friend with benefits to him
whatever "Love" he has for you rests on your naked body
if he loved you he would've chose to be friends with her
but thats not the case
He has to take care of his kid
Like I said before

Family > friends

I say you shouldn't interfere with their buisness now
its time to back off

WHERE THE HELL ARE YOU GETTING THAT I AM NOT CONSIDERING THE CHILD! I AM! BUT I AM CONSIDERING HIM TOO!!!
he loved me BEFORE we even did anything, waaaay before things even got this far he said he loved me, and I can tell that he MEANS it like I said, you don't know the whole background on me and him
AND he hasn't chosen ANYTHING yet
and I WANT him to take care of his kid!!!
Hell I am the one who originally asked him to think through what he was going to do and I know his baby is more important, I WANT his baby to be more important, this isn't about that

The baby has everything to do with it
where the hell do you get the idea it doesn't? He needs to be with the mother of the child and help raise it

HE CAN ******** "BE WITH HER" WITHOUT DATING HER!!! HE CAN BE FRIENDS WITH HER, HE CAN HANG OUT WITH HER AND BE WITH BOTH HER AND THE BABY!

But doesnt he have to work all the time?
and he does have school right?
So in his spare time
hes gonna be with her and the kid right?

looks like he doesn't have to and probably won't be able to date you either

you sound really immature for thinking the mother is a b***h just because of breakups

he has a kid now
he loves it more than you
and he chose his soon to be mother of his baby
you stated it on your first post

Let it go
you're just his friend with benefits
he has a family now

if you love him, you'll understand that
and stop being such a b***h by trying to put more pressure on him with your immature bullshit
He dated his ex
He NEVER dated you
he loves her more than you
guess what?
Thats how it works
grow up and find someone else there are over 6 billion people in the world
you can at least find SOMEONE who will put up with your s**t

he hasn't chose ANYTHING yet, I am more than just a friend with benefits, I know that for a fact, even after the baby was born he still said he loved me! everytime we talked!

and I am not putting any pressure on him, I'm not saying "don't date her" all I told him was to think it through and to do what he thinks is right

and he doesn't love her, he just feels he HAS to get back together with her, which sure would be great, but he NEEDS to think more when he is not sleep deprived and malnourished

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Okay, first of all, I think that the OP should calm down. You came here for advice, and we're trying to tell you what we think is/should go on. If people are getting things wrong, for whatever reason, please calmly explain to them what it is that they got wrong. Spazzing on everyone isn't going to make you look any better in this situation.


Now, on to your situation; I truly truly feel that you need to let him decide where his 'loyalties' lie. I understand that you are hurting, and I understand why, but I think that you need to realize that he's got a LOT going on right now, and is likely very confused.
I would suggest putting any romantically-involved relationship between the two of you on hold until he can figure out what's going on with him, his ex, his child and his life.
I'm not saying cut all contact, by any means. Certainly, talk to him, go out for coffee, and be a good friend, try to help him get through all this. But do it as his FRIEND. Not his girlfriend, friend with benfits, or anything else, if only to protect yourself, and to stop him from being so confused. He knows that you're there for him, and I'll bet that it'd be a HUGE load off his mind to know that he doesn't have to make a decision TODAY. That there's no pressure from you, that you just want to be there for him.

If all you want is for him to 'think it over' then give him the space and time to do so. It sounds like there's LOTS on his plate, between life, school and work, so I'd say, give him some time, and just try to be there for him as a FRIEND.

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No matter how much you hate it
hes gonna have to take care of the kid
it needs its dad

You need to stay away from him if hes doing this
because he needs to care for his ex and his newborn child, and stop having sex with you

I'm sorry to say it but he doesn't love you
its kind of obvious

And yes, doesnt matter who said he had to raise his child, he does
because its he made the child
once you have one you'll understand

you don't just throw a baby away for your FRIEND with benefits
because a child is your FAMILY
Compare the two words in caps

okay you just pissed me off and misread everything
I KNOW he is gonna take care of his kid, I never said I didn't want him to, I really want him to be a good father to the baby
I want him to care for his ex and his child, but he doesn't need to date her to take care of his baby, read my last post for reasoning
we had sex ONCE
and trust me, he does love me, how is it obvious he doesn't, you don't even know the whole story about me and him
AND THAT'S NOT WHAT I SAID!
I said who says he has to date her to raise his child!!!
and I do understand! I don't mind talking about the baby, hell I ask him questions about the baby!
AND ONCE AGAIN, I DON'T WANT HIM TO THROW AWAY BEING IN HIS CHILD'S LIFE FOR ME, WHERE THE HELL DID YOU GET THAT FROM!!!!!

All I'm saying is he should be with the mother, just to help raise the kid, overall he should be with her and the kid for a while
them together
Its a d**k move to abandon a mother with a baby to raise herself
and don't say "I didn't say he couldn't raise the baby"
well if hes off having sex with his friend
instead of taking care of his family
whos the weight poured onto?
because honestly he can pretty much consider his ex family too

I know you're mad but I said what I needed to
I'm not gonna sugarcoat it and tell you hes a douche for choosing to date his ex just so you can be happy

And if he does love you
what if he loves his ex too?

He can tell you all he wants he doesnt
and he can tell you all he wants he loves you
all I'm saying is
back off the friends with benefits thing, why don't YOU just stay good friends with him and let them be together to raise the child?

DID YOU NOT READ WHAT I SAID ABOUT HIM AND HER, ABOUT WHY I THINK THEY SHOULD BE GOOD FRIENDS ONLY, WHY SHOULD THEY DATE AND BE MISERABLE FOREVER? WHY SHOULD THEY DATE AND BREAK UP AGAIN AND HIM NEVER BE ABLE TO SEE HIS CHILD!
AND HE WAS AT THE HOSPITAL HER WITH 3 ******** DAYS STRAIGHT NOT EATING AND NOT SLEEPING TO BE WITH HER AND THE BABY, SO WHAT IF THE DAY HE FINALLY GETS TO GO HOME HE WANTS TO SPEND IT WITH ME???
DO YOU EXPECT HIM TO DROP OUT OF SCHOOL SO HE COULD SPEND 24/7 WITH HER AND THE BABY???
WE WERE ONLY FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS BECAUSE WE COULDN'T DATE BECAUSE HE SPENDS SO MUCH TIME ******** WORKING IN ORDER TO PAY FOR THE BABY
SO DON'T YOU DARE ******** SAY s**t ABOUT HIM!

He said he had to get back with his ex

stayed by her at the hospital for the child, without eating or sleeping

and the very BIG plus they're having a kid

sounds like love to me

Listen you don't know how her ex is just like I dont know how your soon to be father friend with benefits is you can only assume out of what you know that happens like breakups, etc, it could be for a good reason
you can call her a b***h all you want for doing that to him
and she can call you a b***h all she wants for trying to keep him from dating her again

overall sounds to me like he chose her

Let him make his own choice
you don't make choices for him got it? :]

I don't expect him to stay home from school to take care of the baby
but doesnt mean he cant spend time with it in his spare time

And guess what? Now you can't date because he spends so much time working to pay for the baby
and he needs to take care of it.
sounds like theres no time for you, but you wanna put more pressure on him than he has now by trying to be his lover when he has the pressures of work and a family of his own?
Sounds like YOU'RE the b***h

HE HAS TIME FOR ME, AT LEAST AS MUCH AS I NEED, WE SEE EACHOTHER IN SCHOOL, AND MAYBE ONCE EVERY 2 WEEKS...AT LEAST!

AND WHO THE ******** SAID I WAS MAKING CHOICES FOR HIM??? WHERE THE HELL ARE YOU GETTING THAT FROM, I AM JUST SAYING

AND I DO KNOW HIS EX IS A b***h, SO WHAT MAKES YOU ASSUME I DON'T KNOW HER?

HE DIDN'T SAY HE HAD TO GET BACK WITH HIS EX, HE THINKS HE HAS TO, I TOLD HIM JUST TO TAKE A LOT OF TIME AND THINK IT THROUGH BECAUSE WHAT IF SHE DOES WHAT SHE DID BEFORE???

I DON'T WANT HIM TO BE FORBIDDEN FROM SEEING HIS CHILD, YOU DON'T GET THAT, AND THAT I AM LOOKING OUT WHAT'S BEST FOR HIM

I JUST TOLD HIM TO THINK IT THROUGH AND NOT TO MAKE THAT ******** BIG OF A DECISION IN SUCH A SHORT TIME!!!

YOU'RE ACTING LIKE I SAID HE SHOULD NEVER SEE HER OR TALK TO HER OR HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH HER, I AM NOT EVEN CLOSE TO SAYING THAT!

AND DO YOU KNOW HOW MANY TEENAGERS GET PREGNANT AND HAVE SEX AND s**t LIKE THAT, IT DOESN'T ALWAYS MEAN THEY ARE IN LOVE AND PLANNED IT

And do you know how many guys tell girls they love them but don't mean it?

Let it go
You can see him
but you shouldn't date him
he needs to be with his FAMILY
you're more of a b***h than she'll ever be by trying to take him away from his
FAMILY
while you're his FRIEND

And he can make a decision in whatever time he needs, doesnt matter if its a short time long time or whatever

If his ex does what she did before then shes a b***h and she doesn't want him as a part of his family
THEN he can be with your immature a**
But until them
LET HIM DATE HER, NOT YOUR CHOICE, DO NOT PRESSURE HIM BY TELLING HIM NOT TO MAKE A DECISION IN SUCH A SHORT TIME AND MAKING A BIG DEAL OUT OF IT
You come second to his family, do you not understand that?
you are a friend
DEAL WITH IT

And if he has time for you
Spend it with him if you want, but as his FRIEND, because now he has a family
but realize
he loves his family more than you
if he feels he needs to be with his ex
LET HIM
if you're not making choices for him
let him be with his ex
do not get in between it
because thats obviously what he wants

if you aren't making choices for him
Why are you making such a big deal about him going back to his ex?
He stayed with her in the hospital without nourishment
if he dated her he obviously told her he loved her too
and he chose to be with her,
Thats love

what did he do for you?

Told you he loved you
had sex with you at random
said he had a baby on the way and had to be with his ex

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What if he does think it over and still chooses her and not you, then what?

then he chooses her, me and him will still be friends, cause that's what we've always been, he told me that if he does choose her he wants me and him to always be friends, no matter what, and that he could never forget me, and I only have until the end of this school year to be friends with him before he moves out of state to go to college

@ miyo- so far I have only read the first sentence...but I am just getting pissed because they are twisting what I say and taking it wrong...

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What if he does think it over and still chooses her and not you, then what?

then he chooses her, me and him will still be friends, cause that's what we've always been, he told me that if he does choose her he wants me and him to always be friends, no matter what, and that he could never forget me, and I only have until the end of this school year to be friends with him before he moves out of state to go to college

@ miyo- so far I have only read the first sentence...but I am just getting pissed because they are twisting what I say and taking it wrong...

Hehehe college with a new baby. Thats funny.

Anyway, I'm out. I gave my advice and I hope the baby, the guy, and the babies mom all turn out ok in this situation. And I hope you move on to find someone else to be with.

How old are the three of you? Just wondering.

[Insignificant Observer]

He chose to be with her. He needs to be near his child. Now why are you freaking? And he probably doesn't have enough time to see his lover inbetween work, school, and being a parent. And that would only lead the poor kid to believe that it's good to have more than one woman/man around and will confuse them.

He has to be a Father to the child. I'm not going to tell you that he was wrong for choosing them over you, cause lets face it, HE WASN'T. His family needs him more than you, and he's willing to be there for them.

And you sound jealous of the ex. I wouldn't judge her so hastily. It sounds like he loves her, so there must be some good in her, hmm?

*Edit: three words: Let It Go. You're only hurting yourself by hanging on. He made his choice. The child doesn't just need a Mother, he needs a Father, as well.

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You're selfish for not considering the child, and considering your own feelings

you're just a friend with benefits to him
whatever "Love" he has for you rests on your naked body
if he loved you he would've chose to be friends with her
but thats not the case
He has to take care of his kid
Like I said before

Family > friends

I say you shouldn't interfere with their buisness now
its time to back off

WHERE THE HELL ARE YOU GETTING THAT I AM NOT CONSIDERING THE CHILD! I AM! BUT I AM CONSIDERING HIM TOO!!!
he loved me BEFORE we even did anything, waaaay before things even got this far he said he loved me, and I can tell that he MEANS it like I said, you don't know the whole background on me and him
AND he hasn't chosen ANYTHING yet
and I WANT him to take care of his kid!!!
Hell I am the one who originally asked him to think through what he was going to do and I know his baby is more important, I WANT his baby to be more important, this isn't about that

The baby has everything to do with it
where the hell do you get the idea it doesn't? He needs to be with the mother of the child and help raise it

HE CAN ******** "BE WITH HER" WITHOUT DATING HER!!! HE CAN BE FRIENDS WITH HER, HE CAN HANG OUT WITH HER AND BE WITH BOTH HER AND THE BABY!

But doesnt he have to work all the time?
and he does have school right?
So in his spare time
hes gonna be with her and the kid right?

looks like he doesn't have to and probably won't be able to date you either

you sound really immature for thinking the mother is a b***h just because of breakups

he has a kid now
he loves it more than you
and he chose his soon to be mother of his baby
you stated it on your first post

Let it go
you're just his friend with benefits
he has a family now

if you love him, you'll understand that
and stop being such a b***h by trying to put more pressure on him with your immature bullshit
He dated his ex
He NEVER dated you
he loves her more than you
guess what?
Thats how it works
grow up and find someone else there are over 6 billion people in the world
you can at least find SOMEONE who will put up with your s**t

1. he hasn't chose ANYTHING yet, I am more than just a friend with benefits, I know that for a fact, even after the baby was born he still said he loved me! everytime we talked!

2. and I am not putting any pressure on him, I'm not saying "don't date her" all I told him was to think it through and to do what he thinks is right

3. and he doesn't love her, he just feels he HAS to get back together with her, which sure would be great, but he NEEDS to think more when he is not sleep deprived and malnourished

I labeled what you said as 1 2 3 and shall answer them AGAIN as followed

1. His ex is MORE than his ex, shes his babys MOTHER, shes his family he told her he loved her too, he took her back even after she broke up with him, and he stayed with her at the hospital for the baby, hes working now for the baby, he has to be with his family, he chose them

2. But you were implying for him to choose her or you, why else would you say "Think it through and do what you feel is right"? When the obvious answer is "Take care of your family, instead of sleeping with your damn "Friend" that loves you so much but still tries to pull him from the family he loves"

3. How do you know that? How do you know he doesn't love her? How do you know he loves you? Because he said so? Why do you think YOU'RE not the b***h in this situation? is that all proof you have? Get it through your head, he feels pressured, if hes losing sleep hes feeling pressured, and YOU are the one pressuring him, back Hes having a kid with his ex that he took back after she dumped him, and you're on the sidelines going PLEASE THINK ABOUT IT WAH WAH I'M YOUR FRIEND, CONSIDER ME BEFORE YOUR BABYS MOTHER AND HER FEELINGS,
THATS WHY HES PRESSURED DUMBASS

Because you're trying to IMPLY you're the right choice! He can find out the right choice without you having to jump in and tell him to
you are NOT the right choice

you are IMMATURE
you call his babys mother a b***h when all you know about her is "DEY BROEKD UP"

if you're so sure shes gonna treat him wrong then LET HER, if she treats him wrong sooner or later he'll leave her, or she'll leave him, but you know she wont
thats why you're so worried
thats why you're so piss pants about him being with his ex thats "Such a b***h for asking him to be with her because shes having his CHILD and wants the child to be with his father"

its obvious his ex isnt as bad as you say she is
or else you wouldnt be so pissass scared about him choosing her

you know what the right choice is
back off of him if you're going to try to run his life and his FAMILIES life because you can't ******** handle seeing your little friend with his babies mother