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[Life Issues Account]

READ MY POST ON PAGE 4...it makes more sense...

so this guy and me have been kinda friends with benefits, but we were still in love, but couldn't be together
he has a child, just born
he crushed me telling me about how he might have to get back with his ex, but he still loves me
the other day we were hanging out and he was acting like everything was okay, holding my hand, kissing me randomly, and well yeah, we got kinda into it, he was fingering me, then we just kinda had sex...kinda it's just cause I was like extremely vulnerable with him breaking my heart like that they day before, but after like 5 minutes I snapped out of it and asked him to stop, he was nice and listened...
but still...I feel bad...cause now even more if he gets back with his ex it will hurt me even more...

also I don't see why he has to date her again...who ever said you had to date to raise your child, you can just be good friends, can't you

apparently I have to make this clear so...I WANT HIM TO TAKE CARE OF THE BABY, I WANT HIM TO BE IN THE BABY'S LIFE, I LOVE THE CHILD, I ASK HIM STUFF ABOUT THE BABY, AND I DON'T WANT THAT TAKEN AWAY FROM HIM

Edit #2 cause that Typik person is a jack a**, I AM NOT MAKING NO DECISIONS FOR HIM, ALL I TOLD HIM WAS TO THINK IT THROUGH!

[RayneTree]

His baby's momma might be a b***h who won't let him see the childl if he isn't with her. :/
Court is expensive.
All you can do is tell him your concerns and feelings. But if it did ultimately come down to seeing his kid, I would hope he would choose his child over you.

[Lyanthya]

Some people feel that it's better for the parents of a child to be romantically "together" no matter what their real feelings are. I disagree, but, well, some people believe that.

And yeah, I see why you're hurting. PM me if you need to.

[`Typik]

No matter how much you hate it
hes gonna have to take care of the kid
it needs its dad

You need to stay away from him if hes doing this
because he needs to care for his ex and his newborn child, and stop having sex with you

I'm sorry to say it but he doesn't love you
its kind of obvious

And yes, doesnt matter who said he had to raise his child, he does
because its he made the child
once you have one you'll understand

you don't just throw a baby away for your FRIEND with benefits
because a child is your FAMILY
Compare the two words in caps

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RayneTree

His baby's momma might be a b***h who won't let him see the childl if he isn't with her. :/
Court is expensive.
All you can do is tell him your concerns and feelings. But if it did ultimately come down to seeing his kid, I would hope he would choose his child over you.

I hope he would choose his child too

and she is a b***h, but she'll still let him see his child...but they've broken up twice already, first time for like 2 months, but this time they have been broken up for like 4...and the first time she was like I'm not going to let you ever see the baby and she even said that he couldn't put his name down as the father...I mean if he goes out with her again...and they break up again...very likely, they are only teenagers...what if she does that and doesn't let him see his baby...that's why I think wouldn't just being good friends be best?

[`Typik]

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RayneTree

His baby's momma might be a b***h who won't let him see the childl if he isn't with her. :/
Court is expensive.
All you can do is tell him your concerns and feelings. But if it did ultimately come down to seeing his kid, I would hope he would choose his child over you.

I hope he would choose his child too

and she is a b***h, but she'll still let him see his child...but they've broken up twice already, first time for like 2 months, but this time they have been broken up for like 4...and the first time she was like I'm not going to let you ever see the baby and she even said that he couldn't put his name down as the father...I mean if he goes out with her again...and they break up again...very likely, they are only teenagers...what if she does that and doesn't let him see his baby...that's why I think wouldn't just being good friends be best?

You're selfish for not considering the child, and considering your own feelings

you're just a friend with benefits to him
whatever "Love" he has for you rests on your naked body
if he loved you he would've chose to be friends with her
but thats not the case
He has to take care of his kid
Like I said before

Family > friends

I say you shouldn't interfere with their buisness now
its time to back off

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`Typik

No matter how much you hate it
hes gonna have to take care of the kid
it needs its dad

You need to stay away from him if hes doing this
because he needs to care for his ex and his newborn child, and stop having sex with you

I'm sorry to say it but he doesn't love you
its kind of obvious

And yes, doesnt matter who said he had to raise his child, he does
because its he made the child
once you have one you'll understand

you don't just throw a baby away for your FRIEND with benefits
because a child is your FAMILY
Compare the two words in caps

okay you just pissed me off and misread everything
I KNOW he is gonna take care of his kid, I never said I didn't want him to, I really want him to be a good father to the baby
I want him to care for his ex and his child, but he doesn't need to date her to take care of his baby, read my last post for reasoning
we had sex ONCE
and trust me, he does love me, how is it obvious he doesn't, you don't even know the whole story about me and him
AND THAT'S NOT WHAT I SAID!
I said who says he has to date her to raise his child!!!
and I do understand! I don't mind talking about the baby, hell I ask him questions about the baby!
AND ONCE AGAIN, I DON'T WANT HIM TO THROW AWAY BEING IN HIS CHILD'S LIFE FOR ME, WHERE THE HELL DID YOU GET THAT FROM!!!!!

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`Typik

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RayneTree

His baby's momma might be a b***h who won't let him see the childl if he isn't with her. :/
Court is expensive.
All you can do is tell him your concerns and feelings. But if it did ultimately come down to seeing his kid, I would hope he would choose his child over you.

I hope he would choose his child too

and she is a b***h, but she'll still let him see his child...but they've broken up twice already, first time for like 2 months, but this time they have been broken up for like 4...and the first time she was like I'm not going to let you ever see the baby and she even said that he couldn't put his name down as the father...I mean if he goes out with her again...and they break up again...very likely, they are only teenagers...what if she does that and doesn't let him see his baby...that's why I think wouldn't just being good friends be best?

You're selfish for not considering the child, and considering your own feelings

you're just a friend with benefits to him
whatever "Love" he has for you rests on your naked body
if he loved you he would've chose to be friends with her
but thats not the case
He has to take care of his kid
Like I said before

Family > friends

I say you shouldn't interfere with their buisness now
its time to back off

WHERE THE HELL ARE YOU GETTING THAT I AM NOT CONSIDERING THE CHILD! I AM! BUT I AM CONSIDERING HIM TOO!!!
he loved me BEFORE we even did anything, waaaay before things even got this far he said he loved me, and I can tell that he MEANS it like I said, you don't know the whole background on me and him
AND he hasn't chosen ANYTHING yet
and I WANT him to take care of his kid!!!
Hell I am the one who originally asked him to think through what he was going to do and I know his baby is more important, I WANT his baby to be more important, this isn't about that

[`Typik]

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`Typik

No matter how much you hate it
hes gonna have to take care of the kid
it needs its dad

You need to stay away from him if hes doing this
because he needs to care for his ex and his newborn child, and stop having sex with you

I'm sorry to say it but he doesn't love you
its kind of obvious

And yes, doesnt matter who said he had to raise his child, he does
because its he made the child
once you have one you'll understand

you don't just throw a baby away for your FRIEND with benefits
because a child is your FAMILY
Compare the two words in caps

okay you just pissed me off and misread everything
I KNOW he is gonna take care of his kid, I never said I didn't want him to, I really want him to be a good father to the baby
I want him to care for his ex and his child, but he doesn't need to date her to take care of his baby, read my last post for reasoning
we had sex ONCE
and trust me, he does love me, how is it obvious he doesn't, you don't even know the whole story about me and him
AND THAT'S NOT WHAT I SAID!
I said who says he has to date her to raise his child!!!
and I do understand! I don't mind talking about the baby, hell I ask him questions about the baby!
AND ONCE AGAIN, I DON'T WANT HIM TO THROW AWAY BEING IN HIS CHILD'S LIFE FOR ME, WHERE THE HELL DID YOU GET THAT FROM!!!!!

All I'm saying is he should be with the mother, just to help raise the kid, overall he should be with her and the kid for a while
them together
Its a d**k move to abandon a mother with a baby to raise herself
and don't say "I didn't say he couldn't raise the baby"
well if hes off having sex with his friend
instead of taking care of his family
whos the weight poured onto?
because honestly he can pretty much consider his ex family too

I know you're mad but I said what I needed to
I'm not gonna sugarcoat it and tell you hes a douche for choosing to date his ex just so you can be happy

And if he does love you
what if he loves his ex too?

He can tell you all he wants he doesnt
and he can tell you all he wants he loves you
all I'm saying is
back off the friends with benefits thing, why don't YOU just stay good friends with him and let them be together to raise the child?

[`Typik]

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RayneTree

His baby's momma might be a b***h who won't let him see the childl if he isn't with her. :/
Court is expensive.
All you can do is tell him your concerns and feelings. But if it did ultimately come down to seeing his kid, I would hope he would choose his child over you.

I hope he would choose his child too

and she is a b***h, but she'll still let him see his child...but they've broken up twice already, first time for like 2 months, but this time they have been broken up for like 4...and the first time she was like I'm not going to let you ever see the baby and she even said that he couldn't put his name down as the father...I mean if he goes out with her again...and they break up again...very likely, they are only teenagers...what if she does that and doesn't let him see his baby...that's why I think wouldn't just being good friends be best?

You're selfish for not considering the child, and considering your own feelings

you're just a friend with benefits to him
whatever "Love" he has for you rests on your naked body
if he loved you he would've chose to be friends with her
but thats not the case
He has to take care of his kid
Like I said before

Family > friends

I say you shouldn't interfere with their buisness now
its time to back off

WHERE THE HELL ARE YOU GETTING THAT I AM NOT CONSIDERING THE CHILD! I AM! BUT I AM CONSIDERING HIM TOO!!!
he loved me BEFORE we even did anything, waaaay before things even got this far he said he loved me, and I can tell that he MEANS it like I said, you don't know the whole background on me and him
AND he hasn't chosen ANYTHING yet
and I WANT him to take care of his kid!!!
Hell I am the one who originally asked him to think through what he was going to do and I know his baby is more important, I WANT his baby to be more important, this isn't about that

The baby has everything to do with it
where the hell do you get the idea it doesn't? He needs to be with the mother of the child and help raise it

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`Typik

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`Typik

No matter how much you hate it
hes gonna have to take care of the kid
it needs its dad

You need to stay away from him if hes doing this
because he needs to care for his ex and his newborn child, and stop having sex with you

I'm sorry to say it but he doesn't love you
its kind of obvious

And yes, doesnt matter who said he had to raise his child, he does
because its he made the child
once you have one you'll understand

you don't just throw a baby away for your FRIEND with benefits
because a child is your FAMILY
Compare the two words in caps

okay you just pissed me off and misread everything
I KNOW he is gonna take care of his kid, I never said I didn't want him to, I really want him to be a good father to the baby
I want him to care for his ex and his child, but he doesn't need to date her to take care of his baby, read my last post for reasoning
we had sex ONCE
and trust me, he does love me, how is it obvious he doesn't, you don't even know the whole story about me and him
AND THAT'S NOT WHAT I SAID!
I said who says he has to date her to raise his child!!!
and I do understand! I don't mind talking about the baby, hell I ask him questions about the baby!
AND ONCE AGAIN, I DON'T WANT HIM TO THROW AWAY BEING IN HIS CHILD'S LIFE FOR ME, WHERE THE HELL DID YOU GET THAT FROM!!!!!

All I'm saying is he should be with the mother, just to help raise the kid, overall he should be with her and the kid for a while
them together
Its a d**k move to abandon a mother with a baby to raise herself
and don't say "I didn't say he couldn't raise the baby"
well if hes off having sex with his friend
instead of taking care of his family
whos the weight poured onto?
because honestly he can pretty much consider his ex family too

I know you're mad but I said what I needed to
I'm not gonna sugarcoat it and tell you hes a douche for choosing to date his ex just so you can be happy

And if he does love you
what if he loves his ex too?

He can tell you all he wants he doesnt
and he can tell you all he wants he loves you
all I'm saying is
back off the friends with benefits thing, why don't YOU just stay good friends with him and let them be together to raise the child?

DID YOU NOT READ WHAT I SAID ABOUT HIM AND HER, ABOUT WHY I THINK THEY SHOULD BE GOOD FRIENDS ONLY, WHY SHOULD THEY DATE AND BE MISERABLE FOREVER? WHY SHOULD THEY DATE AND BREAK UP AGAIN AND HIM NEVER BE ABLE TO SEE HIS CHILD!
AND HE WAS AT THE HOSPITAL HER WITH 3 ******** DAYS STRAIGHT NOT EATING AND NOT SLEEPING TO BE WITH HER AND THE BABY, SO WHAT IF THE DAY HE FINALLY GETS TO GO HOME HE WANTS TO SPEND IT WITH ME???
DO YOU EXPECT HIM TO DROP OUT OF SCHOOL SO HE COULD SPEND 24/7 WITH HER AND THE BABY???
WE WERE ONLY FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS BECAUSE WE COULDN'T DATE BECAUSE HE SPENDS SO MUCH TIME ******** WORKING IN ORDER TO PAY FOR THE BABY
SO DON'T YOU DARE ******** SAY s**t ABOUT HIM!

[wanker696969]

if you two plot to kill his kid off suffocation works well at that age make it look like an accident youll get insurance money to start a new life as well make sure the kid has health insurance and s**t trust me it works he wont have to be with his ex and you two can be happy

also he sounds like a whitetrash sleazeball lolz.

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RayneTree

His baby's momma might be a b***h who won't let him see the childl if he isn't with her. :/
Court is expensive.
All you can do is tell him your concerns and feelings. But if it did ultimately come down to seeing his kid, I would hope he would choose his child over you.

I hope he would choose his child too

and she is a b***h, but she'll still let him see his child...but they've broken up twice already, first time for like 2 months, but this time they have been broken up for like 4...and the first time she was like I'm not going to let you ever see the baby and she even said that he couldn't put his name down as the father...I mean if he goes out with her again...and they break up again...very likely, they are only teenagers...what if she does that and doesn't let him see his baby...that's why I think wouldn't just being good friends be best?

You're selfish for not considering the child, and considering your own feelings

you're just a friend with benefits to him
whatever "Love" he has for you rests on your naked body
if he loved you he would've chose to be friends with her
but thats not the case
He has to take care of his kid
Like I said before

Family > friends

I say you shouldn't interfere with their buisness now
its time to back off

WHERE THE HELL ARE YOU GETTING THAT I AM NOT CONSIDERING THE CHILD! I AM! BUT I AM CONSIDERING HIM TOO!!!
he loved me BEFORE we even did anything, waaaay before things even got this far he said he loved me, and I can tell that he MEANS it like I said, you don't know the whole background on me and him
AND he hasn't chosen ANYTHING yet
and I WANT him to take care of his kid!!!
Hell I am the one who originally asked him to think through what he was going to do and I know his baby is more important, I WANT his baby to be more important, this isn't about that

The baby has everything to do with it
where the hell do you get the idea it doesn't? He needs to be with the mother of the child and help raise it

HE CAN ******** "BE WITH HER" WITHOUT DATING HER!!! HE CAN BE FRIENDS WITH HER, HE CAN HANG OUT WITH HER AND BE WITH BOTH HER AND THE BABY!

[RayneTree]

Studies have shown that two parents in the home is much better than only one. He loves his child more than you, so when it comes to matters of his family, you shouldn't have a say so.

I advise you move on and find someone without so much baggage because you seem to immature to handle it. :/

If he works so much to take care of his child, then he has no time for you either. So get over it.

You’re freaking out over nothing, chill out. You asked for advice, don't freak out when you get something other than what you want to hear.

You don't KNOW they will break up, hell, no one knows that. The same way your telling Typik not to assume anything about this guy, don't assume that you know everything about him either.

And sure, he doesn't "HAVE" to be with her, but in his mind maybe it makes things a bit easier.

Think about it. That's my advise. THINK before you act. Your acting on selfish impulses, by saying he doesn't have to date her you're really saying he needs to be dating you. :/

[`Typik]

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`Typik

No matter how much you hate it
hes gonna have to take care of the kid
it needs its dad

You need to stay away from him if hes doing this
because he needs to care for his ex and his newborn child, and stop having sex with you

I'm sorry to say it but he doesn't love you
its kind of obvious

And yes, doesnt matter who said he had to raise his child, he does
because its he made the child
once you have one you'll understand

you don't just throw a baby away for your FRIEND with benefits
because a child is your FAMILY
Compare the two words in caps

okay you just pissed me off and misread everything
I KNOW he is gonna take care of his kid, I never said I didn't want him to, I really want him to be a good father to the baby
I want him to care for his ex and his child, but he doesn't need to date her to take care of his baby, read my last post for reasoning
we had sex ONCE
and trust me, he does love me, how is it obvious he doesn't, you don't even know the whole story about me and him
AND THAT'S NOT WHAT I SAID!
I said who says he has to date her to raise his child!!!
and I do understand! I don't mind talking about the baby, hell I ask him questions about the baby!
AND ONCE AGAIN, I DON'T WANT HIM TO THROW AWAY BEING IN HIS CHILD'S LIFE FOR ME, WHERE THE HELL DID YOU GET THAT FROM!!!!!

All I'm saying is he should be with the mother, just to help raise the kid, overall he should be with her and the kid for a while
them together
Its a d**k move to abandon a mother with a baby to raise herself
and don't say "I didn't say he couldn't raise the baby"
well if hes off having sex with his friend
instead of taking care of his family
whos the weight poured onto?
because honestly he can pretty much consider his ex family too

I know you're mad but I said what I needed to
I'm not gonna sugarcoat it and tell you hes a douche for choosing to date his ex just so you can be happy

And if he does love you
what if he loves his ex too?

He can tell you all he wants he doesnt
and he can tell you all he wants he loves you
all I'm saying is
back off the friends with benefits thing, why don't YOU just stay good friends with him and let them be together to raise the child?

DID YOU NOT READ WHAT I SAID ABOUT HIM AND HER, ABOUT WHY I THINK THEY SHOULD BE GOOD FRIENDS ONLY, WHY SHOULD THEY DATE AND BE MISERABLE FOREVER? WHY SHOULD THEY DATE AND BREAK UP AGAIN AND HIM NEVER BE ABLE TO SEE HIS CHILD!
AND HE WAS AT THE HOSPITAL HER WITH 3 ******** DAYS STRAIGHT NOT EATING AND NOT SLEEPING TO BE WITH HER AND THE BABY, SO WHAT IF THE DAY HE FINALLY GETS TO GO HOME HE WANTS TO SPEND IT WITH ME???
DO YOU EXPECT HIM TO DROP OUT OF SCHOOL SO HE COULD SPEND 24/7 WITH HER AND THE BABY???
WE WERE ONLY FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS BECAUSE WE COULDN'T DATE BECAUSE HE SPENDS SO MUCH TIME ******** WORKING IN ORDER TO PAY FOR THE BABY
SO DON'T YOU DARE ******** SAY s**t ABOUT HIM!

He said he had to get back with his ex

stayed by her at the hospital for the child, without eating or sleeping

and the very BIG plus they're having a kid

sounds like love to me

Listen you don't know how her ex is just like I dont know how your soon to be father friend with benefits is you can only assume out of what you know that happens like breakups, etc, it could be for a good reason
you can call her a b***h all you want for doing that to him
and she can call you a b***h all she wants for trying to keep him from dating her again

overall sounds to me like he chose her

Let him make his own choice
you don't make choices for him got it? :]

I don't expect him to stay home from school to take care of the baby
but doesnt mean he cant spend time with it in his spare time

And guess what? Now you can't date because he spends so much time working to pay for the baby
and he needs to take care of it.
sounds like theres no time for you, but you wanna put more pressure on him than he has now by trying to be his lover when he has the pressures of work and a family of his own?
Sounds like YOU'RE the b***h