FEEL MY FIRES
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- Posted: Fri, 17 Oct 2014 13:28:49 +0000
I just got into a relationship, finally.
That sounds like it's not gravely important, but to me, it's important. I generally avoid being in relationships, let alone allow the potential for one. But here's the dirt.
I met this girl at the end of summer and now it's mid-fall and rapidly nearing the end of the semester. She doesn't go to school with me but I manage to hang out with this girl on a daily basis despite my excessive work and schoolwork schedule.
Again, so what?
She's in love with me, and I've been having sex with her and I like her too. I like her. But when I like people, I want them to go away. It's how I've learned to be. Whenever I try to get her to go away, she doesn't leave and a significant part of me doesn't want her to at all. I look forward to seeing her every day. I never want to leave when I'm around her. And she never wants me to leave.
I'm jealous of her friends and I told her that. Jealousy is something that upsets me, genuinely. I don't understand the feeling of jealousy, but she does and she accepts the fact that I'm jealous and doesn't find herself put off by it. This girl just throws money at me, if I say I need something or want something, she ends up buying when I plan on paying. I feel bad having her pay for everything and sometimes I feel I should be doing the paying even though I don't make nearly as much as she does.
When we're intimate, I spend a lot of time pleasuring her. And I actually don't mind it at all. She wants to do the same, but usually I insist that I don't need to be because it's enough for me to get her off. She thinks I'm just not telling her what I want. She always wants to know what's going on in my head and I have trouble telling her every single time she asks what I'm thinking. I never complain around her. She encourages me to do so, but I just can't.
Basically, my problem is that I'm not sure how to handle this situation. It needs to take a direction and I feel kind of emotionally retarded. I'm not good at understanding this kind of thing, so I need some input or advice. Anything.
That sounds like it's not gravely important, but to me, it's important. I generally avoid being in relationships, let alone allow the potential for one. But here's the dirt.
I met this girl at the end of summer and now it's mid-fall and rapidly nearing the end of the semester. She doesn't go to school with me but I manage to hang out with this girl on a daily basis despite my excessive work and schoolwork schedule.
Again, so what?
She's in love with me, and I've been having sex with her and I like her too. I like her. But when I like people, I want them to go away. It's how I've learned to be. Whenever I try to get her to go away, she doesn't leave and a significant part of me doesn't want her to at all. I look forward to seeing her every day. I never want to leave when I'm around her. And she never wants me to leave.
I'm jealous of her friends and I told her that. Jealousy is something that upsets me, genuinely. I don't understand the feeling of jealousy, but she does and she accepts the fact that I'm jealous and doesn't find herself put off by it. This girl just throws money at me, if I say I need something or want something, she ends up buying when I plan on paying. I feel bad having her pay for everything and sometimes I feel I should be doing the paying even though I don't make nearly as much as she does.
When we're intimate, I spend a lot of time pleasuring her. And I actually don't mind it at all. She wants to do the same, but usually I insist that I don't need to be because it's enough for me to get her off. She thinks I'm just not telling her what I want. She always wants to know what's going on in my head and I have trouble telling her every single time she asks what I'm thinking. I never complain around her. She encourages me to do so, but I just can't.
Basically, my problem is that I'm not sure how to handle this situation. It needs to take a direction and I feel kind of emotionally retarded. I'm not good at understanding this kind of thing, so I need some input or advice. Anything.