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- Posted: Mon, 16 Apr 2012 06:12:49 +0000
I think it's mainly because I do still have feelings for him. Also, he told me once after almost breaking up with me that he'd really rather not break up with me but he can't handle me talking about it so much. He has gotten better about listening to me on the issue too, and sort of admitted he did something wrong recently so that another reason why. I'm also a little scared of hurting him and myself.
If it's a bad relationship, no amount of feelings with make it better. You actually need more than love.
" Also, he told me once after almost breaking up with me that he'd really rather not break up with me but he can't handle me talking about it so much."
That sounds incredibly manipulative. It's obviously an issue to you, and he's not considering your emotion about it at all, and using your relationship as a tool to ignore discussing the problem all together. The fact that he threatens breaking up with you to avoid the topic, and has done so multiple times (by the sounds of it) leads me to believe he knows you aren't going to dump him, and will use this card to get what he wants and gain the upper hand in arguments. That's incredibly hurtful.
Sort of admitting really doesn't mean anything. If he full on admitted you were both wrong in this scenario and apologized for his part, that's one thing. Somewhat admitting sounds half assed and he did it to make you stop bothering him about it.
It sounds like you're going to get more hurt out of this relationship before it's over. You don't sound like you trust him. He won't talk to you about it so you can fully trust him again. This is just something that's going to fester.
All this, and I haven't even touched the subject about him asking a girl for a naked picture. Trust me, guys don't typically joke when they ask for one. They pretend they're joking, but are secretly hoping she'll comply. I would bet money he didn't stop talking to her because you were hurt, but because she was offended he asked for a tit picture. He hid it because he knew it was wrong, not because he didn't want you to be hurt. If he was concerned for your feelings, he wouldn't have done it in the first place.
I'm not trying to be mean or make you more paranoid. But this entire situation just sounds bad and I'm not getting the sense you trust your boyfriend, or that he's even trust worthy.