Helvetica DaFont
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- Posted: Thu, 14 Aug 2014 13:29:24 +0000
This might sound silly but I really value the gesture. Telling someone you love them can trump all other forms of affection and rid you of doubts and relieve some insecurities to a degree.
Before you ask, my boyfriend has said it before, I'm not pressuring him into saying it for the first time or anything. I just wonder if maybe he's fallen out of his puppy love phase in our relationship and doesn't realize how little he says it.
He used to be so affectionate and would just say it without reason.
He only says it unless I initiate it. And usually he doesn't say it back unless it's at night or when we're parting. And even then quite often he doesn't even say it then. Like last night, I called him to tell him good night and I love him because that's just how I've been raised - if you love someone you should always let them know when you're going to be apart.
Me: Hey I just wanted to call and say good night.
Him: Oh, okay. Well, good night and sweet dreams!
Him: Sleep well.
Me: Thanks sweetie, I -
Him: *click*
Me: ...love you stare
He can get really defensive when I try to talk about something that I have an issue with and makes it look like I was aiming to bite his head off or chew him out. So I don't know how to address the issue that I'd really like to hear it more often in a neutral or sincere way. It doesn't feel the same if I'm always the one who has to initiate it.
Before you ask, my boyfriend has said it before, I'm not pressuring him into saying it for the first time or anything. I just wonder if maybe he's fallen out of his puppy love phase in our relationship and doesn't realize how little he says it.
He used to be so affectionate and would just say it without reason.
He only says it unless I initiate it. And usually he doesn't say it back unless it's at night or when we're parting. And even then quite often he doesn't even say it then. Like last night, I called him to tell him good night and I love him because that's just how I've been raised - if you love someone you should always let them know when you're going to be apart.
Me: Hey I just wanted to call and say good night.
Him: Oh, okay. Well, good night and sweet dreams!
Him: Sleep well.
Me: Thanks sweetie, I -
Him: *click*
Me: ...love you stare
He can get really defensive when I try to talk about something that I have an issue with and makes it look like I was aiming to bite his head off or chew him out. So I don't know how to address the issue that I'd really like to hear it more often in a neutral or sincere way. It doesn't feel the same if I'm always the one who has to initiate it.