How do I tell her? (homosexual)

[A3elegance]

I like my best friend, as more than a best friend. I've told her, and only her, that I am bisexual. She's fine with in, and there was no change in our friendship at all. I really want to tell her that it's her that I like, but I'm so scared she'll treat me differently, or worse. And I don't even know how to tell her in the first place. This is the first tine I've liked a girl this much, so I have no experience.

Also, she currently has a boyfriend. She only went out with him because she felt he deserved a chance, so she doesn't have anything major with him, but she does kind of like him. I think. They're not going to break up any time soon though, so I'm not going to wait for that.

How do you think her having a boyfriend will affect it?

How should I tell her?

What do you think her reaction will be?

Is there even a possibility that she likes me?

[myotishia]

Her having a boyfriend effects a lot I'm afraid. If they're happy together then it wouldn't be fare to break them up. It would be best if you are going to tell her to wait until she's single.
Tell her face to face, it's easier that way. And say that you just want to talk and there's no pressure on her , you just wanted her to know.
It's going to be hard whatever happens because this is a pretty complicated situation, but you can try and soften the blow for both of you by acting calmly and not blurting anything out in front of anyone else.
I can't really say how she'll react, so just be calm and careful about what you say and it should be ok.
It's hard to tell if someone likes you in that way, if they keep looking over at you when you're in a group, or goes out of their way to hang out with you more than their other friends then that's also a clue.
Hope this helps hon.
hugs.

[burlap sacks]

She has a boyfriend. Imagine if you were straight, had a boyfriend, and she told you she was gay. How do you think you'd both react? Don't tell her, unless she asks, or else major drama will ensue. rolleyes

[halves]

1. Its not very nice to try your luck when she already has a boyfriend. You wouldn't go after a boy if he already had a girlfriend, would you?

2. It is probably unlikely that she does like you back. When you came out as bi to her, if she was also bi, curious, or gay then she probably would have said so.

3. Its normal to have crushes on close friends when you're a teenager. If you give it some time you'll probably move on and meet a girl who isn't taken and most likely straight. It may hurt to move on, but its really your only option and you'll soon find someone else, I promise.

[xX `K i t K a t` Xx]

She's not a bisexual, right?
She probably doesn't like you, and I wouldn't go for it.
She has a boyfriend already, what do you expect from her?
Anyways, you'll probably get over it. 3nodding

[Rinny_chan]

It's tough, but I also think that you should try and move on. If you still like her a lot after you give the feelings a little while to blow over, maybe it's something more serious than just a common crush on a close friend, and then you might want to tell her. But make sure you try and let her know in a way that will not make her feel uncomfortable or pressured, as that may scare her away as a girl and as your best friend.
She may not be bisexual, but she also may feel an attraction to you, which may form a closer bond of love, whether she likes women or not; I wouldn't count on that, though, to be truly honest.
Good luck.

[Winkpolve _]

DONT DO IT, DONT DO IT, YOU WILL LOSE UR FRIENDSHIP WITH HER!!! wahmbulance wahmbulance wahmbulance wahmbulance wahmbulance wahmbulance wahmbulance

[dangerousgame08]

You never know, she might like you too. I took the chance in telling my best friend I liked him in a sexual way, and he felt the same about me. We didn't hook up because we both have girlfriends, but it brought us closer knowing how we truly felt. It's really your decission whether you tell her.Worst case scenario, she freaks and doesn't talk to you. If that's what she does, then she doesn't completely accept you.

[artemismoonmaiden]

I'm going to say don't tell her yet, and even if she breaks up with him, wait a little while to see if your feelings for her are still there, if not don't even tell her and forget about it. If they are, try to find out if she likes you without giving yourself away. I know how you feel and it's hard. But you just gotta wait

[whoaitskatie]

DON'T DO IT.
YOU'RE TOO UGLY. ):

[peach pearl]

I am sorry to say, but if you reveal that to her, it will more than likely be the death of your friendship. I would keep it to yourself, those feelings will fade with time.

[XxxemoXpoptartxxX]

it depednds does she ever seem atracted 2 u
anyway you should be totally honest with her
and she will be totally honest with you

say"can i be completly and utterly honest with you(wait 4 yes)"
and then say" i like you more than a friend and i hope somewhere u can give me a chance like u gave your boyfriend a chance and if u dont like like me i totally understand but dont let it ruin our friendship!"

[AketA]

She at least deserves to know and if you never say anything, it'll eat you up inside for the longest time... however, if what she has with her boyfriend doesn't look like it'll last forever, I say wait till she's single because it'll complicate things much less...

As for telling your single female best friend that you love her, let me say I've been there. I never have to wonder about "what could've happened" because I now know she never wanted anything to happen. If she's your best friend, she should still love you the same, even if she doesn't love you the way you love her.

But here's the thing... I was still confused about what I was... it went from bisexual to lesbian to asexual with romantic atractions... be as sure as you can be about what you are. But even while you do that, think about how you are attracted to your friend and why. I spent nearly half a year dwelling on it and it boiled down to the simple fact that I loved <i>her</i> the person that she was, not what she looked like, not a physical attraction... above all I loved her and I still do. I told her and I do not for a moment regret it, even if she did tell me we couldn't have something together, I was still one of her best friends. Just be careful and don't let yourself get too caught up in being hurt about it. I let a full year of high school be ruined for me because of my hurt feelings and for the same reason, I almost destroyed our friendship a few times. I still am not over it, but I can joke about it... and well... yeah, I do make one or two bitterly sarcastic remarks at her now and then.

Just hope for the best and, again, if she accepts that you're bisexual, it means she should accept the possibility you may have feelings for her.

[YaoixRolexPlay]

I think you should tell her. If she is that important to you then you should really tell her. Just don't start off all serious. You should probably try telling her in a more light-hearted way so that she doesn't have so much pressure put on her, and if she gets upset you could laugh it off with her. If she ends up being straight and doesn't like you back, don't be too bummed out. She is your best friend and who knows, things could work out in the future. I can assure you that she will not freak out and be weirded out by you. I have a bi friend who is crushing on me and I do not think any less of her. Best of luck.

[Lady_of_the_Night_187]

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