how do i make my boyfriend propose to me?

[Fial Neilans little moon]

Bahama_Momma

Bridezilla anyone? rolleyes
Just so you know crazy lady, a wedding isn't all about the bride.
The husband kind of plays an important part too.
Unless you're rich, don't expect him to produce a very expensive wedding out of thin air.
Not to mention support himself and a crazy wife.

You are so right. >.< I mean, wtf is up with this chick? The BDSM stuff pisses me off to no end as well, she's trying to "top from the bottom" which is a term I'm familiar with. She chose to submit to him and she says she's wearing a collar. Unless she's bedroom only with her kink, she's being a completely disrespectful b***h who needs to be punished appropriately or let go.

[Bahama_Momma]

sweetcharades1234

Bahama_Momma

Bridezilla anyone? rolleyes
Just so you know crazy lady, a wedding isn't all about the bride.
The husband kind of plays an important part too.
Unless you're rich, don't expect him to produce a very expensive wedding out of thin air.
Not to mention support himself and a crazy wife.

You are so right. >.< I mean, wtf is up with this chick? The BDSM stuff pisses me off to no end as well, she's trying to "top from the bottom" which is a term I'm familiar with. She chose to submit to him and she says she's wearing a collar. Unless she's bedroom only with her kink, she's being a completely disrespectful b***h who needs to be punished appropriately or let go.

I actually don't know much about the bondage bit but isn't the submissive supposed to be...well, submissive? Not yanking him by his testies and forcing him to propose because she needs a damn Disney wedding? It's the typical drama "It's all about me!" where all common courtesy and decency goes out the window. You know where everyone wants to beat the crap out of her but can't because she's got the immunity card with being the bride and all.

[Fial Neilans little moon]

Bahama_Momma

sweetcharades1234

Bahama_Momma

Bridezilla anyone? rolleyes
Just so you know crazy lady, a wedding isn't all about the bride.
The husband kind of plays an important part too.
Unless you're rich, don't expect him to produce a very expensive wedding out of thin air.
Not to mention support himself and a crazy wife.

You are so right. >.< I mean, wtf is up with this chick? The BDSM stuff pisses me off to no end as well, she's trying to "top from the bottom" which is a term I'm familiar with. She chose to submit to him and she says she's wearing a collar. Unless she's bedroom only with her kink, she's being a completely disrespectful b***h who needs to be punished appropriately or let go.

I actually don't know much about the bondage bit but isn't the submissive supposed to be...well, submissive? Not yanking him by his testies and forcing him to propose because she needs a damn Disney wedding? It's the typical drama "It's all about me!" where all common courtesy and decency goes out the window. You know where everyone wants to beat the crap out of her but can't because she's got the immunity card with being the bride and all.

Well it depends on the couple with the BDSM stuff. If she is a bedroom only submissive, it'd be acceptable because they only partake in the sadomasochistic sexual side of it. But, based on the fact that she met him on Second Life and most of the BDSM on there is roleplay, I don't think she fully understands what submission and collaring means. Collaring is the act of giving over an agreed amount of control to the Dominant, which is a commitment in itself, though these days people take part in collaring a lot quicker than they should and it leads to many issues in the relationship, like this one. Submission and Dominance both involve having respect. The Dominant should respect the submissive's limits yet try and urge growth and development in him/her. And the submissive should respect the rules set down by the Dominant. Both should respect each other as human beings, unless in a scene or taking part in a form of sexual humiliation, which is when someone is turned on by being humiliated. That is the basics at least. There are other variations on this of course... This is merely my interpretation of it.

[Magical Kitty-tan]

sweetcharades1234

Bahama_Momma

sweetcharades1234

Bahama_Momma

Bridezilla anyone? rolleyes
Just so you know crazy lady, a wedding isn't all about the bride.
The husband kind of plays an important part too.
Unless you're rich, don't expect him to produce a very expensive wedding out of thin air.
Not to mention support himself and a crazy wife.

You are so right. >.< I mean, wtf is up with this chick? The BDSM stuff pisses me off to no end as well, she's trying to "top from the bottom" which is a term I'm familiar with. She chose to submit to him and she says she's wearing a collar. Unless she's bedroom only with her kink, she's being a completely disrespectful b***h who needs to be punished appropriately or let go.

I actually don't know much about the bondage bit but isn't the submissive supposed to be...well, submissive? Not yanking him by his testies and forcing him to propose because she needs a damn Disney wedding? It's the typical drama "It's all about me!" where all common courtesy and decency goes out the window. You know where everyone wants to beat the crap out of her but can't because she's got the immunity card with being the bride and all.

Well it depends on the couple with the BDSM stuff. If she is a bedroom only submissive, it'd be acceptable because they only partake in the sadomasochistic sexual side of it. But, based on the fact that she met him on Second Life and most of the BDSM on there is roleplay, I don't think she fully understands what submission and collaring means. Collaring is the act of giving over an agreed amount of control to the Dominant, which is a commitment in itself, though these days people take part in collaring a lot quicker than they should and it leads to many issues in the relationship, like this one. Submission and Dominance both involve having respect. The Dominant should respect the submissive's limits yet try and urge growth and development in him/her. And the submissive should respect the rules set down by the Dominant. Both should respect each other as human beings, unless in a scene or taking part in a form of sexual humiliation, which is when someone is turned on by being humiliated. That is the basics at least. There are other variations on this of course... This is merely my interpretation of it.

From what I saw of the Second Life bdsm scene, most of the participants are just looking for kinky sex and aren't that serious or are completely ignorant about the whole bdsm lifestyle.

[Bahama_Momma]

sweetcharades1234

Bahama_Momma

sweetcharades1234

Bahama_Momma

Bridezilla anyone? rolleyes
Just so you know crazy lady, a wedding isn't all about the bride.
The husband kind of plays an important part too.
Unless you're rich, don't expect him to produce a very expensive wedding out of thin air.
Not to mention support himself and a crazy wife.

You are so right. >.< I mean, wtf is up with this chick? The BDSM stuff pisses me off to no end as well, she's trying to "top from the bottom" which is a term I'm familiar with. She chose to submit to him and she says she's wearing a collar. Unless she's bedroom only with her kink, she's being a completely disrespectful b***h who needs to be punished appropriately or let go.

I actually don't know much about the bondage bit but isn't the submissive supposed to be...well, submissive? Not yanking him by his testies and forcing him to propose because she needs a damn Disney wedding? It's the typical drama "It's all about me!" where all common courtesy and decency goes out the window. You know where everyone wants to beat the crap out of her but can't because she's got the immunity card with being the bride and all.

Well it depends on the couple with the BDSM stuff. If she is a bedroom only submissive, it'd be acceptable because they only partake in the sadomasochistic sexual side of it. But, based on the fact that she met him on Second Life and most of the BDSM on there is roleplay, I don't think she fully understands what submission and collaring means. Collaring is the act of giving over an agreed amount of control to the Dominant, which is a commitment in itself, though these days people take part in collaring a lot quicker than they should and it leads to many issues in the relationship, like this one. Submission and Dominance both involve having respect. The Dominant should respect the submissive's limits yet try and urge growth and development in him/her. And the submissive should respect the rules set down by the Dominant. Both should respect each other as human beings, unless in a scene or taking part in a form of sexual humiliation, which is when someone is turned on by being humiliated. That is the basics at least. There are other variations on this of course... This is merely my interpretation of it.

So basically she's just a spoiled rotten brat who thinks he owes it to her to commit after being together for only a year. That he has to cater to her every whim and personal need down to the very last rose petal because this is what she had dreamed of since she was a little girl. That poor man, either way, I agree, she should be a little more educated in what she's getting into, especially if she's trying to take it to something as serious as getting married.She seems to be less educated on the respect part.

[Clockwork Lime]

Uh, you don't want to MAKE him do it. He has to WANT to. Wouldn't you rather have someone marry you because they want to rather than because they feel forced?

Also, your "I WANNA BE MARRIED BY 30 LOL" thing is just stupid. Would you basically marry a serial killer or something just so you're not the only one who's not married by 30?

And by having such a specific proposal "dream," you're setting yourself up for failure and disappointment. Sorry.

[patrick ephing bateman]

...seriously? i've been with my girlfriend for three years and i hope she's not thinking the same way you are. especially since you have only met two times, i don't think it's okay for you to assume he's actually ready for a lifelong committment. that's why couples often live together before they get engaged even, you have to figure out how well you fit with someone in that kind of situation before making such a big decision. seriously, just give the guy a break. just go back to disney world every year on your anniversary and maybe it'll happen eventually?

[Fial Neilans little moon]

Magical Kitty-tan

sweetcharades1234

Bahama_Momma

sweetcharades1234

Bahama_Momma

Bridezilla anyone? rolleyes
Just so you know crazy lady, a wedding isn't all about the bride.
The husband kind of plays an important part too.
Unless you're rich, don't expect him to produce a very expensive wedding out of thin air.
Not to mention support himself and a crazy wife.

You are so right. >.< I mean, wtf is up with this chick? The BDSM stuff pisses me off to no end as well, she's trying to "top from the bottom" which is a term I'm familiar with. She chose to submit to him and she says she's wearing a collar. Unless she's bedroom only with her kink, she's being a completely disrespectful b***h who needs to be punished appropriately or let go.

I actually don't know much about the bondage bit but isn't the submissive supposed to be...well, submissive? Not yanking him by his testies and forcing him to propose because she needs a damn Disney wedding? It's the typical drama "It's all about me!" where all common courtesy and decency goes out the window. You know where everyone wants to beat the crap out of her but can't because she's got the immunity card with being the bride and all.

Well it depends on the couple with the BDSM stuff. If she is a bedroom only submissive, it'd be acceptable because they only partake in the sadomasochistic sexual side of it. But, based on the fact that she met him on Second Life and most of the BDSM on there is roleplay, I don't think she fully understands what submission and collaring means. Collaring is the act of giving over an agreed amount of control to the Dominant, which is a commitment in itself, though these days people take part in collaring a lot quicker than they should and it leads to many issues in the relationship, like this one. Submission and Dominance both involve having respect. The Dominant should respect the submissive's limits yet try and urge growth and development in him/her. And the submissive should respect the rules set down by the Dominant. Both should respect each other as human beings, unless in a scene or taking part in a form of sexual humiliation, which is when someone is turned on by being humiliated. That is the basics at least. There are other variations on this of course... This is merely my interpretation of it.

From what I saw of the Second Life bdsm scene, most of the participants are just looking for kinky sex and aren't that serious or are completely ignorant about the whole bdsm lifestyle.

That's usually the case. It's the norm to see people who participate in BDSM on Second Life to switch collared partners anywhere from a week to a few months. I've never seen any couples (or couples within a "poly" family) on there that lasted longer than that in the few months I was taking part in Second Life.

@Bahama_Momma: You pretty much hit the nail on the head with that.

[xCO2]

Stop posting; I call troll, hence nub account and log-off after we told them off.

CASE CLOSED

[XcoldhandsX]

LoVeRz In SpRiNg

First off, I am not a troll. I don't give a damn if you think I'm a troll. Go ******** off and talk to your other little kiddie pals about crushes and periods and whatever s**t you little creeps like to chat about.

Second of all, all of you blabbing about how one year isn't enough time CLEARLY have never been in a real, adult relationship. And our relationship is NOT pretend just because we are long distance. We are very much in love. We have spend months, just chatting together, spending every waking moment with one another, touching with our voices when we cannot touch in real life... and we have made our two weeks together count VERY much. I am tired of this s**t about how we haven't "really" been dating a year because we didn't meet until May. That is utter s**t and if you are saying it you are just jealous of our connection. Yes that includes YOU little kids who don't know what true love is.

THIRD, yes, our wedding is every bit as important as his student loans. Hello, it's the most important part of our lives. My wedding is all I've ever wanted. I crave it so bad it hurts.

You're acting like a twelve yearold kid who just got their first boyfriend.
You have major obsession issues, I suggest immediate therapy for that and your batshit insane b***h issues.

[Masturbating_Rot_Crow]

Trick question: creepy bitches don't get married, let alone proposed to.
You can't force him. All you can do is either chill out and wait like a normal person, or play the wedding march over and over with your fat smelly cat.

[XcoldhandsX]

LoVeRz In SpRiNg

Yin-Bug

This made me lol.

Kay. I'm in highschool, younger than you and have a boyfriend I've been dating one year.
I see him almost everyday, even if it just for 10mins. We have been dating a year, almost a year and a month in about three days.
I DON'T want him to propose to me (Mostly because we are in highschool) but other than that it is because I've only known him for a year.
Unlike you I see him once more almost EVERYDAY.
Also you can't make anyone propose to you.
And if you only met him twice. Thats ridiculous.

I hope your a troll.

High school relationships are pretend.

You're obsession with your boyfriend is clearly so serious that you need to self assurance from a site full of teens that your not crazy even though you know you are and your so deep in self denial that you get angry whenever someone tells you the truth which is, your obviously obsessed to this man so much that it's a major issue you should speak to a therapist about. Inside, he's probably so scared of you that he won't break up with you because he knows you'd show up at his house with an axe and brutally murder him.
You are too deeply obsessed to realize your own insanity but you are, and your ranting and raving about this man only proves it more.

[Kryst3n]

You can't make someone propose to you.

[Vacuum Tubes]

I'm sure someone's said it already/the OP is gone by now, but I'm posting anyway!
From your post, it would appear to me your reasons for getting married are:
1. You will be 30 soon, and at 30 life comes to a screeching halt or something
2. You will both be in Disney World
3. You want a fairytale wedding
4. You feel left out because your friends have been getting married
5. You have been dating a year which is some magical cut off point for getting engaged (which for some reason your married friends are jealous of which makes no sense seeing as they've probably been with their spouses longer, but w/e)

You pretty much seem like you want to get married just to have a wedding and say you are married. Getting married isn't about finding a guy who happens to be a Disney World at the right time, and it's not about the wedding day or the ring or your childhood fantasies. It's about spending the rest of your lives together.
Basically, you don't want to marry him, you want to have a wedding. Hopefully he realizes this before he wastes his money on a wedding and divorce. If you really wanted to marry him, pledging to stay together for the rest of your lives and truly meaning it would make the day perfect, not the dress or the ring or the location.


And life doesn't end at 30. My mom started dating my dad after she turned 30, got married in her mid 30's and had kids in her late 30's. 21 years later they are still happily married. I'm sure she much prefers this life to the one she would have had had she married whoever happened to be around when she was 29.

[Wacko Quacko]

What's better: getting married this December then getting divorced a few years down the road or waiting it off and having a life-long marriage?

Why does it have to be marriage to end the loneliness? Being in a loving, committed relationship is the same thing. The only difference is that marriage involves legal stuff. Why should marriage get rid of the loneliness when already in a loving, long-lasting relationship? If you are lonely in the relationship, wouldn't that mean something's wrong?