Glitterama
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- Posted: Mon, 08 Sep 2014 22:39:47 +0000
so my cousin (we'll call her L) is now pregnant with her bf's (we'll call him A) baby.
she is 22 and he is 31. this is his second child; the other is in Sacramento. they both have part time jobs, and no car. they live on maui with his uncle in a room in his house. once she has this baby, she wont be able to work, and he will have to support all three of them. on top of that, she cannot find a OBGYN in Maui because they have no insurance, and she is a "high risk" patient (i sitll dont see why that matters at all). they live on the other side of the island (maui only has one hospital) and with no car, they have no transportation to the hospital is something happens. she has no clue how far along she is; she thinks she is about 5 months. i'm not even sure if she has had her first ultrasound. if this is the case she NEEDS prenatal care immediately.
her boyfriend is EXTREMELY immature for his age. he spends all his money on weed, doesnt pay child support for his first child, can only hold a part time job, and is disrespectful to L's parents.
her parents want her to come home to the big island and have her baby there; her parents live less than 5 minutes from the nearest hospital, and there are more OB's available to her. however, for some strange reason, she is refusing. i think it is a mixture of embarrassment and her boyfriend telling her to stay in maui. her parents want me to talk to her (we are very close, almost like sisters) and convince her to come home. i am very concerned for her and the baby's health, but at the same time, i know that anything i say to her about the situation will only aggravate her and make the situation worse. i know the conversation is gonna happen sometime this week, but my question is, how would you approach this? i've been a little vague in this description, so if you need more information about what is happening, i will gladly do my best to elaborate.... i desperately need guidance!
she is 22 and he is 31. this is his second child; the other is in Sacramento. they both have part time jobs, and no car. they live on maui with his uncle in a room in his house. once she has this baby, she wont be able to work, and he will have to support all three of them. on top of that, she cannot find a OBGYN in Maui because they have no insurance, and she is a "high risk" patient (i sitll dont see why that matters at all). they live on the other side of the island (maui only has one hospital) and with no car, they have no transportation to the hospital is something happens. she has no clue how far along she is; she thinks she is about 5 months. i'm not even sure if she has had her first ultrasound. if this is the case she NEEDS prenatal care immediately.
her boyfriend is EXTREMELY immature for his age. he spends all his money on weed, doesnt pay child support for his first child, can only hold a part time job, and is disrespectful to L's parents.
her parents want her to come home to the big island and have her baby there; her parents live less than 5 minutes from the nearest hospital, and there are more OB's available to her. however, for some strange reason, she is refusing. i think it is a mixture of embarrassment and her boyfriend telling her to stay in maui. her parents want me to talk to her (we are very close, almost like sisters) and convince her to come home. i am very concerned for her and the baby's health, but at the same time, i know that anything i say to her about the situation will only aggravate her and make the situation worse. i know the conversation is gonna happen sometime this week, but my question is, how would you approach this? i've been a little vague in this description, so if you need more information about what is happening, i will gladly do my best to elaborate.... i desperately need guidance!