How can I help my boyfriend?

[.Omg.Its.Grace.]

My boyfriend's going through a lot right now with his life at home. His dad constantly nags at him, and it got out of hand last week and they almost got in a physical fight. His dad doesn't pay for anything for him, and tells him he has to get his own groceries, and he's left to basically fend for himself. :l His whole family constantly bugs him for money cause he's the only one that has it, and majority of his family's addicted to drugs. (They live near by, a few towns over by his college, he only lives with his dad). He's a great kid with a bad life. He has great grades, saves and spends his money wisely, but lately things are getting more, i guess you could say, harsh.

When we started dating, he said he was gonna slow down. He has with partying, but he still has his bros over and they get high. I'm fine with him smoking and drinking on occasion, just as long as we spend time together sober. But lately he's been masking his problems, and he admitted it to his roommates girlfriend (aka, my best friend). I wanna be able to talk to him about everything, but sometimes I get so opinionated with some choices he's made. I've chilled out a lot since we've been dating, cause I have had a past with exes where I was self-centered cause of the things I was going through. I don't wanna come off that way, cause the past few days I've lost it since I got my period, and my fricken horomones went off the walls, so now everything's 10x worse, but my question is, What can I do to help him? What can I do to calm myself down? Last thing I want is things to go wrong with us, and that'll only happen if I overreact with this stuff. Everytime I see him, he is really happy, and he doesn't neccesarily do anything to mask his problems. But when I'm not with him is when things get out of hand. And no, he is not a binge drinker or alcoholic or anything. I'm just worried and wanna help him to the best of my ability while staying patient with everything, and not getting self-centered like I have in the past. What can i do to help?

[Tokusie]

"I'll follow you,
Every day of my life."

You really can't do anything. It is all in his hands. The only thing in your power is to talk to him. Tell him how this is affecting his chance for a better life.

He needs to take initiative to cut ties with friends, break away from dead beat family. You can't make him do it.

"Just to step where you stepped,
Makes me feel right."

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[.Omg.Its.Grace.]

Tokusie

"I'll follow you,
Every day of my life."

You really can't do anything. It is all in his hands. The only thing in your power is to talk to him. Tell him how this is affecting his chance for a better life.

He needs to take initiative to cut ties with friends, break away from dead beat family. You can't make him do it.

"Just to step where you stepped,
Makes me feel right."

Anon V-day Gifts
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3 Given

Which I realize, and the thing is, a part of him does want to break free, but another part is him holding on to what he's known for 3 years. I told him he needs to sit and think about everything before he makes a decision like stopping everything completely or continuing to do so. Is there much more to say?

[squinty1989]

You need to show him you are there for him, always. Even if you have to repeat yourself everyday that you are there to listen and help with whatever you can.

He might need support. Maybe you are helping him without you knowing. Maybe he is grateful you are there for him, but he doesn't want to open up to you to add all those problems on your shoulders too. You say you may be able to handle it, but what if you can't? You will break him even more because the support he thought he had can't handle it.

I wish I knew what he was like, what he is thinking and all that so I could help you more. But that is all I can think of at the moment.

[zoe_owen1]

didnt read it all but if he moves out alot f that hhassle will probs go