GoldenEnlightenment
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5th Dimension Morning
GoldenEnlightenment
-le sigh- alright, let's just pretend for one moment that i'm making all of this up because i'm an angry, 39 year old, cat lady, who is uneducated, single, and hates life
what the ********? confused where the hell did that come from? because I certainly never said any of that about you. stick to the issues.
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Now I ask you, have you ever asked people what they fantasize about? Probably not, considering that would be very blunt for socialization purposes, and could be considered sexual assault in some areas.
I don't see how any of that is relevant. this seems like you are trying to discredit me and steer the debate off course. a diversion tactic, complete with a red herring.
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So let's go to the next best source. A place where the world puts everything out to share,e like you and I are right now, because they can't say it in public. Google "What men think about when fantasizing." You will get what I just said. Mostly strangers, rarely current lovers (and why would they when they could have real coitus with them?), and that there is very little feeling during the solo act. Women on the other hand are most likely to think about current lovers and fantasies with them (often ones they are too shy to bring up, or have got shot down for) and how that person makes them feel. Don't get me wrong, they may fantasize about that cute barista, but better chances are it's something they want to do with their own lover.
that is confirmation bias right there. a logical fallacy.
the fact is, that these claims about what is more likely behavior from men versus what is more likely behavior for a woman are made by people who are conditioned to believe those very claims before they make them themselves. those same claims were made before them, and taught in our society. but just because they are commonly believed to be true does not make them true.
you can google it all you want, but just because a google search says it's true doesn't make it true, either.
there are men who will fantasize about models and celebrities and strangers, yes. and there are women who will also fantasize about models, and celebrities and strangers. and there are women who will fantasize about the people that they love more often, yes. and there are also men who will fantasize about the people they love more often, too. the statistics regarding which subjects of fantasy are more likely for any given man, or more likely for any given woman, to think about do not depend on the sex or gender of the person thinking about them. being a man does not inherently make you mor elikely to fantasize about strangers, and being a woman does not inherently make you more likely to fantasize about loved ones.
that is a claim that people are conditioned to believe.
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First, thank you for the Eng 111 class, but I passed with an A. I know all about writing fallacies, not that any writer, even those who publish dictionaries, could possibly avoid using at least one.
While google isn't the end all of every question, unless you want to visit hundreds of psychologists whom specialize in the field of sexuality, google is the next best option, as many put their observations, beliefs, and findings in online journals (which is where I retrieved my information).
You seem like an educated individual, or at least one who knows how to sound intellectual, so I'm sure you would agree that even if you were a professional in this subject (which I don't think you'd be offering services on Gaia), that the best opinion is that which is gathered from SEVERAL sources.
You mention "this is a claim that people are conditioned to believe.", and by the claim, you were referring to the thought that men fantasize about strangers and women fantasize about loved ones.
Conditioning is "a behavioral process whereby a response becomes more frequent or more predictable in a given environment as a result of reinforcement, with reinforcement typically being a stimulus or reward for a desired response.", according to Encyclopedia Britannica, under the term "Conditioning".
Why would people be conditioned to believe that men only fantasize about strangers and women with loved ones?
You also missed the fact I clearly said "most", not all.
This whole conversation was relevant until you brought in the English lesson and tried to steer what would normally be a less "feisty" person off track. Unfortunately, I don't give up that easily.
In conclusion, the main objective of my post was not to discredit anyone. It was meant to give the original author some understanding as to what may be happening in their life.
You, however, have made this whole thread into an argument against yourself, and for no apparent reason. Nobody had to discredit you, because you've done it on your own.