Blue Hex
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- Posted: Fri, 04 May 2012 04:55:43 +0000
weeneez
Chikara_Kai
weeneez
All I'm going to say is that we shouldn't always say its okay, and shouldn't always say its wrong either. I know there's different circumstances for everyone, but I know the 11-year old involved in this was innocent and didn't know what was going on at the time.
Agreed fully. And what happened to her is inexcusable as it is in any case of rape/molestation. Like I said in my first post, it wasn't regarding her or anyone in specific because I didn't know her situation. And I do hope she's okay.
...that has taught their mind to misbehave
Well its been about 2 years now since it happened, I'm sure she'd had some time to cope with what happened to her. I just hope it doesn't scar her too badly.
As do I. I know the feeling as I was raped when I was 18. I know the fear and uncertianity caused by it but I'm sure that her family is taking great care of her and has helped her through all her trials.
But as I said in my first post on this thread, you shouldn't struggle with your morals because you can't bring yourself to hate this man for what he did. You only have the image of him being the nice guy that you knew in high school and so its hard to see him otherwise because you didn't know him otherwise. Its easy for people to form feelings of hatred and disgust for a person that they didn't have bonds with because there isn't that under lying feeling of "but he was such a nice guy...what happened?". Strong bonds are very hard to shake, even in the face of cruel acts or what your mind tells you is wrong. It is fine to care for a person but not for what they've done. You can easily say, yes, he was a friend but that doesn't mean you condone what he's done.
Watch a courtroom video sometime of a person being charged with a heinous crime. Often times, despite admitting guilt, the offender's family still cries for them. Not because they've forgiven what he's done or because they think it was alright. They are crying for the person they knew outside the act. Their son, father, brother, etc. A crime does not erase a past full of good memories.
...that has taught their mind to misbehave