Chikara_Kai
weeneez
jrduly
I will have to refer you to my response with Songo_Chan. Now I have a question for you. If you say thirteen is to young to fully know about what you are agreeing to when it comes to sex, then what is the age that is acceptable to be able to agree to sex and know all the drawbacks that might come with it?
Sex happens to youth, this is a fact. But an adult, someone over the age of 18, should know better to take advantage of an innocent youth as someone who is younger than 14. If a 14 year-old and another 14-year old engage in sexual intercourse, I can see that happening. But an adult should
always know better.
A writer is a person...
Again, before anyone jumps on me, I must state that I am not pro-***** here but I just see this comment as talking in circles.
The adult should know better. Should know better then what? To engage in sexual activties with someone that is asking for it because of their age? What exactly are they knowing better then? Society has enforced this image onto people that youth are always innocent, always the victim in these cases, that they don't know what they're doing and if they say they want sex with an older person they should just sit down and shut up because they don't know what they're talking about. And that the adult should know this and accept this?
No offense meant here, but that's just plan bunk. Often times, even on this website, you will find stacks upon stacks of young people saying that they know what they are doing when they have sex with someone older. That they want it and the other person wants it so why is wrong. They kick up a fuss to be treated like they know what they are talking about. But we have been hard wired to view them as foolish children that need to be given a time out and pitied and the older person shunned as a sick and twisted criminal. How is that at all fair? I have known many, many people that lost their virginity at young ages to older people. In fact its insanely common among young girls because they mature faster then boys and hit an age of understanding sooner and they want to be with the older and more mature male that they feel fits them and understands them better. And men are often times hardwired to think that they need the younger girl because they are suppose to be the protector. And yet society still condemns this.
Honestly...why is it different for a 14 year old to have sex with another 14 year old then it is for them to have sex, with let's say, a 20 year old, if they are -willing- to? Sex is Sex. The act they are engaging in is the same, with the same risks, potentials, action and meaning. But people focus on the age more then the act and chastise the older person for not "knowing better". The act is the same and if they don't understand what they're doing with a 20 year old, then they don't understand what they're doing with the 14 year old.
Not to mention, age of consent varies from place to place as was pointed out. Some places have NO consent laws, and even in the US some states have an age of consent as low as 12 years old. I'm sorry if it sounds harsh, but I just don't buy the "All youths are innocent and don't know better and are just being manipulated". Unfortunately I no longer am able to have such misconceptions after seeing youth that tore this idea to shreds happily.
...that has taught their mind to misbehave
I was molested by my own uncle when I was 7. There are some people that don't ask for it, and those that do. And honestly I believe that sex should be handled more maturely, even if the youth asks an older person to have sex with them, I honestly think they should both wait until the youth is more older and more mature. They may know what they're doing, but it doesn't always mean they're mature about it.
I had a friend who lost her virginity when she was 13 to some guy who was 18. She knew what sex was back then, and back then, she wanted it to. But when she hit 18 herself, she grew to regret what she did back when she was younger and wish she handled herself better. They may want it, and know what they're doing, but there's also the chance they can regret it later.
Besides, earlier I saw you said some girl was a mother by the age of 12. I honestly cannot believe anyone really wants to be a parent/mother at that young of an age. Where will their childhood go? They can grow up to regret that decision they made for the rest of their lives. Children should live their childhood as
children, and not acting out sexually.
Edit: And you said that these people throw a "hissy fit" when they're told to wait to have sex. Does that sound like a mature person who is ready for sex, if they throw a fit just because they're told no? Kids these days are rushing to grow up, and whether or not its preventable, which I know its not, adults shouldn't help push them to grow up. I'm not saying we can stop them from having sex either, because if kids wanna have sex, they're gonna have sex. A lot of kids around the age of 12 - 14 aren't taught by their parents, and sometimes not even by their schools, the full consequences of sex and pregnancy. I didn't have a sex educational class until I was 15, and my mom never told me anything about sex herself. So back then I was completely clueless.