Pepper-Jack
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- Posted: Tue, 26 Feb 2013 07:55:09 +0000
For the last 4 and a half years or so I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend, whom I live with. Let's say about 6 years ago I had my first sexual encounter, very minimal, and only did it because of pressure. Anyway, about a year into my current relationship we started experimenting, eventually culminating in actual sex.
All this vagueness aside, I don't seem to enjoy it. It kind of hurts, and even after it stops hurting I find that my mind is just elsewhere. Even when we are just messing around I can't wait for it to be over. Generally it grosses me out.
Personally I've always believed that whatever you are naturally is best for you, however I do love my boyfriend quite a lot and we have seriously discussed marriage, kids, etc. Occasionally I am sexually attracted to him, but those times are few and far between.
Anyway, the point is I believe I am graysexual. I am in a serious relationship with someone who is very sexual. Suggestions on ways to "get over it" or make sex more enjoyable or at least bearable?
All this vagueness aside, I don't seem to enjoy it. It kind of hurts, and even after it stops hurting I find that my mind is just elsewhere. Even when we are just messing around I can't wait for it to be over. Generally it grosses me out.
Personally I've always believed that whatever you are naturally is best for you, however I do love my boyfriend quite a lot and we have seriously discussed marriage, kids, etc. Occasionally I am sexually attracted to him, but those times are few and far between.
Anyway, the point is I believe I am graysexual. I am in a serious relationship with someone who is very sexual. Suggestions on ways to "get over it" or make sex more enjoyable or at least bearable?