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So I had a surprise last year of finding out I was pregnant because of failed birth control. But I felt the baby was completely innocent and it was my fault that I took the risk of sex anyway, so I faced up to the task and went through with the pregnancy.

I now have a 7 week old daughter who I couldn't imagine not having and I love her more than anyone. heart

Here's the problem: I have not been able to get on birth control again yet (not sure what to get since I am breastfeeding), and my SO and I got caught up in a moment three days ago, turned off our brains, and started a romp in bed. He didn't pull out in time and finished while inside (no condoms, I am allergic).

I know breastfeeding is supposed to lower your chances of pregnancy, and I haven't had my after-delivery period yet to know anything for sure...but ever since we slept together, our dog, who normally doesn't want anything to do with me, has been doing what she did when I was pregnant with my daughter: following me, sniffing me, staring at me, and whining at me.

I don't know what to do -- I don't have the money to take on a second child this early, my family would try to deny me again because SO and I are not married, and I'm positive that if I had the baby, I wouldn't be able to deal with adoption because of hearing the little one's first cries.

I really don't want to have an abortion (I am crying just from the word) if I am pregnant, but I don't know what to do... cry

Anyone's help at all is appreciated...



Well, it was your mistake, just like the first time. Is this baby not as innocent? Purely because it doesn't suite you?

Man up! Your mistake, you deal with it. It's that simple. No sympathy from me. Should've been more careful.
personaly id get an abortion 2 babies is enought to deal with! but i aint been in the position my self i dnt know how id feel about it
I think taking care of two babies is possible.
I have a 20 year old friend who got her first baby last year and now she's pregnant again.( currently 4 months). She lives in an apartment with her husband, and they live VERY poorly, but my friend is still being strong about it. If she can do it, then so can you. Just be positive and strong
The reason why she got pregnant again was for the same reason you had. She was also afraid to use birth control because she was breastfeeding. But there is a possibility that you are not pregnant because you are barely starting to breastfeed right? Since your baby is 7 weeks. My friend's daughter is almost a year, so she has been breastfeeding for a long time.
I'm not sure though. Anything is possible.

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