Dating Issues

[dragonskull3]

Well....to be honest, i have only been on ONE date in my life and that was an epic fail. You see, i am a really skinny dude...example, i weigh 120 and i am 22. The girl i went on the date was a blind date that...i stupidly met on craigslist. I know...bad, she could have bee a crazy person. Unfortunately for me....she was a bigger girl (NOT BASHING BIGGER CHICKS, I AM JUST NO INTO YOU), and she was nice and all. We went to mcdonalds and then i took her home, and she has.a . kid. Went i got there, i was dive bombed multiple time by her large a** colorful birds! Eh...those tropical birds that are mostly green. Yeah...it didn't work out.

Now after all that, i just wondered if i was attractive enough for any girl because even she was not that interested in me. I know, i have low self esteem.

NOW! I met this one girl at Barnes and Nobles today, turns out we went to the same school and she is only two years younger than me and she is very cute. We talked for a little more than an hour and half about books, our old school, hating SOPA, church, and all that. Then when i see i have to leave, i ask if she wants to hang out sometime and she says yeah and gives me her number.

Now...i don't usually go out a get girl's numbers, so i have no idea what to do next! Please help me and i know it is weird asking strangers this....but i am not bad looking.....am I?

I am the blond one

[Princess Strawberry Chu]

Just give her a call hun! pick a place where you guys can hang out and talk comfortably. Invite her for coffee or lunch. Just be yourself. oh! and btw your not bad looking at all! ^_^

[Absolute Virtue]

Call her? Though I'd probably wait until Tuesday or so before calling. When you call ask her if she wants to go to X with you. If you decide on a movie or something, make sure you know exactly what you want to see.

Oh, and when you call, you should phrase it something like this, "Hey, I was going to see Borrowers/Ghostrider on Saturday, you should come with me."

Or if you're a little less sure in yourself, you can always say something along the lines "want to catch it with me?"

And you look like a dork, but must of us do. You're not hideous or anything. I mean, seriously, sometimes I see people and I wonder "How did they find anyone?"

You don't fit into that category. Chances aren't you're probably just not very photogenic. I know I'm sure as hell not.

[Prince_Roan]

yeah dude call her. be confident n be yourself. (bitches loves confidence)

[dragonskull3]

lol, thanks

[potdolli]

It's true. We love confidence.
I talked to a guy who seemed like he was secure and so I really liked him. When he asked me out I was happy.
After our one date (all of a sudden: he was nervous, shy, and wouldn't even look me in the eye) I was instantly turned off.
Moral: Don't do that!

[intothesunsetdearest]

wait 3 days after getting her number and text her asking her whether she wants to catch a movie/meet up for coffee/whatever you'd like to do for a date.

you're not my type, but i go for long-hair, facial hair, piercings... so don't take it to heart

[Gossamer Heart]

This whole "wait 3 days" bullshit drives me crazy. I hate game playing, and those are games. Don't get me wrong, I get the whole idea behind it, but they're just so damn annoying. I know nobody wants to seem "too avaliable" or whatever, but seriously - if you like someone, just arrange to meet up with them. Especially if there is not as much to lose here - you met her at a bookstore, it's not like if things don't work out you've got a million mutual friends and it's going to be impossible to avoid her/the awkwardness that follows a failed wooing. Sorry, rant over.

Wait if you want to - but keep in mind that if you play games like that, you're setting the pretense for her to as well. Don't complain if she screens your call and takes a day or two to call you back because you took ages to call her.

These are my pointers:
Call, don't text.
When you call, ask her to meet you at a certain time and place - a couple of days after when you call, or whenever you're next available after that. Girls love when you take the lead and are direct. For the most part, we can be a very indecisive bunch. If that time doesn't work out for her, ask when suits her.
If you can afford it, always offer to pay. It's gentlemanly. She should automatically get out her wallet to (beware if she doesn't) but just tell her that you've got it, she was your guest. If she insists on paying for herself, one quick "Are you sure?" suffices before letting her cover her portion. Do not push paying for her or you'll look like an a** - and if she is slightly feminist, she'll likely think you're a chauvinistic pig.
If things go nicely, and you'd like to do it again, send her a text the next day telling her you had a good time. Texting for small snippets of communication is fine - but always call when you're trying to arrange meeting up. Texting screams of players and booty calls...But again, that may just be me.
Try to make your second date something that you'll think she'll like - I'm sure that when you meet up the first time, she'll drop some hints about what she likes to do, where she likes to go, etc.

Good luck, Casanova!

[CryptiKCountess]

Prince_Roan

yeah dude call her. be confident n be yourself. (bitches loves confidence)

Word.

[dragonskull3]

Prince_Roan

yeah dude call her. be confident n be yourself. (bitches loves confidence)

Ok. When should i call her. I am getting mixed answers from my friends. I just got her number on friday(yesterday)

[Prince_Roan]

dragonskull3

Prince_Roan

yeah dude call her. be confident n be yourself. (bitches loves confidence)

Ok. When should i call her. I am getting mixed answers from my friends. I just got her number on friday(yesterday)

not sure on that one.. but it is the weekend so hopefully she's not doing anything