BC_Dragoon7
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- Posted: Fri, 26 Sep 2014 10:40:14 +0000
I want to apologize ahead of time, since I know this is going to be long and not sure if anyone would answer or even read this at all since I know part of it might be a rant and it's really, really long >_>;
Well anyways I never really went to a therapist or a psychologist because I felt like I didn't really need it, but recently I've been reconsidering. Because I felt like I should get a professional's opinion on tons of things. I feel like I definitely have depression and probably other problems too >_>; So I guess I should summarize some small things about myself so that you guys understand me better.
So I am an artist ( animator/illustrator to be exact ) and I haven't been creating anything....it's weird because nothing pops into my head anymore and everything I make just looks like s**t too. I felt like when I was younger I look at a blank piece of paper and I see all the wonderful things I could draw and now I just see a blank piece of paper.....It's like I lost my spark or inspiration. Every year I feel like I'm becoming more apathetic to things and show less empathy....Like I don't know if I'm just being depressed or just being extroverted anymore. Like I was never a social butterfly and hated being the center of attention. And always had issues making friends let alone maintaining one. For my profession I realized that I need to be able to network ( just like any job ) but I'm terrible at that. Second that I need to have work experience especially with my age....which I don't have much of since I can't get any job without work experience and can't get work experience without a job.....So yea I feel like I don't really have friends now and having problems planing out my future and getting a job. The reason to this is because of my family which I'll explain.
I have a father that wasn't in my life for the most part, but recently over the years he has been calling me more, pushing me more, and being extremely blunt about things. The thing he pushed for most recently was for me to get married because he wants to retire and the reason he wants to retire early is because all of his friends are retired and sort of bragging about their wonderful life. Like I find it retard that every time I'm with him he acts like everything is fine around his friends....like there is a reason why your friend retired early because he was there to help his son unlike you who basically ditch us =-=;; Like of course I should already get married since I'm getting closer and closer to 30 ( sidenote: wow Gaia changed a lot since I was last on it XD;;; ) But I don't have a job reason being is because I've been taking care of my mentally ill mother for a few years now and it was almost a 24/7 type of deal. I took on the role of oldest and took the responsibility of taking care of her, but recently I've been feeling that I missed out on a lot of things that could of only been obtained in my younger years....like opportunities. Like I could of traveled to Japan/Korea/Italy (through my school's program for free) or done something more if I wasn't stuck here all the time. Only recently she got better which is great, and her side of the family recently started helping out even though they sort excommunicated us for a really long time because they blamed my father for everything. And obviously it pisses me off since they're acting all nice as if everything was the same as before. Like I put a lot of blame to my family for the missed opportunities and childhood that I could of had. I should of took the internship that was offered to me for my major instead of listening to my dad to go work at his shop for "experience" , every single time he tells me it's for experience and it's always just some stupid minimal work that requires no experience. Also no I don't gain any sort of experience if it's something I already know/common sense =-=; He also acts as if he knows me when he wasn't even here with me for half of my life. The worst part of it all is that he always flip flops around to what he says. He tells me that my personality is wrong or bad and that I should change it and than later said that I won't be able to change because I'll always be the same way as when I was little =-=;; ....like dude seriously?! I'm a grown a** man and you still think I have the same mentality as a 5-10 still? ( times he was there before he left also side note he is still married to my mom but just never comes home I only see him every few month or maybe once a year ) or saying that I never ask him questions and when I do he acts like I should already know this or learn this in school =-=;;;;; or say that my questions are so stupid that there is no reason for him to answer and that I should look it up online =-=;;;; I'm sorry I'm not a freaking accountant =-=;; Or better yet how he makes me do really stupid things like painting a fence because he thought I didn't know how to <---(remember is an art major which he still forgets and yet remembers clearly what my sister's major is) and wanted me to show him that I know how to do it and then when I do he complains it's not the way he does it or the way he likes it =__________=;;;; Like seriously WTF! Worst part of it all is that he still wants me to take care of my mother and live with her after I'm married too.....like for me I feel like I need to move on and grow up since she got much better and that I can finally remove these shackles and start doing something with my life and hopefully not too late for...
Well anyways beside my family problems, which is basically me trying to forgive, forget, and move on. Like my main issue is that I don't know how to deal with people now/make long lasting friendships, and if I'm really depressed or not, how am I suppose to get the job I want without work experience if I can't even get a job in the first place, how am I suppose to get out of this rut and move forward, and also how to become motivated and inspired/tap back into my inner child, because seriously it's really hard to do that knowing that life/world is really messed up and how much it sucks.
Well anyways I never really went to a therapist or a psychologist because I felt like I didn't really need it, but recently I've been reconsidering. Because I felt like I should get a professional's opinion on tons of things. I feel like I definitely have depression and probably other problems too >_>; So I guess I should summarize some small things about myself so that you guys understand me better.
So I am an artist ( animator/illustrator to be exact ) and I haven't been creating anything....it's weird because nothing pops into my head anymore and everything I make just looks like s**t too. I felt like when I was younger I look at a blank piece of paper and I see all the wonderful things I could draw and now I just see a blank piece of paper.....It's like I lost my spark or inspiration. Every year I feel like I'm becoming more apathetic to things and show less empathy....Like I don't know if I'm just being depressed or just being extroverted anymore. Like I was never a social butterfly and hated being the center of attention. And always had issues making friends let alone maintaining one. For my profession I realized that I need to be able to network ( just like any job ) but I'm terrible at that. Second that I need to have work experience especially with my age....which I don't have much of since I can't get any job without work experience and can't get work experience without a job.....So yea I feel like I don't really have friends now and having problems planing out my future and getting a job. The reason to this is because of my family which I'll explain.
I have a father that wasn't in my life for the most part, but recently over the years he has been calling me more, pushing me more, and being extremely blunt about things. The thing he pushed for most recently was for me to get married because he wants to retire and the reason he wants to retire early is because all of his friends are retired and sort of bragging about their wonderful life. Like I find it retard that every time I'm with him he acts like everything is fine around his friends....like there is a reason why your friend retired early because he was there to help his son unlike you who basically ditch us =-=;; Like of course I should already get married since I'm getting closer and closer to 30 ( sidenote: wow Gaia changed a lot since I was last on it XD;;; ) But I don't have a job reason being is because I've been taking care of my mentally ill mother for a few years now and it was almost a 24/7 type of deal. I took on the role of oldest and took the responsibility of taking care of her, but recently I've been feeling that I missed out on a lot of things that could of only been obtained in my younger years....like opportunities. Like I could of traveled to Japan/Korea/Italy (through my school's program for free) or done something more if I wasn't stuck here all the time. Only recently she got better which is great, and her side of the family recently started helping out even though they sort excommunicated us for a really long time because they blamed my father for everything. And obviously it pisses me off since they're acting all nice as if everything was the same as before. Like I put a lot of blame to my family for the missed opportunities and childhood that I could of had. I should of took the internship that was offered to me for my major instead of listening to my dad to go work at his shop for "experience" , every single time he tells me it's for experience and it's always just some stupid minimal work that requires no experience. Also no I don't gain any sort of experience if it's something I already know/common sense =-=; He also acts as if he knows me when he wasn't even here with me for half of my life. The worst part of it all is that he always flip flops around to what he says. He tells me that my personality is wrong or bad and that I should change it and than later said that I won't be able to change because I'll always be the same way as when I was little =-=;; ....like dude seriously?! I'm a grown a** man and you still think I have the same mentality as a 5-10 still? ( times he was there before he left also side note he is still married to my mom but just never comes home I only see him every few month or maybe once a year ) or saying that I never ask him questions and when I do he acts like I should already know this or learn this in school =-=;;;;; or say that my questions are so stupid that there is no reason for him to answer and that I should look it up online =-=;;;; I'm sorry I'm not a freaking accountant =-=;; Or better yet how he makes me do really stupid things like painting a fence because he thought I didn't know how to <---(remember is an art major which he still forgets and yet remembers clearly what my sister's major is) and wanted me to show him that I know how to do it and then when I do he complains it's not the way he does it or the way he likes it =__________=;;;; Like seriously WTF! Worst part of it all is that he still wants me to take care of my mother and live with her after I'm married too.....like for me I feel like I need to move on and grow up since she got much better and that I can finally remove these shackles and start doing something with my life and hopefully not too late for...
Well anyways beside my family problems, which is basically me trying to forgive, forget, and move on. Like my main issue is that I don't know how to deal with people now/make long lasting friendships, and if I'm really depressed or not, how am I suppose to get the job I want without work experience if I can't even get a job in the first place, how am I suppose to get out of this rut and move forward, and also how to become motivated and inspired/tap back into my inner child, because seriously it's really hard to do that knowing that life/world is really messed up and how much it sucks.