My bf's dad's side of the family is having a family dinner in about 2 hours so I have about an hour and a half to decide to go or not.
We have been dating for over 3 years and are 19 and 20 years of age. My bf's mom casually mentioned the family dinner thing while I was over at his house and eating dinner a few days ago. His parents are separated and he lives with his mom, not his dad.
I mentioned kinda wanting to go because I've never met anyone on that side of the family, even though we've been dating for 3 years.
Well, at first my bf said no, because it'll be really boring he said. Then I guess he changed his mind and asked his dad if I could go, to which his dad indirectly said no. I guess my bf asked again, since it was an indirect no (something along the lines of "Well, so many other people will be going, so..." ) and just a few minutes ago his dad said "I guess so. I was worried about table space at the restaurant, but turns out grandma and grandpa got a really, really big table."
Is it okay for me to go? I'm considering not going because I don't want to show up unwelcome. My mom seems to think it might be a little rude of them to NOT invite me since we've been dating for so long. People's bfs/gfs are always welcome at our family functions, since it's a chance for them to meet the family.
Edit: Oh, and, his dad has never said it directly, but I kinda get the feeling he might not like me all that much. I'm not the perfect, blond cheerleader he thinks his sons should have. That's also the reason my bfs parents are split - his dad was cheating on his mom with a younger, thinner woman.
Edit: I went and it was great! I talked to a lot of people who were really nice and had great food and ice cream. His dad really was just concerned about the number of seats!