Can't masturbate "normally" + Sex issues

[Gummy Juice]

code0fvulgarism

I have an idea!
Why don't you go down on your girlfriend,
and while you are eating her out,
sneakily set up your normal masturbation habit, and get yourself aroused, by pleasing
yourself in your normal way while you please her...
then make yourself hard and try to have sex with her in the missionary position, so that
it seems like you are doing it your normal way...
Set up the illusion!!

Well what makes my problems worse is that my girlfriend has her own problems. She doesn't seem to have a sex drive and she has never masturbated. I've fingered her many times, and gone down on her alot but she feels no pleasure and sometimes it stings/hurts she says. Even in the rare case that I do have an erection, I never get the opportunity to quickly try to stick it in her because most of the time she is bone dry. The only time I've ever seen her wet is when she's giving me a BJ, or when we're making out. No matter how much I play with her v****a or c**t it just does nothing for her. In the event that she is wet, as soon as I finger her or lick, it gets dry.

It's sad knowing that she's never felt pleasure let alone come anywhere near to experiencing an orgasm. -___-

Been together for 4 years and not once have been able to have normal sex.

[HeismyFiyero]

FooFooWarrior

Sexual gratification has a huge range of normal. I do not read an issue here.

Seriously.

I see nothing wrong here. I think you just got used to masturbating a certain way.

I have the same thing (I'm a girl).

I can't masturbate by inserting my fingers. I can only masturbate by playing and rubbing my c**t. It's a mental thing. I got used to masturbating that way.

My boyfriend says to keep doing what you're doing, try not to put too much pressure and try to slowly start using your hands.

Work in using your hands slowly.

[xCO2]

Wow, you just ruined my life; I think I'm done now touching my "Thing", XD FYI, just call it a p***s/c**k/pecker, anything but a "Thing"; No lie though, I think this will end up happening to me, some times I'll sit there and just get all excited and ready, then want to go listen to music or something in the middle...=/...or maybe I'm just that distracted.

[Gummy Juice]

M0NSTER

Has your partner ever given you a b*****b or handjob? If that doesn't give you some intense pleasure, then I really do suggest getting some pills. That's really all I can think of.

Anytime she's given me a handjob it didn't feel the way it should. =( Sure I've got an erection from it but there was just no feeling. Same when I try jacking off with my own hands.

This wasn't the first time she's given me a b*****b but a few weeks ago she gave me one for 15 minutes in which time my p***s went from hard to soft back to hard many times. I really thought that would finally be the night I ejaculate from a BJ but alas nothing happened. It felt great, but it still didn't feel the same as humping my blanket. gonk

[xCO2]

Hm, Have you ever tried a 69, or anything besides the normal routine?

[l2ami]

It has to do with the pressure on the p***s. When you hump against something your p***s becomes less sensitive because of the amount of pressure on it. Just like a guy who holds his p***s too tight will feel less pleasure having sexual intercourse. You've gotten use to the amount of pressure and that way of masturbating so it's hard to get pleasure from doing it any other way. And yes lots of girls hump against something. I myself do that and it's probably why I can't get use to the idea of fingering and only can organism when I'm on-top because of the stimulation. In any case give your p***s a break and start trying to masturbate with your hand or when you rub against something don't put your full body weight against it. Though in guys if you continue to masturbate like this you will further your erection and organisming problems because over time you can possibly deaden the nerves.Good luck mate.

[glorified_doom]

um i heard this just recently, but i heard men that masturbate a lot have issues in bed because the texture is unfamiliar to them so mabie you should try not masturbating at all

[Gummy Juice]

l2ami

It has to do with the pressure on the p***s. When you hump against something your p***s becomes less sensitive because of the amount of pressure on it. Just like a guy who holds his p***s too tight will feel less pleasure having sexual intercourse. You've gotten use to the amount of pressure and that way of masturbating so it's hard to get pleasure from doing it any other way. And yes lots of girls hump against something. I myself do that and it's probably why I can't get use to the idea of fingering and only can organism when I'm on-top because of the stimulation. In any case give your p***s a break and start trying to masturbate with your hand or when you rub against something don't put your full body weight against it. Though in guys if you continue to masturbate like this you will further your erection and organisming problems because over time you can possibly deaden the nerves.Good luck mate.

Oh ********. I've been doing it since I was 7, and there was a time when I would do it like 10 times a day so I really hope I didn't break my p***s. crying

Well while I wait for more replies I'll be checking out the website HealthyStrokes.com that someone posted. Atleast now I know my problem is named "TMS." That's a start.

Also, I might try to make the home made fleshlight. I found a guide that looks promising

[`cyn]

Gummy Juice

l2ami

It has to do with the pressure on the p***s. When you hump against something your p***s becomes less sensitive because of the amount of pressure on it. Just like a guy who holds his p***s too tight will feel less pleasure having sexual intercourse. You've gotten use to the amount of pressure and that way of masturbating so it's hard to get pleasure from doing it any other way. And yes lots of girls hump against something. I myself do that and it's probably why I can't get use to the idea of fingering and only can organism when I'm on-top because of the stimulation. In any case give your p***s a break and start trying to masturbate with your hand or when you rub against something don't put your full body weight against it. Though in guys if you continue to masturbate like this you will further your erection and organisming problems because over time you can possibly deaden the nerves.Good luck mate.

Oh ********. I've been doing it since I was 7, and there was a time when I would do it like 10 times a day so I really hope I didn't break my p***s. crying

Well while I wait for more replies I'll be checking out the website HealthyStrokes.com that someone posted. Atleast now I know my problem is named "TMS." That's a start.

Also, I might try to make the home made fleshlight. I found a guide that looks promising

Yes, you've caused yourself to develop TMS.

The first step is to stop masturbating facedown. That is only desensitizing your 'thing' (it is called a p***s...) and making the problem worse.

I am not sure if you will regain sensitivity in your p***s, but after the initial bit of masturbating... 'normally', meaning not facedown, you will start to appreciate the amount of sensation you get, even if it is less than the previous amount.

But you need to stop masturbating facedown, because that's ******** everything up and can have a huge effect on your (sexual) relationships.

[Gummy Juice]

I''m back. Thank you for those who have helped and posted.

I left Gaia last night to make a home made fleshlight. I used this guide http://img233.imageshack.us/img233/9767/makeavaginaoc2.jpg. It actually kept my p***s erect the whole time and felt kind of good. Seconds after I stopped using it I lost the erection though... I didn't like how loud the suction noise was but I'll rebuild it and see if I can make it better. After about 30 minutes of using it, I didn't ejaculate but I'm willing to try it again once my p***s, if it, ever regains sensitivity. sad

Last night I wanted to have an orgasm badly but I kept myself from doing it the bad way. After making that, I went on Healthystrokes.com to learn more about TMS. I guess the only hope I have really is to never masturbate the way I do anymore. After 12 years though, I think I killed it. crying I don't remember my p***s ever being sensitive when touching or stroking it.

My plan is to watch a lot of porn and keep trying to masturbate the normal way. Every time that fails I really need to orgasm, I just wont. Hopefully after some time I'll be cured and will have a better time in bed with my girlfriend.

[Fran Salaska]

I think people have pinpointed what I was going to say. What you're doing doesn't simulate ANYTHING at all. You've become used to receiving pleasure that way, and that makes it very difficult for you to receive pleasure in any other fashion. To be honest, I'm the same. I'm female, and I've used extreme pressure from my hands on to my c**t since I was about three. I didn't know then it was masturbation, I just knew it felt nice and made me want to sleep. I haven't fully stopped masturbating this way, as it is the quickest and easiest way for me to come, although since getting a vibrator I don't use it a lot... but I had to stop doing it altogether to be able to feel anything when my boyfriend was fingering me.

I'd say your girlfriend's issues need looking at too, there may be a psychological reason as to why she feels no pleasure from anything. Other than that, it might be as simple as getting her to try touching herself and discovering what she likes so she can direct you in how to do it. It doesn't sound very romantic, but once you've done it you might not need much direction, and your sex life may improve dramatically. The only way for you to feel more stimulation from "normal" masturbation, handjobs, blowjobs and intercourse, is to stop masturbating the way you have been. Your p***s will re-sensitise itself and soon you will be able to feel more when masturbating in a "regular" fashion.

[Gummy Juice]

Fran Salaska

I think people have pinpointed what I was going to say. What you're doing doesn't simulate ANYTHING at all. You've become used to receiving pleasure that way, and that makes it very difficult for you to receive pleasure in any other fashion. To be honest, I'm the same. I'm female, and I've used extreme pressure from my hands on to my c**t since I was about three. I didn't know then it was masturbation, I just knew it felt nice and made me want to sleep. I haven't fully stopped masturbating this way, as it is the quickest and easiest way for me to come, although since getting a vibrator I don't use it a lot... but I had to stop doing it altogether to be able to feel anything when my boyfriend was fingering me.

I'd say your girlfriend's issues need looking at too, there may be a psychological reason as to why she feels no pleasure from anything. Other than that, it might be as simple as getting her to try touching herself and discovering what she likes so she can direct you in how to do it. It doesn't sound very romantic, but once you've done it you might not need much direction, and your sex life may improve dramatically. The only way for you to feel more stimulation from "normal" masturbation, handjobs, blowjobs and intercourse, is to stop masturbating the way you have been. Your p***s will re-sensitise itself and soon you will be able to feel more when masturbating in a "regular" fashion.

Thank you so much. I just got done reading what steps to take and step one is to go 7 days without trying to masturbate at all. Sounds like this is a 1-2 month processes so I hope all goes well.

[Sexual Innuendo]

Gummy Juice

I''m back. Thank you for those who have helped and posted.

I left Gaia last night to make a home made fleshlight. I used this guide http://img233.imageshack.us/img233/9767/makeavaginaoc2.jpg. It actually kept my p***s erect the whole time and felt kind of good. Seconds after I stopped using it I lost the erection though... I didn't like how loud the suction noise was but I'll rebuild it and see if I can make it better. After about 30 minutes of using it, I didn't ejaculate but I'm willing to try it again once my p***s, if it, ever regains sensitivity. sad

Last night I wanted to have an orgasm badly but I kept myself from doing it the bad way. After making that, I went on Healthystrokes.com to learn more about TMS. I guess the only hope I have really is to never masturbate the way I do anymore. After 12 years though, I think I killed it. crying I don't remember my p***s ever being sensitive when touching or stroking it.

My plan is to watch a lot of porn and keep trying to masturbate the normal way. Every time that fails I really need to orgasm, I just wont. Hopefully after some time I'll be cured and will have a better time in bed with my girlfriend.

Don't worry, it will work. My boyfriend masturbated TMS style from age 4-15 and his p***s was back to normal in about a week. However, you may take longer or shorter depending on how you naturally are.

But remember, you can NEVER go back to masturbating TMS style. It may sound like it sucks, but in the end, it will be worth it, because you'll be able to lead a normal sexual life.

[Gummy Juice]

Sexual Innuendo

Yeah, masturbating like that is extremely unhealthy for males. My boyfriend used to do that, and I couldn't get him to c**. He started masturbating normally, and his orgasmic ability skyrocketed ;D

Anyway, there's a name for it. It's called traumatic masturbatory syndrome (TMS). Here's a website about it http://www.healthystrokes.com/ . It tells you how to start masturbating normally again.

Sexual Innuendo

Don't worry, it will work. My boyfriend masturbated TMS style from age 4-15 and his p***s was back to normal in about a week. However, you may take longer or shorter depending on how you naturally are.

But remember, you can NEVER go back to masturbating TMS style. It may sound like it sucks, but in the end, it will be worth it, because you'll be able to lead a normal sexual life.

Thank you! You have been most helpful in providing me with both information and hope! ^o^

[patrick ephing bateman]

this is crazy! we had a talk about this in my health class last year!! i didn't even know that was an actual thing guys did until then and now it comes up...weird. anyway, the position the guy's in was called (i'm pretty sure, sorry if this is wrong) prone and it's super unhealthy because it means you can never be with a girl normally because that kind of pressure or sensation or whatever it is can't be replicated. i don't think we went over what to do about it but i'm sure if you google there are like...i don't know, support groups or something maybe.