Can't masturbate "normally" + Sex issues

[TattooJashin]

Sie Lieben

You should definitely check into some pills to help your ED.

I had a friend with the same prob and i agree with Sie Lieben ninja

[Nafrititi Kurishuna]

Gummy Juice

Just so people aren't all confused. I'm male with a female avi. Also, I'm 19

1) I'm sure most men masturbate and orgasm by going up and down the shaft with their hand(s)
The way I have always done it since I was 7 is by lying on my stomach and holding the corner of a soft blanket between my thing and the bed. Then I just move up and down with my pelvis while fantasizing until I c**. This method feels so intense with pleasure from start to finish, and I do it atleast once a day.

2) This method of masturbation is done with the "thing" is soft. After I c** though it ends up being semi-hard. I think that info is important because it might have something to do with my problems with my partner. It takes quite a bit to get me hard and when I finally am, it just dies very quickly. =( A lot of times it only gets semi-hard and not good enough to penetrate.

3) Anytime I try masturbating the way most males do, I don't feel a thing, Sure it might get hard, but I feel absolutely no pleasure. I also find it impossible for me to fantasize while doing this method. I don't know why. I've tried stroking it a few different ways, and even with KY-Jelly, but it never feels anything like it does when I'm lying on the bed thrusting my pelvis on the blanket.

I need to get the "normal" way to work for me because I think it would be a possible cure for my ED problem. At the same time though, I don't believe it could ever feel as great as my current method does.

Well, there's really no wrong way to masturbate. I mean, most people's meathods are simmilar but there's nothing that's really right ow wrong.
It's completely normal to get hard, soft, really ard, even harder, almost lose it, then get really hard before you orgasm. How much blood is in your p***s is determined by your level of arousal. It is possible that you're thinking too much about what you're doing.
You can have intercourse with a semi-erect penix. Use lube and get in a side by side position, like "scissors". Get her to push your p***s inside her by pushing the base first, the head naturally follows. At this point she'll need to clench and release her vaginal muscles, and you do the same with your PC muslces.
Focus on how it feels. Relax. If you concentrate too much on what you're supposed to be doing or how you think it's supposed to feel, you're not gonna make much progress

[lee rei]

well you're right the way you're masturbating is linked to causing erectile dysfunction,i found out when i was looking up ED,cause i seem to have it,well if you stop masturbating that way it should help a little,but if that doesn't help enough i suggest you maybe try a c**k ring and/or some ropex it's $90 for a 3 month supply

[SidertickSword]

Gummy Juice

Just so people aren't all confused. I'm male with a female avi. Also, I'm 19

1) I'm sure most men masturbate and orgasm by going up and down the shaft with their hand(s)
The way I have always done it since I was 7 is by lying on my stomach and holding the corner of a soft blanket between my thing and the bed. Then I just move up and down with my pelvis while fantasizing until I c**. This method feels so intense with pleasure from start to finish, and I do it atleast once a day.

2) This method of masturbation is done with the "thing" is soft. After I c** though it ends up being semi-hard. I think that info is important because it might have something to do with my problems with my partner. It takes quite a bit to get me hard and when I finally am, it just dies very quickly. =( A lot of times it only gets semi-hard and not good enough to penetrate.

3) Anytime I try masturbating the way most males do, I don't feel a thing, Sure it might get hard, but I feel absolutely no pleasure. I also find it impossible for me to fantasize while doing this method. I don't know why. I've tried stroking it a few different ways, and even with KY-Jelly, but it never feels anything like it does when I'm lying on the bed thrusting my pelvis on the blanket.

I need to get the "normal" way to work for me because I think it would be a possible cure for my ED problem. At the same time though, I don't believe it could ever feel as great as my current method does.

personally, i do the same thing.

and i do understand what your talking about, because it happens to me sometimes... like those days that i just cant get an erection...

and masurbating normally doesnt really feel good either... unless you lube your hands and repetedly stroke up the shaft, then you start to feel SOMETHING...

try getting as hard as you can in a warm shower, and then let the water run over it while imagining that its inside a nice, warm v****a. doing this seems to work for me, even getting it harder than it usually is when im not around my girlfriend.

[Trillium]

Talk to a professional about this, they may be able to help you out.

Have you explained the situation to your girlfriend? I think you should if you have not already done so. It might set both of your minds at ease, at least for the time being. She could be feeling just as inadequate as you are.

[FooFooWarrior]

Sexual gratification has a huge range of normal. I do not read an issue here.

[Sexual Innuendo]

Yeah, masturbating like that is extremely unhealthy for males. My boyfriend used to do that, and I couldn't get him to c**. He started masturbating normally, and his orgasmic ability skyrocketed ;D

Anyway, there's a name for it. It's called traumatic masturbatory syndrome (TMS). Here's a website about it http://www.healthystrokes.com/ . It tells you how to start masturbating normally again.

[Sexual Innuendo]

FooFooWarrior

Sexual gratification has a huge range of normal. I do not read an issue here.

Obviously it's a problem if he doesn't have a good sexual relationship with his partner because of this...

[Holy XChinaX]

Ive just read all of these messages and they are disturbing... so your all men

well you all fooled me SCREAMS* im trapped with Weird people from another world EEEK*

[Gummy Juice]

Trillium

Talk to a professional about this, they may be able to help you out.

Have you explained the situation to your girlfriend? I think you should if you have not already done so. It might set both of your minds at ease, at least for the time being. She could be feeling just as inadequate as you are.

I see a lot of helpful people posted after I went to bed. I'll quote and answer everyone starting with you.

My girlfriend does know about it because we've been trying to have sex for about 3 years and it always ends in failure. Well, it always ends with me masturbating using her leg while making out with her.

[Listening]

I would say experiment a lot and try to keep from your old method - if you get really needy it might be easier.

If nothing else works, see a doctor. I think it actually does sound quite weird that you can even ejaculate without getting an erection.

[Gummy Juice]

Syndactyly

You're 19 and you can't say p***s?

Anyway... Some guys masturbate like this. It IS weird that you can't enjoy jacking off at all and feel no pleasure from it. Does your p***s bother you? If you are uncomfortable with having a p***s, this could explain why you hump the bed like a girl. Sorry, someone had to say it. You've hump and squish on your soft p***s. How can you fantasize you're ******** someone when really you're dry humping a flaccid d**k?

It's time to introspect, and ask yourself WHY this is. I don't think you have ED, I think this is psychological.

I didn't say p***s in my original post because I was trying to use as clean language as I could. But after reading everyone elses comments I'll just talk normally.

A lot of times when I'm fantasizing I'm thinking about how a girl feels to have a huge c**k inside them, sucking one, or getting cummed inside or on. That could mean something though I wouldn't like to explain that to a professional. But I do also fantasize about having my p***s inside a warm, wet v****a and making a girl feel pleasure. Lol, The first one makes me sound gay yet I'm not attracted to males at all.

EDIT: Almost forgot. I'm not offended by you saying I hump the bed like a girl. I didn't really understand what you were talking about though. Girls hump the bed the same way I do? By doing that, what gives them pleasure?

[lee rei]

Gummy Juice

. Girls hump the bed the same way I do? By doing that, what gives them pleasure?

it rubs their c**t

[Gummy Juice]

Listening

I would say experiment a lot and try to keep from your old method - if you get really needy it might be easier.

If nothing else works, see a doctor. I think it actually does sound quite weird that you can even ejaculate without getting an erection.

Yes I don't think it is good at all. I can't even hump the blanket if my p***s is erect because it would just hurt alot. I think it does get semi-hard though right before I c**. Then once it's all out it goes soft after some seconds.

[Listening]

FooFooWarrior

Sexual gratification has a huge range of normal. I do not read an issue here.

He cannot have sex with his girlfriend, and you don't read an issue? D: