Kibbity_Kabbit2
legnanellaf5
Part of it is that you are ARE 19 and got so serious so fast that yes you will think it will never be better than him. Reality is though is that you can find better, and while you may think you will never love someone more than this guy, you only are 19 and barely have lived. I dont think that breaking off the engagement on its own means it is over, however you guys dont seem to be mentally prepared for what you wanted to do, and were playing house. You havent been together long enough to have an anniversary, yet you are living together, were engaged up until now, and there is something there that is making you feel like it isnt right.
Can you bounce back from this? Honestly I think it is unlikely. Going back from step before marriage to just dating is rough on its own, but your whole situation seems like a big mess. You dont explain why exactly you gave back the ring, but it must be more than levels of love if you have a lot of times where you are hurting.
One small correction: He is 19 & I am 22. I know that doesn't make a difference, but I feel I've had enough experience from my relationship before him. I was with my ex for 6 years & even felt he would be the one I'd marry, but I didn't. Soon afterward I fell in love again with the person I'm with now. I guess I was so ready to marry my ex or thought I was that I rushed into things with the next guy who proposed. Our 1 year anniversary is actually next month & now it feels awkward to even celebrate that. I would really like advice on how to feel comfortable with girlfriend status again & not advice on how to get over him. I'll ask for that when we actually break up, trust me.
Yeah I edited it after when I realized it was the other way around. However still, you are young and looking at your other posts, you are in a situation where you are dependent on him but he is dependent on his family. You live with him, not in a place you own but something his mother owns, and you arent able to be on your own right now anyways. Him being 19 explains his omg I felt that I needed to propose reasoning, but at the end of the day you were all playing house and acting like you would get married in 2 years when you dont even have the means to be on your own truly. You guys need to collectively step back and be a bit more realistic about your situation here.
I dont think you will be comfortable with the girlfriend status. The jump to proposal so early itself is a sign of issues in the realtionship, and the end of it so soon it also. These both need to be addressed, and it isnt about 'love' here that caused both actions to happen. There is something that happened in fights that affects you. There is a deeper reason why you dont think he actually loves you, there is a reason why he thought he had to rush it all, this isnt something you push back.