ForeverMace
legnanellaf5
ForeverMace
legnanellaf5
Never stay in a relationship becuse you think the person will do something 'bad'. That isnt a reason to stay and your feelings wont change. While you do love her, if you cant handle how she is, the best option is to end it, especially since you cant even be out as a couple. Turning 18 wouldnt have changed that because most people dont move out by that age anyways, and being an adult means little when you are still being paid for by your parent. If she had a place for you to go to, even still that isnt a smart decision for you to do freshly out of highschool with no experience in doing anything..so it would take longer than your 18th bday.
If it is done it is done, dont prolong the suffering.
How does one do that gently though?
There is no nice way to end a relatinship. The best you can do is to be person (letter isnt as personal as talking to her), be honest and be firm. Dont do any of the lets be friends, maybe in the future...kind of false hope things. That just makes the person think there is a chance. Dont go back on your word too, you have to be the one to make sure it is ended.
I know that, but I feel like if I see her again that I will crumble and not do it because she will cry and it will make me feel more terrible than I already do.
Yes she will cry, but she will cry no matter what you do. Since you already are in a relationship, you have to take responsibility OF being in one, which does include dealing with a break up. So, man the ******** up and stop avoiding things. At least face to face is nicer than a cold online response or something else.